Samarth
I agree with u . The dyfunctional relationship between SAvita and Damodar is far more complicated than meets the eye .
It is the chicken or egg first question . Did Damodar's slip phase in his acting career lead to his drinking and the loss of income ............that changed Savita to the harsh gutter fighter that she became for sheer survival of her 3 children ? If he escaped in his drinks , the full onus perhaps rested on her alone and she clawed her way to the surface instead of drowning .
There is another angle for it too . Basic nature never changes so Savita must have been this way only ...........the only thing being Damodar must have been able to bear it first as he had his succesful acting career . When failure struck , he didnt have it to escape to , so he started drinking . Her nature worsened with the circumstances as she resorted to gutter fighting for survival .
She wasnt alone though , Kakas support was somewhat there ,, always . I prefer to choose this explanation above the former as I strongly believe the fundamental nature doesnt change till a person dies .
Still , she got a raw deal in life . And Manav being the eldest noticed her struggle and hence the sympathy factor . He himself worked since 16 and knew the struggle . It is a common bond they share ...........the knowledge of that struggle .
Lovely , lovely perspective . Mothers can be of diffrent kinds , not necessarily in the same mould of Bhavna and Sulochna . I note often how Rassika is a mother too . Undoubtedlly she loves Manju , although her ideas of love r not typical . She doesnt believe in teaching her daughter to be submissive , caving in , neither does she believe in teaching her daughter to put in laws before her blood family . She believes in looking after Manjus interests , not everyone else's as they r frankly never ending . Rasika frankly believes in one policy in life ........Either you be happy or the world will be happy and she doesnt hesitate to teach her daughter to choose the You be happy option . These r difffrent forms of the mother and each lesson they individually teach is extremely valuable .
The commonality is all of them r animals [ for mothers r animals ] who protect their young in the best possible way they think they know .