Babita is Justified - Page 2

This topic has been raised multiple times, and I too have given my opinion all the time. So, here I go again. I don't think, anyone is 'wrong' here. Though, I may have said it before that Babita is wrong, but not completely. She is right, when we think about the circumstances she has faced. Being betrayed again, is something that she doesn't want to face again. She was already broken, she did not want another man to break her. But, when we think from HS's point of view, no denying, but he/we feel/s that she reacts a lot. Again, to compensate all that he hid all these years he removes it on Babita. So, his case is nothing , but bottled emotions and hers is explosive emotions. And considering the fact what Babita has faced in her life, I would not give the final verdict or label her wrong. But, maybe since many of us are blinded by the love for HS, we dont realise the other side of the coin. It's up to us to decide who is wrong and who is right. According to me though, none is wrong....😃

Yea she is angry and its do with her past with Ashok and childhood as well with her angry issues and maybe no one understood her.

But not forget that she has said many mean things to him as well and never apologised and when he says 1 thing to her and suddenly the woman in her is wrong and yes he should have chosen better words to keep her away but the situation was like a dam and flooded him with emotions and she said it and the rest followed.

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

I have raised this multiple times before...so will not put all again..but for me Babita is completely right...as a woman I stand by someone who takes offence to what was said...everything can’t b taken casually wat ever b the background of y it was said...just a little confused y the entire episode is being conveniently ignored and only HS is shown as a hero...now the love story is being taken forward which is good but why is that episode being given least importance...neither have they shown HS apologising neither has he been shown regretting wat he said...he is as he was ...back to normal...and even the story is back to normal ....on top of that everyone from Naeem Bee to Poonam tell Babita that she has ego (Naeem bee said that not Poonam) but both felt she is making a mountain of a mole..that she should forgive him or rather just forget the incident since it is not so big ...don’t agree...the incident is big and impact still bigger...the next part should start only after closing this chapter...as that states that watever v go thru v Have to be cautious of wat v speak or do...can’t cross our limit ....and if v have done that atleast v shud have the decency to feel sorry and apologise...unfortunately many here are for HS and are just ignoring wat he has said or do not feel he was wrong...they feel Babita is raising the issue little too much and it is ok if HS said something once...wat I don understand is whether it is once or not how does that justify wat he said....v all want them to get married ...just feel that before that wud b gud if they show HS feel sorry and say sorry genuinely...don’t know if that will happen though...

Completely agree with you but now don't want to comment.. Cvs ki tarah hum bhi uss incident ko bhoolne lage h ab.. Ek apology tak nhi this is not right...

Originally posted by: princessonline

She never explicitly told him to back off or hurt him where it hurts most. He specifically told her she should stop focusing on a stranger man and focus on her daughter. I would walk away. She supported him. Translated the letter for Imarti’s dad. She supported him then. Doesn’t mean she’s going to run back to him for a second chance at love.

Well we are different in the way we perceive and react to things that's all.

I maintain that I wouldn''t have walked away.

Minnie also had every right by that logic to walk away and get pissed off for life but she didn't.

Different strokes different reactions.

Babita has too much baggage, because she chooses to hang on to too much baggage. No need according to me considering that her relationship with Ashok was a non-relationship at best. And she does have a huge ego. He doesn't. She has hurt him too many times and never apologized. He never gave it any importance either because he put himself in her shoes and understood and never let his ego interfere with his reactions..

Not only Naeem Bi but Minnie also spoke of her ego by the way. So did HS.

Anyway I have spoken enough on this and I am getting sick of it.

And he surely will apologize in words because that's what all of you want.

He already has by way of deeds but I guess that is not enough for you all.

As for babita she has only given him mixed signals, blow hot blow cold. And she is extremely rigid and imposes her decisions on everyone. I fail to understand how someone can fixate on just one stray incident and choose to ignore everything that happened before and not understand that that one stray incident was out of character and hence needed more careful and deeper understanding.

She just doesn;t know or understand the guy that's it whereas he understands her through and through.

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

And he surely will apologize in words because that's what all of you want.

He already has by way of deeds but I guess that is not enough for you all.

As for babita she has only given him mixed signals, blow hot blow cold. And she is extremely rigid and imposes her decisions on everyone. I fail to understand how someone can fixate on just one stray incident and choose to ignore everything that happened before and not understand that that one stray incident was out of character and hence needed more careful and deeper understanding.

She just doesn;t know or understand the guy that's it whereas he understands her through and through.

