Babita is Justified - Page 3

Originally posted by: princessonline

Yes! I agree with you more than 100%. Those are my thoughts exactly. As a woman, I stand by Babita. I love Hanuman, but that doesn’t mean I’ll justify what he said. It was wrong and an apology is necessary. He could’ve chosen to be honest...told her he didn’t want to drag her in this mess instead of saying what he said to her. I would react the same way as Babita. You don’t get to make decisions for me. She’s not a child. She could’ve chosen if she wanted to stick around or walk away had he just been upfront about it.

Yes absolutely or he could have hurt her in some other way ...like just ignore her or show her that he is not interested...she would not have come back for sure ...

Originally posted by: sheeluneelu

Completely agree with you but now don't want to comment.. Cvs ki tarah hum bhi uss incident ko bhoolne lage h ab.. Ek apology tak nhi this is not right...

Yes as once ye shaadi hogi track hi change hoga ...watever m seeing now the incident is just being ignored by HS and everyone else....shud not be the case ...just close it properly and take it ahead from there ...

Originally posted by: inlieu

I agree. As I have said elsewhere, he should apologize for the sake of decency and not to have her in his life or whatever per se. If she still wants to leave, that's up to her but he should do his own bit because of his own principles of respecting women. This is about him not about her.

His words were very harsh, he couldn't control his pain and was trying to protect her. He had even told Minnie that he was afraid that being a man in uniform he might say something to Babita that upset her. He has always remained respectful but this instance he couldn't handle things and did what he thought was right.

As for Babita, 'nuff said. She could have left the house after this whole thing with Imarti was sorted out because of her dignity, that's totally her call. But she left when he needed support because she was putting her pride over him at that very moment, whereas he had always put her needs above his. This incident has proved that Babita has not let go of her past and the associated emotional baggage either.

She saw her daughter being adamant to stay with HS during this time, not because of ehsaan but because she loves her father, and now she made the decision for Minnie, knowing that her daughter would go with her. This is going to hurt both father-daughter a LOT when they've just found each other after all the trials and tribulations.

HS still loves Minnie much more than he loves Babita and I am sure he always will. Why strip him of his daughter's love which has filled his life with sunshine after all these years? Let Minnie choose what she want to do. Just because he can't exert his paternal rights over Minnie (in fact, even if he could he wouldn't so as not to hurt Babita) doesn't mean she ignores his emotions for their daughter. Was she not paying attention during the hospital incidents? This is the bit that angers me the most. Jaana hai to jaaye, Minnie kyon suffer karey beech mein?

@bold yes this is what is most annoying to me. This looks as if she is getting back and taking revenge because she has more parental rights over mini. And looking at babita i can never see tht she will be able to parent mini properly. It will be mini always who will have to be the mature one and adjust

i dont even think she needs to move out to respect her dignity. she can just not accept hanuman as a life partner ever if she wants and continue living there. Or just move to naem bi's house in front. That way mini too is deprived of hanuman and vice versa. Babita has found other relations too here who have helped her. Moving mini & herself from these relations is not a sensible thing to do.

Originally posted by: naq5

@bold yes this is what is most annoying to me. This looks as if she is getting back and taking revenge because she has more parental rights over mini. And looking at babita i can never see tht she will be able to parent mini properly. It will be mini always who will have to be the mature one and adjust

i dont even think she needs to move out to respect her dignity. she can just not accept hanuman as a life partner ever if she wants and continue living there. Or just move to naem bi's house in front. That way mini too is deprived of hanuman and vice versa. Babita has found other relations too here who have helped her. Moving mini & herself from these relations is not a sensible thing to do.

In yesterday's episode, the way she tried to be level-headed and support her mom, even though from her eyes and tone of voice it was clear that she did not agree to it and that she was so upset about the decision, made me feel really bad for her. Hasn't she been through enough?

I can't forget her crying when Ashok left. Yes, he was terrible, but on that day she really lost a father or any hopes of having one. Now that HS has more than taken up that spot, can Babita not think about the happiness of the daughter who has always fought for hers?

Originally posted by: inlieu

In yesterday's episode, the way she tried to be level-headed and support her mom, even though from her eyes and tone of voice it was clear that she did not agree to it and that she was so upset about the decision, made me feel really bad for her. Hasn't she been through enough?

