I have always said that HS should have apologized to her on his own for his words (perhaps not the reason behind them), due to his own principles, regardless of whether Babita demanded it or not. It was not ok to say those things to her, he could have found a better way to achieve the same result. Fine, maybe he was in distress so couldn't think straight but after the matter on the court case was sorted out, nothing prevented him from apologizing. I also think she was right to be offended enough to leave for the sake of her self-respect but the message she gave was that she was leaving him/the house in his time of need because she put her self-respect above him then.
He has seen what a good marriage looks like and what total surrender in a relationship is about, what letting go and overlooking the other person's mistakes is about. He told NB that aise na hota prem ka rishta, because he has a point of reference. Babita has not experienced or seen such a thing and the fairytale image she has of a perfect marriage and the expectations that come with it is not necessarily something HS expects or looks for. The mistake both are making is assuming the other person will react or think the same way they do about situations and words.
This is why I have been saying this whole wedding is rushed, it's too soon. They should have taken the time to evaluate whether or not they want to spend their lives with each other, whether they are a good fit for each other or not. Proposal without sorting out underlying issues was the main problem here. She rushed and he did too. Babita is still not ready, and I've said this for ages, and neither should HS or anyone else, including Babita herself, expect her to be this soon. She hasn't moved on from her past completely. Whether or not she was partly or fully to blame in her past marriage is a different matter. It will take time. A few months cannot erase 17 years.
Society puts pressure on people to get married the first time round, and in many ways the second time round too without trying to understand that it can be harder and more complicated. "They love each other so they must get married soon." Why must it be that way? I also think the PH was trying to highlight this but it hasn't come out correctly for some reason.
HS' reaction and chat with Lala was not about discovering her ego issues or insecurities or anything like that. He had always known she had them but I am starting to wonder if he has now become insecure that no matter how much he loves her and tries to protect their relationship she could leave him because of these issues. He cannot even bear to imagine that he might lose her one day and is feeling this way because he thinks it is inevitable even though that might never actually happen. After the whole Imarti track there was no introspection shown to us on his part or on Babita's as to how they both felt about it, and it was swept under the rug as usual. They don't know explicitly where they stand in each other's lives and all the underlying issues have yet to be handled and communicated about. As I said other posts, HS should not do this to himself. If he is feeling this way he should either back off or resolve the issues before marrying her. In either case, he needs to have a discussion about it with the person who it affects and not just Lala or NB.
The fact that the PH are having to justify their stance on social media shows that they missed the mark with those scenes.
Edited by inlieu - 6 years ago
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