Kool Comments : Dharmesh issue Edited note pg 15 - Page 11

kool don't leave the forum only because someone is goading you, it can be irritating, but don't give up.... your commentary is more fun than the actual episodes.... I've seen other people disagree with you, especially about the Savita case, but those were normal debates.... if this member had an axe to grind just let it be, don't know about the Pratigya forum, but in this forum your commentary is appreciated even when people disagree with you....⭐️

Originally posted by: koolsadhu1000

This member suddenly surfaced one day back , and started goading and goading me to reply to her posts .I had cheerfully ignored her and chosen to be mum .. .

Seeing that I was just not getting drawn into an argument this member pmed me and said I dont mean it personally etc , I merely differ on Dharmesh issue etc .

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I replied Ok , no probs , no offense taken , And I made this post as a reply , to explain my stand .

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Now it all came out . She is a friend of some Pratigya forum member who obviously hates my guts coz I refused to regard Dear Sainted Pratigya as a role model for women .The forum there was full of such fans who hated anyone who said a word againt Pratigya .

Then this member started slowly getting personal with me and other members . Fyi it reached a point where this member badmouthing me and vomited it all . You are TWO faced Kools , Ur PETTY , Ur EGOSTIc etc .

It was planned it seems . Wont be surprised if there is a group behind it coz this member keeps mentioning Pratigya and a group .

Maybe This coterie wants me simply to get tired and stop posting altogether ? Hence this attack so , I , a senior member , am SHAMED and I stop posting ? There r CONSTANT references to my popularity and advice to me NOT TO LET IT GO TO MY HEAD . Someone was ITCHING to do a IZZAT AARTI of me . This much I gathered by now .

I will NEVER believe a pm again . I was gullible and fell for it and invited this .

I leave it up to the members now to decide whether I should continue posting or simply stop it like this member and her friends wish me to . I am TIRED of these assaults ..This member has won .

One thing is sure . Pavitra Rishta Forum was the best and we NEVER EVER had this rubbish in our threads .Only Last week I celebrated ANNIVERSARY of Kools Commentary .........not for a single day did I encounter such nonsense ...........There were so many contrary opinions but So much respect .

Guys forgive me . I am TIRED . Just coz I critique nonsense done by Pratigya if People r gonna hound me like this , its not worth it . I shall quietly withdraw , U guys can carry on .

Originally posted by: simmy78

I so wanted to keep out of the discussions and remain the silent reader. But I am drawn to share something.

My best friend has an elder sister and both of them were raised by their single mom because the father died. They lived with their father's brother because the mom did not feel safe to raise girls alone in India. The uncle and his wife abused the girls and their mother on a daily basis but they kept quiet because of the Mom. The younger one (my friend) was the daring one and she fought every time the uncle abused but her options were limited too. So she also focussed on her education and took loans and came to the US. Now she has a steady job and an independent life. Now she supports her Mom, pampers her, brings her to the US and basically they have a gala time. She supports her uncle's family too. Slowly this is helping the Mom to become strong and stand up to uncle because she feels her own is there to support her now. But her sister just gave in to all the abuse and did not fight or focus on her self development. She is living a stable life too, but her marriage and her in laws and her life now, is not of her preference.

The younger one waited patiently and focused on her self development, took the money from the uncle to support her education, bore all the abuse but did not let her self development stop. So now she has a deep sense of self respect because the independence and freedom is giving wings to the self respect feelings.

The elder one did not want to take uncle's money because she was scared and did not want to upset him more (I know Vaishu's reasons are diff). But the bottom line is that she feels even more sad and helpless in life on a daily basis. She does not have courage to stand up to abuse done by in laws.

I know the Vaishali case is diff here. But life has certain moments where you have to gulp down your pride, do whats best for the present so the future can be what you want it to be. Closing down options impulsively sometimes has big costs. It had in my friend's sister's case.

Facing deep adversity myself and having met so many diff people over the course of my life, I have come to believe one thing - Our experiences govern our thinking and shape our choices. those you have seen the tough side of life end up thinking practically too along with only idealistically. Those who have been blessed to stay away from tough adversity (I am not talking about usual ups and downs) have the luxury of idealistic thinking alone.

In this case its not even a matter or self respect or idealistic view point. Its pure birthright of a child on both the parent's resources. Vaishu has a right on both her parents whether Manju likes it or not and her child has a right on Dharmu whether Vaishu likes it or not.

Ohh okkk....Can we relax on this issue now...getting personal in the thread would not be right...

kool,please do not stop writing because of a particular member..i had wandered onto the forum and got hooked because of ur commentary..and after having been on more thn one forum and leaving more thn one coz of the intolerance of few members,the PR forum was a pleasant surprise..the maturity of the members is fantastic..and on this thread there are many diff views on many diff characters and situations bt since the past 6 mnths or so tht i have been on this thread this kind of personal attacking,i had not seen..please do not take it to heart..all of us here have our own minds,are mostly adults here and know our own perspective and also tht everyone cannot agree..name-calling another member is,am sorry to say,juvenile..i hope the mods dnt take offense at this..due apologies if they did..

Originally posted by: *Resham*

Ohh okkk....Can we relax on this issue now...getting personal in the thread would not be right...

I would not like to close the topic..bt if frm here it goes out of hand I would be forced to do that...

Thanks

hmm .. i spilled coffee over my keyboard a few days ago .. and got blasted by my mom royally ( HOW MANY TIMES HAVE I TOLD YOU NOT TO DRINK COFFEE SITTING IN FRONT OF THE COMP !!!?? 😡 )

I spilled so much that when i lifted the kb , coffee leaked from underneath like rainfall lol...

We removed the kb cover screws , opened the kb , washed it with water , used a hair dryer to dry it , put the cover back ... and it worked ..
thank god ..

Originally posted by: bhallarox

I agree Kools. And no, in what you said in the commentary wasn't harsh at all. It's true.

I had said that I shall not post further on this topic.......however, my silence is being taken for granted......

I leave it up to the members now to decide whether I should continue posting or simply stop it like this member and her friends wish me to . I am TIRED of these assaults ..This member has won .

One thing is sure . Pavitra Rishta Forum was the best and we NEVER EVER had this rubbish in our threads .Only Last week I celebrated ANNIVERSARY of Kools Commentary .........not for a single day did I encounter such nonsense ...........There were so many contrary opinions but So much respect .

Guys forgive me . I am TIRED . Just coz I critique nonsense done by Pratigya if People r gonna hound me like this , its not worth it . I shall quietly withdraw , U guys can carry on .