shraddhu Manav is NOT wrong . AT ANY LEVEL regarding the money earning .
ALL his life he faced poverty . ALL his problems were financial . ALL is miseries were related to finances . ALL the humiliations and insults he suffered were due to his financial conditions only . His parents were told to leave functions coz his saas dear Sulo favoured the whims of RICHER samdhans like Bhavna.
Marraige to Archana brought him nothing but humiliation . Repeated humiliation . Her family always considered him the 'poor ' damad . The damad who was ok to have around as a handyman but did not really deserve any RESPECT as such .
There will be Archu fans who may bother to jump in at this point and tell me marraige to Manav brought Archana misery too ...to them I tell in advance , don't bother please . Coz I won't agree . Archana's misery was her own doing and Manav's misery was a result of marrying into THIS family called the Karanjkars . This is my firm opinion and no debate will change it .
The HEIGHT of Manav's suffering came on the night he lost his baby , totally emasculated by Archana's relatives . They laughed at his financial incapabilility . They pointed it out to him that his baby was dying coz he was financially weak .
The Doctor fyi gave the green signal to take Archana in the operation theater but the long wait had its toll . The baby could not be saved . The question ...WHO KNOWS what would have happened if she was taken in earlier , had Manav given the money on spot ...will always remain . It remained with Manav .
From the moment Manav understood Archana had conceived , he became the baby's father . Archana inspite of the conceiving did NOT become a mother in the true sense .
The loss of his baby made the father leave Archana to find a solution .
The loss of the baby made him decide to eradicate his poverty by working hard .
Neither does he have a university degree nor prospects . All he got was ONE CHANCE , as supervisor of a construction site , to make it big . And he grabbed it sensibly for once in his life .
Naturally he will have to work hard . VERY VERY HARD in fact . SO HARD that he does NOT lose this opportunity and DK's goodwill . If he doesn't do it , he is plain STUPID . And if his wife does not understand this simple fact , she is STUPIDER .
Go and ask the thousands of unemployed who stand in line begging for opportunities to work .
What hell is meant by MANAV TUM BADAL GAYE HO . MANAV YOU HAVE CHANGED .
So he should NOT CHANGE ? WHY ? Am puzzled . ALL around are changing ...the world is changing ...her stupid sisters CHANGE like chameleons every fifteen days ...she does not question them TUM BADAL GAYI HO ...and she questions this to her husband who went thru a life shattering experience regarding his babys death ?
So after watching his baby die he should NOT CHANGE is her expectation ? Huh ??? Why NOT ???should be the INCREDULOUS question asked to this strange woman .
So he should STAGNATE is her expectation ?
Coz simply saying I have TRUST in you , Tum BOHOT BOHOT KAAMYAB HOGE does not mean a thing . BOHOT BOHOT SUCCESFUL HONA requires a LOT OF YOUR TIME too . Manav is NOT an IT person ...a computer person who can work from home .
The ladder to success needs many CHANGES and MAny COMMITMENTS . HONORING those commitments is a sign of manliness . That EVERY woman desires to see in her husband .
Our husbands too come late and are engrossed in work . They provide us with EVERYTHING . We watch this hard work with PROUD EYES and tell our friends how BUSY they are . How they don't have time for trivial things and how WE manage the bulk at home as that onus is on US . At least I do . I must be a very silly woman then .
When a man slogs his butt off and rises from poverty to riches , it is called as PURUSHARTHA .
Just keeping a VRAT does NOT MAKE ONE A PATIVRATA . Understanding a husband in the true sense and supporting him by not laying unecessary guilt trips on him and constantly being dissatisfied with him for providing lesser romance is NOT very PATIVRATA LIKE .
As far as that VAT POURNIMA VRAT goes ...I have done it EVERY YEAR . One does NOT require a husband to break this fast like the KARWA CHAUTH VRAT that the Punjabis practise .Women catch trains and go to jobs on VVAT po*nIMA DAY as it is NOT A NATIONAL HOLIDAY .
So how can Manav come home as it is no NATIONAL HOLIDAY ?
If an employee goes home early , HE HAS TO BE RESPONSIBLE .
CEOs and heads of company often work the latest . Does Archana know this ?
Just tying threads around trees does not make one a husband devotee . UNDERSTANDING him in PROPER PERSPECTIVE does . Which Archana LACKS .
He made time to come to that stupid birthday party . For WHOM ? For Archanas sake as Sulo is HER mother , not HIS . He gave her mom a costly necklace ...he is SHARING his wealth with her ungrateful family . WHAT is she cribbing about ?
The way he looked at her as she slept proves he loves her .He expects her to understand his change . .EVERY MAN SHOULD .
Now its time for MANAV to expect something from Archana . He did enough for her and her slly family . Time for PAYBACK .
And she fails miserably .
She has allowed that Sukriti to influence her instead of being a woman and understanding where HE COMES FROM .
ALL that SUKRITI told her was BULL . Showing POOR PEOPLE and telling her that they are HAPPY and the RICH are SAD is a GROSS MISREPRESENTATION OF FACTS .
Poverty is the worst curse of human life . Manav lost his child due to poverty . Who told SUKRITI the GREAT that fighting for two square meals a day is HAPPINESS ? No one has time to romance on EMPTY STOMACH . Only Archana does as she has nothing in her upper storey . And for a brief time Manav did as he was influenced by her .
AAP AISE TO NAHI THE ? AAP AISE TOH NAHI THE ? are most bakwaas questions . TUM AISI KYU HO is what MANAV shud be asking her . PAGAL HO KYA shud be the add on .
What Archana needs is a LIFE of her own . Go , do some tutions , social work , job for timepass if not money . Do something instead of watching sisters whole day . GROW UP .
On job level I do not fault Manav . I will fault him only on one level ...giving child up to Varsha . That mystery is yet to be shown .
Edited by koolsadhu1000 - 14 years ago
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