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Posted: 13 years ago
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Thnks fr this nice Written Update.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Very interesting point of views from Naava and Vishwap .
Where I am disappointed with Archana, as a mother, is that she keeps putting others before her own kids..
She has been a very good mother to her adopted kids but her own children have suffered ...
Soham suffered because she put Varsha's needs ( only in the day of adoption she changed ) first ...
Then with Ovi and Teju , she put Manav before them and did not contact her girls for 18 years ...then even now , she is putting Shravani and Sachin before the girls ...When ovi asked her , she should have given her the real reason for asking for money ...she neither did it then , nor wil lshe answer Ovi now because pleasing Sachin is more important ...She clearly saw that the girls were in pain and felt unloved by her but she would rather have that then have Sachin and Shravani get angry with her ...
And most important of all...how can a woman continue to love the man who took her babies away from her like Manav did ..who ordered her to stay away from them and who filled them up with hate against their own mother ..
Her love for Manav makes her look like a bad mother ...
By now , if she loved her kids , she would have hated the very name Manav Deshmukh ,.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Thks for the update..😊

Savita has crossed all the limits now...can't believe, to take revenge frm Archana, she could stoop so low, that she made her dear grand daughters as her pawn
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Tanyaz

Very interesting point of views from Naava and Vishwap .

Where I am disappointed with Archana, as a mother, is that she keeps putting others before her own kids..
She has been a very good mother to her adopted kids but her own children have suffered ...
Soham suffered because she put Varsha's needs ( only in the day of adoption she changed ) first ...
Then with Ovi and Teju , she put Manav before them and did not contact her girls for 18 years ...then even now , she is putting Shravani and Sachin before the girls ...When ovi asked her , she should have given her the real reason for asking for money ...she neither did it then , nor wil lshe answer Ovi now because pleasing Sachin is more important ...She clearly saw that the girls were in pain and felt unloved by her but she would rather have that then have Sachin and Shravani get angry with her ...
And most important of all...how can a woman continue to love the man who took her babies away from her like Manav did ..who ordered her to stay away from them and who filled them up with hate against their own mother ..
Her love for Manav makes her look like a bad mother ...
By now , if she loved her kids , she would have hated the very name Manav Deshmukh ,.


Tanya, to answer your good post here i want to quote from our teachers. It is said that "he who shows compassion to the wicked or cruel (persons) will eventually become cruel to the compassionate." It simply means that allowing evil to continue without stopping it or confronting it, eventually causes cruelty to happen to the innocent people because the evil wasn't stopped. In other words one should not allow evil to prosper by having compassion for those who perpetrate it because that action causes innocents to suffer. From that standpoint it could be said that Archana, by having compassion for Savita, causes pain to be inflicted upon the innocent children. (and i would even include Manav as an innocent in that he is really like a child 😆 )

If you will accept this definition of Archana being a bad mother, i could agree - but only because she allows Savita to continue her evil not because she is a bad mother per se. Archana does not have evil in her own heart, she loves her children very much but has made some very very bad decisions. A different thing for me.
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: naava

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Tanya, to answer your good post here i want to quote from our teachers. It is said that "he who shows compassion to the wicked or cruel (persons) will eventually become cruel to the compassionate." It simply means that allowing evil to continue without stopping it or confronting it, eventually causes cruelty to happen to the innocent people because the evil wasn't stopped.

If you will accept this definition of Archana being a bad mother, i could agree - but only because she allows Savita to continue her evil not because she is a bad mother per se. Archana does not have evil in her own heart, she loves her children very much but has made some very very bad decisions. A different thing for me.

OK, fine ..We could look at it this way ..
But I do think that Archana's inability to stop evil ,her constant support to those who do evil deeds , her never complaining to Manav about whath his actions have made her go though ...all this is asign of a bad mother .. Mother has to be responsible yaar ..Mother has to take care of her child .Keep her safe and happy ..Archana could do neither for Ovi and Teju because she has priorities over them to take care of ...
Sachin's happiness and Shravani getting her husband is more important than giving the right answer to the girls which would help the girls more ...
Naava , it's just unbelievable that this woman keeps loving Manav ...when in real she should just hate him more than anyone else in tis world .
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Posted: 13 years ago
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Originally posted by: Tanyaz

OK, fine ..We could look at it this way ..

But I do think that Archana's inability to stop evil ,her constant support to those who do evil deeds , her never complaining to Manav about whath his actions have made her go though ...all this is asign of a bad mother .. Mother has to be responsible yaar ..Mother has to take care of her child .Heep her dafe and happy ..Archana could do neither for Ovi and Teju because she has priorities over them to take care of ...
Sachin's happiness and Shravani getting her husband is more important than giving the right answer to the girls which would help the girls more ...
Naava , it's just unbelievable that this woman keeps loving Manav ...when in real she should just hate him more than anyone else in tis world .


It's kind of like the chicken and the egg...which came first?

I agree a mother has to do all those things Tanya, but how could she keep Teju and Ovi safe when Manav told her she was never to have contact with the girls, when Savita brought her divorce papers, and made her sign permanent custody and never try to contact them?? I don't understand what she could have done? she was devastated. Maybe you and i would have refused to sign that custody over or agree, but we are stronger than Archana was at that point. And you and i would have broken the agreement in search for our children, but Archana believed eventually it was her fate. It wasn't because she didn't love them.

When Archana found out that Tej and Ovi were her daughters, her decision to not tell them wasn't because of Sachin or Shravani but because she overheard how much the girls had been taught to hate her and she was afraid of losing the tiny thread of attachment and love she unexpectedly found..that she felt was a gift from bappa. She was afraid of losing the girls again, a second time, she was afraid that they would never believe her heart but only what wrong things they had been taught to believe. And she was right. So her refusal to tell them was because of her love for them, not the opposite.

About loving Manav...i know ...it 's hard to understand why she does. Except that 😉 she has a stamp on her forehead Tanya..that was put there when she was born (or before) and it says...belongs to Manav Deshmukh..😉 😆





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Posted: 13 years ago
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I think Vandita and Purvi will collaborate to get a court order to make Teju and Ovi live in the chawl with Archana. Though they will initially think this is another one of the Karanjkar's chaal, they will see gradually witness the virtuousity of Archana and the obscenity of Savita with their own eyes. They will also see that Archana gives Manav the happiness that not even they can give him. 😊
Edited by nalonynnej - 13 years ago
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Posted: 13 years ago
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thanks for sharing

Savita you are a very ungrateful person i hope when all this falls down and they forgive their mother ... i hope you can handle the pain and the consequences and actions will be right there to hit you back a million times worst of what you had put on Archu for the last 18 or how much years after it has happen

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