Originally posted by: nikitagmc
Well Tanya Di, Manav has been shown foolish and not practical in many aspects, but where being a lover is concerned, I would say he is a
'practical lover'.
He is the type who loves and gives as much as he can in love, but he knows where he has to draw the line. Just like most people in the world today.
When he was introduced in the serial, then also he was the same. He never approached Archu since he knew she was way out of his league. He agreed to the marriage only when his Aai told that the K family knew everything about him.
Manav's decision to chose Shravani over Archu was a realistic decision in some ways. Bcos in real life, men rarely favour wife who has been for so little time over blood relations. Chahe kitna bhi pyar ho, first impulse of most men is to side by family, especially mother. Of course, good responsible men change their decision over time after weighing everything.
Even Salman khan bluntly said that he will always chose mother over love saying, "Ma ek hi hoti hai." 😆
So to me, Manav comes across as a person who loves Archana a lot, always wants the best for her, but knows that there is a line. Here the unborn children, his responsibilities, his need to keep the child in the family, Shravani's dishonor, Savita's grief and need for sachu and his own ethical dilemma of backtracking at a point when Shravani's abortion was risky were reasons enough for him. He compromised quietly.
when they met after the leap, he tried to keep distance from her, even though it was obvious he hadn't forgotten her- many a times he lost control of himself. But overall he tried to behave detached.
Even hours before his marriage, when he was trying to warn Archu about Jay, he did not break his marriage to Shravani and dump her at the altar- he knew she had waited 2 years for the marriage and it would be a sin. (BTW: That was the one moment when I felt proudest of him, cos he did not let his love for Archu become a weakness and make him do something unethical)
He loves, yes. But he does not let his love overtake life's realities, responsibilities and ethics. He weighs them all.
Most people do the same I feel. They will love a lot, but they know where to draw a line. They aren't those eternal lovers who say 'jeena marna saath mein till last breath' or who say to family, he is my love and I will do whatever he says. People want to be together, want to get married, love each other, but sometimes compromise when they know things are really not possible- parents are worried and not willing, kundalis not matching, career decisions are not similar-one wants to stay in india one wants to run abroad, matters of pre-marital sex (some feel it is wrong, some feel it is not) and so on.
So Manav comes across as a practical, realistic lover.
Archu on the other hand, once she realised that she loves him, went completely beserk in love. She did whatever he wanted to win him back. He said, "I have to divorce you for Shravani", she agreed and did not protest that even I'm your responsibility. she never tried to move on and she went out of her way to support him everytime.She took all abuse from Savita since she was his mom and she still does it. When he told that get married to Jay else I'll not marry Shravani, she agreed for his sake. She even defied her family members every time, even ran away from home to be with him. Today she is ready to sleep in the gutter for his sake. Even though in love stories it is a most adored quality, in real life, I personally would find it a little unbelievable.
So to sum it up, I would never say- one loves less, the other loves more. They just have different ways of thinking.
Niki:
whenever I read anything you write like this about Manav your soft spot for this character just shines through.😃🤗
howz your weekend going?
yesterday was all chores for me and today I just finished cooking chicken curry, tendli veg and sweet pullao
Hope
🤗
Arjun