I can't forget her crying when Ashok left. Yes, he was terrible, but on that day she really lost a father or any hopes of having one. Now that HS has more than taken up that spot, can Babita not think about the happiness of the daughter who has always fought for hers?

So the “self respect” that babita weren’t too concerned about over the last 17 years is now more important than her own daughter? I really wish they’d show her as growing a spine and not being so all over the place. Time and time again she puts herself before mini even Tho mini puts her first in everything. Who’s the daughter and who’s the mother here? Even after hearing her daughter say she finally feels like she has a family, babita is more concerned about hs insulting her??? I get her anger and her anger is somewhat justified, however her anger does not come first, even before her daughters needs. This isn’t what a good parent does. If she’s so in love with him like she was saying just before the whole imarti episodes why is she so unwilling to forgive. Isn’t this what love is all about? How can u claim to love someone but hold a grudge and punish your daughter in the first place. I know that she eventually changes her mind and they get married but I really hate how they constantly show her as being so over the top dramatic and selfish. Where was this selfishness when ashok dropped her like a hot potato, that now she can even put her own needs before mini?? The poor girl finally has some stability but they don’t even show her considering this. I feel so bad for mini and the sacrifices she constantly has to make because her mother is incapable of being sensible or practical.

Yes, I’m bias towards hs (btw I do believe he was wrong to say what he did) but that’s what’s meant to happen when u “love” someone. As he said the other day, she’s also insulted him but he’s never taken it personally and whenever she did insult him he always thought that she’s doing it because she’s going through something.

I can totally get her wanting to punish him for what he said, but not when she’s also punishing her own daughter. I just don’t understand the character of babita sometimes.

Originally posted by: deefy89

So the “self respect” that babita weren’t too concerned about over the last 17 years is now more important than her own daughter? I really wish they’d show her as growing a spine and not being so all over the place. Time and time again she puts herself before mini even Tho mini puts her first in everything. Who’s the daughter and who’s the mother here? Even after hearing her daughter say she finally feels like she has a family, babita is more concerned about hs insulting her??? I get her anger and her anger is somewhat justified, however her anger does not come first, even before her daughters needs. This isn’t what a good parent does. If she’s so in love with him like she was saying just before the whole imarti episodes why is she so unwilling to forgive. Isn’t this what love is all about? How can u claim to love someone but hold a grudge and punish your daughter in the first place. I know that she eventually changes her mind and they get married but I really hate how they constantly show her as being so over the top dramatic and selfish. Where was this selfishness when ashok dropped her like a hot potato, that now she can even put her own needs before mini?? The poor girl finally has some stability but they don’t even show her considering this. I feel so bad for mini and the sacrifices she constantly has to make because her mother is incapable of being sensible or practical.

Yes, I’m bias towards hs (btw I do believe he was wrong to say what he did) but that’s what’s meant to happen when u “love” someone. As he said the other day, she’s also insulted him but he’s never taken it personally and whenever she did insult him he always thought that she’s doing it because she’s going through something.

I can totally get her wanting to punish him for what he said, but not when she’s also punishing her own daughter. I just don’t understand the character of babita sometimes.

Pls Ashok rejecting her does not mean she is bad..it means he is mad....think saying Ashok dropped her like a hot potato is insulting her or those who are divorced...as they are divorced for no fault of their’s ...pls do not misunderstand ...just felt so hence commented....also u r right abt person forgiving in love...but here the context was different...it was more to do with wat HS said...not abt y he got angry ...that wud have been perfectly fine ...I feel Babita has not kept herself above her daughter...I think she lives for her....even here she has not moved away...it is just a thought that has crossed her mind but in every scene it is evident that she is in a fix...she cares for her daughter but is confused aswell...and she also has the right to think abt herself not that she will keep herself above MINI....but does she not deserve true love and happiness ...finally that decision will impact both of them and her the most...she might not want to take a wrong decision agn....and I feel Mini might forget this entire thing in some time but if Babita takes a wrong decision she wud not be able to come out this time...so she is just rethinking ....again she has not said No to HS...infact now it is clear that she never wanted to say No... it was just the situation...once if v think from her perspective ...completely her’s v might agree to her behaviour ...and I feel if ever she has to choose something bet her and her daughter’s happiness it will always be her daughter’s happiness...

