Kool's Commentary : Mar 19 PR - Page 20

but currently i feel pity for him .........his life isnt worth living . He shud be the one heading to the Dombivli suicide lake more than anyone else .

What to kill an already dead person ? And Manav is already dead .

If u notice I have been criticizing Archu more than Manav nowdays . Coz from Archu I had hope .She has definetely more strength than Manav . Manav has none .

But Manav has tremendous control over his emotions and dignity . He did not break down even once , even when Archu jumped in the lake , and say that I love u Archu , I wud not be able to live without you .

It is Archu who has lost dignity as a character .She did not tell herself in privacy that I love u Manav but keep a tight lip in front of him on SAkharpouda to Shravani day . She tells him I love u I love u till he shuts her up and puts him in an uncomfortable , embarassed position .

Also , he has STUCK to his word by Shravni , not once has he dilly dallied about it . Right or wrong is another issue .His strength in sticking to his commitment is admirable .

I wish Archna had more dignity .....the character lacks it .She is too self effacing .The way Manav took Vandus hand and got himself slapped somehow had dignity .The way Archu said Mar mujhe , ur grihasti will at least start , doesnt give me anu picture of dignity .I feel Manav's silence has more dignity than Archna's I cannot bear to see u with her Manav boo hoo ha haa thing . Even her sisters told her , just drop it , u cant have it both ways .....either fight for him or let him go with dignity . And that dignity .....she lacks . It isnt there in the self effacing way she takes the abuse , nor in the way she constantly weeps and doesnt lose a single opprtunity to tell Manav I love u still .

It is not so much about taking the abuse ..........i understand that sometimes abuse is unvoidable .Its the way she takes it , gobbling it up with serenity .It is so bloody self effacing .

as for archana...i like her still...i can never be like her...dont know of any gal that can emulate archana...taking all that abuse and crap....all i would say is that i hope after the one month..she moves on....she needs to forget manav....she needs to get a life...buttttttttt...that is just my hope and wish...

kool's i still think she did the right thing about that slap...and i still think that manav loves her very much...strange but true..

Not all have lucrative careers ....each one's situation is unique and diffrent in its own way ....that others may not be able to comprehend or understand .It is my firm belief in life today that unless one goes through the same circumstance himself , he or she cannot begin to understand it even . We r in foreign countries , some like u are all alone , some work part time , some work from home , some work on entirely diffrent projects while some r even sick . I know of at least two people who were sick...one had an immunity disoorder and hence wasnt permitted to go out , one .at Stanford had a daughter undergoing a liver transplant and she was only 8 months old .This woman sat with her laptop and talked on such forums while her daughter slept . She was fed up of talking on support group forums all the time and she was alone .....no one from India was by her side and all the so called friends in the US had dropped out coz transplant was a long process . She cudnt even leave her baby and go to have lunch so she had various bottles of pickles lined up on the shelf in her part of the hospital room which she ate with bread .

Point is , the people with whom she was chatting had no idea of her circumstances . The activity , although non intellectual and un meaningful , preserved her sanity . She was cheerful and smiled and got thru the day . So did I . Some even give up meaningful careers and take breaks due to problems . Socializing in western countries isnt easy if u dont have a nine to five job.Sometimes , the wish to socialize simply goes if the problems r far more serious .......like ones child is sick or he himself had an accident . So I dont assume for anyone here that he or she is whiling away time in meangingless debates coz for him or her that may be a life saver . Only the other day a friend told me that she was taking a vacation from an MBA and simply doing nothing to de stress herself .

If u ask me , I come here coz I like it , I do things that I like only nowdays . However silly they may seem , I simply go ahead and do them . Coz it gives my heart happiness , bas . I do it with the same happiness that prompts me to write a letter to a sick person from a social service program . Does this make me less intelligent , less meaningful , less important ? I dont know .All I know is I do it for myself and I feel good . One day , I may suddenly stop coming as sufddenly other things will crop up . Life is so uncertain .But till then , I do it coz I can do it right now and I like it !

Waiting for u to come back with your replies.......for me they r very meaningful as I read a very lovely mind in each of them .

OK ladies, I stand corrected. Or at least told off.

The idea was not to make anyone feel unimportant or unintelligent. Indeed, my whole point was that the intelligence spent here could be more productively focused elsewhere. I'd definitely have said what I did to my own younger sister too.

But you each have to do what allows you to be at peace with the world, and so more power to you whichever way you find that peace.

Truce?

😊

C