After the harshword i disliked hs character

Originally posted by: Jiarao

I second that. And I am not blinded by my love for HS. I am more pissed at her imposing decisions on Minnie. She might be right as a woman but not as a mother. Her behaviour as a mother is beyond any justification. And yes HS has to apologize not for Babitha but for himself. Otherwise it will remain as a black spot in his otherwise spotless dignity and honour.

I agree. As I have said elsewhere, he should apologize for the sake of decency and not to have her in his life or whatever per se. If she still wants to leave, that's up to her but he should do his own bit because of his own principles of respecting women. This is about him not about her.

His words were very harsh, he couldn't control his pain and was trying to protect her. He had even told Minnie that he was afraid that being a man in uniform he might say something to Babita that upset her. He has always remained respectful but this instance he couldn't handle things and did what he thought was right.

As for Babita, 'nuff said. She could have left the house after this whole thing with Imarti was sorted out because of her dignity, that's totally her call. But she left when he needed support because she was putting her pride over him at that very moment, whereas he had always put her needs above his. This incident has proved that Babita has not let go of her past and the associated emotional baggage either.

She saw her daughter being adamant to stay with HS during this time, not because of ehsaan but because she loves her father, and now she made the decision for Minnie, knowing that her daughter would go with her. This is going to hurt both father-daughter a LOT when they've just found each other after all the trials and tribulations.

HS still loves Minnie much more than he loves Babita and I am sure he always will. Why strip him of his daughter's love which has filled his life with sunshine after all these years? Let Minnie choose what she want to do. Just because he can't exert his paternal rights over Minnie (in fact, even if he could he wouldn't so as not to hurt Babita) doesn't mean she ignores his emotions for their daughter. Was she not paying attention during the hospital incidents? This is the bit that angers me the most. Jaana hai to jaaye, Minnie kyon suffer karey beech mein?

Originally posted by: princessonline

I don’t think so. Of course we know more. We’re witnessing this from afar whereas she’s in the middle of all this. We get to see what Hanuman is thinking. What he’s saying to others. She doesn’t. Of course she can sit there and justify and tell herself “he’s not like this. He’s a good man.” But beyond that, she doesn’t know what we know.

She doesn’t think he’s a bad man. She’s not discrediting what he’s done for them. She’s not going to continue to hope and dream she’ll end up with him or there’s something there when he’s told her to back off. When feelings are involved, logic goes out the window. She needs validation. Hanuman should have clarified and explained why he said what he said. He’s also been going around saying he’s better off alone.

She’s not being egoistical or dumb. She’s protecting herself from a heartbreak. She’s made assumptions before with Ashok. She’s going to try to protect her heart this time.

Well Babita knows why hanuman told her those hurtful things because he dint want her to get involved in court case. Naem bi has already told her that

The point is a womans self respect and all is fine, but then hanuman also has self respect. babita has told him many worse things including that he is gifting mini things to get closer to her. Hanuman dint ask her to move out then. She can according to her self respect not decide to accept hanuman in her life as life partner, but moving out to another house i dont understand. The could have continued living like tenant-owner like before. babita has forgotten that hanuman is minis father too now and she has a right to decide too where she wants to live. This looks like she is trying to get back to him and taking revenge by moving out and taking mini with her because as she knows hanuman has grown attached to mini. I most of the time dont like the way she disregards Mini. Weather it was forcibly asking her to return jewellery , slapping her because of ashok or now deciding to shift without taking her views into consideration.

Originally posted by: Nature-Happiness

This topic has been raised multiple times, and I too have given my opinion all the time. So, here I go again. I don't think, anyone is 'wrong' here. Though, I may have said it before that Babita is wrong, but not completely. She is right, when we think about the circumstances she has faced. Being betrayed again, is something that she doesn't want to face again. She was already broken, she did not want another man to break her. But, when we think from HS's point of view, no denying, but he/we feel/s that she reacts a lot. Again, to compensate all that he hid all these years he removes it on Babita. So, his case is nothing , but bottled emotions and hers is explosive emotions. And considering the fact what Babita has faced in her life, I would not give the final verdict or label her wrong. But, maybe since many of us are blinded by the love for HS, we dont realise the other side of the coin. It's up to us to decide who is wrong and who is right. According to me though, none is wrong....😃

Yes 😀 when we really love someone we actually do not see the bad side...and yes no one is wrong or right ...it is just a view point...agree to that.

Actually him getting angry is perfectly fine, he is a human being and bound to have emotions...it was only abt the words he used...most of us will get offended if someone says that to us and if that person is someone u love fir to ghav gehra hoga