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

Pls Ashok rejecting her does not mean she is bad..it means he is mad....think saying Ashok dropped her like a hot potato is insulting her or those who are divorced...as they are divorced for no fault of their’s ...pls do not misunderstand ...just felt so hence commented....also u r right abt person forgiving in love...but here the context was different...it was more to do with wat HS said...not abt y he got angry ...that wud have been perfectly fine ...I feel Babita has not kept herself above her daughter...I think she lives for her....even here she has not moved away...it is just a thought that has crossed her mind but in every scene it is evident that she is in a fix...she cares for her daughter but is confused aswell...and she also has the right to think abt herself not that she will keep herself above MINI....but does she not deserve true love and happiness ...finally that decision will impact both of them and her the most...she might not want to take a wrong decision agn....and I feel Mini might forget this entire thing in some time but if Babita takes a wrong decision she wud not be able to come out this time...so she is just rethinking ....again she has not said No to HS...infact now it is clear that she never wanted to say No... it was just the situation...once if v think from her perspective ...completely her’s v might agree to her behaviour ...and I feel if ever she has to choose something bet her and her daughter’s happiness it will always be her daughter’s happiness...

I didn’t say she’s bad I said where was her self respect then? Yes he did drop her like a hot potato by leaving her and moving to London a few months after marrying her and not taking her with him, add to that barely visiting and when he did visit ignoring her. If she had this self respect she keeps claiming to have, she would have never been happy by getting married to be her in laws carer. Let’s not forget she barely saw him in 17 years and for most of those 17 years he was with meets. How is this insulting all ppl who are divorced when ppl get divorced for different reasons. I am speaking specifically of babitas situation not all ppl who have been divorced.

I DO think she puts herself first over mini a lot eg, creating a fantasy image of ashok instead of speaking the truth and as a result when she did find out the truth it affected her badly, secondly not worrying about minis education in accepting alimony because of her “self respect”. I also think her style of parenting is questionable and often non existent. For me, emotional blackmail for eg is wrong.

The second point I tried making was that although they’re showing the emancipation of babita (which I totally love) it is really inconsistent.

Think we should just agree to disagree 😊

Originally posted by: deefy89

I didn’t say she’s bad I said where was her self respect then? Yes he did drop her like a hot potato by leaving her and moving to London a few months after marrying her and not taking her with him, add to that barely visiting and when he did visit ignoring her. If she had this self respect she keeps claiming to have, she would have never been happy by getting married to be her in laws carer. Let’s not forget she barely saw him in 17 years and for most of those 17 years he was with meets. How is this insulting all ppl who are divorced when ppl get divorced for different reasons. I am speaking specifically of babitas situation not all ppl who have been divorced.

I DO think she puts herself first over mini a lot eg, creating a fantasy image of ashok instead of speaking the truth and as a result when she did find out the truth it affected her badly, secondly not worrying about minis education in accepting alimony because of her “self respect”. I also think her style of parenting is questionable and often non existent. For me, emotional blackmail for eg is wrong.

The second point I tried making was that although they’re showing the emancipation of babita (which I totally love) it is really inconsistent.

Think we should just agree to disagree 😊

But I think she was the very Caring very giving Babita earlier who has evolved with time....have seen few ladies whose husbands work abroad...though v might not like that as long as they are ok that becomes a separate topic....so this is preference based...but the way Babita was earlier do not feel she ever had the courage to oppose Evn if she was not happy abt the same....with time she has evolved....when divorce case happened the way Ashok treated her she had to take the decision she did..yes mayb considering her situation she shud have taken the alimony but agn debatable after wat Ashok did to her....but both mother daughter thought alike then...yet practically she could have taken alimony but agn her deciding to be independent was not a bad decision....slowly with time she started understanding and acknowledging her own feelings ....but her nature is surely giving and caring more for others thus earlier on she did not accept her feelings aswell.....however because a person in the past was naive thinking she should do the same always is not right....evn here she is in a fix and anyways now she has accepted HS...but yes v can agree to disagree 😀

Just saw yesterday’s episode....Finally Babita proved that she keeps others above her own self...she proposed to HS 😀