Babita is Justified

I’m a silent reader on this forum. I usually read through things, but rarely comment. I felt a strong urge to post about this, so here I am.

I feel Babita’s stance and anger is justified. I know a lot of people believe she’s being egotistical, but let’s put ourselves in her shoes. Hanuman did say some really bitter things to her. His intention was to protect, but, nevertheless, his words were harsh.

I know for a fact that I would’ve reacted the same way Babita did. She let a man walk all over her once. Shes not going to do that again. She’s got her walls up now, but she was willing to give Hanuman a chance, but then he said all these things to her, and she backed off. We’d all do the same thing.

After you’ve been with someone for a while and you’ve formed a level of faith and trust in each other, something like this would not have mattered so much. That’s not the case here. She doesn’t know what she means to him. She doesn’t know how he feels. Situations like this create a lot of uncertainty and trigger our insecurities. We’re all human. We’re not going to put ourselves out there to get hurt. To some extent, even Hanuman’s guilty of that. He doesn’t want to be the person to make the first move.

All in all, I don’t think what Babita is doing is unjustified. I would’ve done the same thing. She doesn’t know what we know. She doesn’t know why Hanuman said what he did. Plus, he’s been going on and on about how much he loves Imarti, and how Babita has to accept him with the love he has for her. Though, I understand that Imarti is an important part of his life, none of us would like/feel comfortable with our significant other saying all that. Of course, it’s understandable. But does it feel good? No. When you’re just falling for someone, you want them to put you first. You want them to care for you more than anyone else. You want to be the most important person in their life. You want to be treated different from everyone else. It’s natural. When Hanuman said what he said, he took that specialness away from Babita, which is why she’s doing what she’s doing. I would do the same thing.

What do you guys thinks? Love to hear from you all.

Riya

that particular remark was hurtful & had the capacity to crush hopes .

but after that somewhere i felt cvs failed in justifying babita , as a viewer we r watching all of them & know the insides of all of them better than them in the story .

also in the whole it was hanuman & minni who had much to do , & they nailed it , this whole dynamic really touched the hearts .

I am so glad you mentioned the most important thing here. The cvs failed to justify her stance. Until now I have been so happy that they stuck to her stance. But by calling it ego instead in the last several episodes by several people in the series, they took the crux out.

I don’t think she regrets meeting him or thinks he is not a nice person. But like ‘princessonline’ has mentioned her guards are up. She doesn’t trust him because he shows interest one time and pushes her away the next.

I get fear, but not ego.

Plus you are right, as much as both have a past it is hard to be all loving when the person of your interest is constantly stating that his first wife is everything to him.

So her stance was right. Thanks for reiterating this again here.

Originally posted by: princessonline

I’m a silent reader on this forum. I usually read through things, but rarely comment. I felt a strong urge to post about this, so here I am.

I feel Babita’s stance and anger is justified. I know a lot of people believe she’s being egotistical, but let’s put ourselves in her shoes. Hanuman did say some really bitter things to her. His intention was to protect, but, nevertheless, his words were harsh.

I know for a fact that I would’ve reacted the same way Babita did. She let a man walk all over her once. Shes not going to do that again. She’s got her walls up now, but she was willing to give Hanuman a chance, but then he said all these things to her, and she backed off. We’d all do the same thing.

After you’ve been with someone for a while and you’ve formed a level of faith and trust in each other, something like this would not have mattered so much. That’s not the case here. She doesn’t know what she means to him. She doesn’t know how he feels. Situations like this create a lot of uncertainty and trigger our insecurities. We’re all human. We’re not going to put ourselves out there to get hurt. To some extent, even Hanuman’s guilty of that. He doesn’t want to be the person to make the first move.

All in all, I don’t think what Babita is doing is unjustified. I would’ve done the same thing. She doesn’t know what we know. She doesn’t know why Hanuman said what he did. Plus, he’s been going on and on about how much he loves Imarti, and how Babita has to accept him with the love he has for her. Though, I understand that Imarti is an important part of his life, none of us would like/feel comfortable with our significant other saying all that. Of course, it’s understandable. But does it feel good? No. When you’re just falling for someone, you want them to put you first. You want them to care for you more than anyone else. You want to be the most important person in their life. You want to be treated different from everyone else. It’s natural. When Hanuman said what he said, he took that specialness away from Babita, which is why she’s doing what she’s doing. I would do the same thing.

What do you guys thinks? Love to hear from you all.

Riya

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Strange that we should know him better than she does considering that she is the one who has been living in close proximity and under the same roof with this man and has been the recipient of his generosity and unquestioning love and faith repeatedly. By now she should know him through and through the way Minnie does I would think don't you agree?

Originally posted by: Lakshs

I am so glad you mentioned the most important thing here. The cvs failed to justify her stance. Until now I have been so happy that they stuck to her stance. But by calling it ego instead in the last several episodes by several people in the series, they took the crux out.

I don’t think she regrets meeting him or thinks he is not a nice person. But like ‘princessonline’ has mentioned her guards are up. She doesn’t trust him because he shows interest one time and pushes her away the next.

I get fear, but not ego.

Plus you are right, as much as both have a past it is hard to be all loving when the person of your interest is constantly stating that his first wife is everything to him.

So her stance was right. Thanks for reiterating this again here.

Exactly! I have no idea why they labeled it as ego. I think it’s more hurt and fear than ego. She’s a traditional woman. What he said was already in the back of her head. She was already insecure about it, and he hit her where it would hurt the most to push her away. It makes sense she’s backed off. Anyone would.

Originally posted by: princessonline

I’m a silent reader on this forum. I usually read through things, but rarely comment. I felt a strong urge to post about this, so here I am.

I feel Babita’s stance and anger is justified. I know a lot of people believe she’s being egotistical, but let’s put ourselves in her shoes. Hanuman did say some really bitter things to her. His intention was to protect, but, nevertheless, his words were harsh.

I know for a fact that I would’ve reacted the same way Babita did. She let a man walk all over her once. Shes not going to do that again. She’s got her walls up now, but she was willing to give Hanuman a chance, but then he said all these things to her, and she backed off. We’d all do the same thing.

After you’ve been with someone for a while and you’ve formed a level of faith and trust in each other, something like this would not have mattered so much. That’s not the case here. She doesn’t know what she means to him. She doesn’t know how he feels. Situations like this create a lot of uncertainty and trigger our insecurities. We’re all human. We’re not going to put ourselves out there to get hurt. To some extent, even Hanuman’s guilty of that. He doesn’t want to be the person to make the first move.

All in all, I don’t think what Babita is doing is unjustified. I would’ve done the same thing. She doesn’t know what we know. She doesn’t know why Hanuman said what he did. Plus, he’s been going on and on about how much he loves Imarti, and how Babita has to accept him with the love he has for her. Though, I understand that Imarti is an important part of his life, none of us would like/feel comfortable with our significant other saying all that. Of course, it’s understandable. But does it feel good? No. When you’re just falling for someone, you want them to put you first. You want them to care for you more than anyone else. You want to be the most important person in their life. You want to be treated different from everyone else. It’s natural. When Hanuman said what he said, he took that specialness away from Babita, which is why she’s doing what she’s doing. I would do the same thing.

What do you guys thinks? Love to hear from you all.

Riya

I have raised this multiple times before...so will not put all again..but for me Babita is completely right...as a woman I stand by someone who takes offence to what was said...everything can’t b taken casually wat ever b the background of y it was said...just a little confused y the entire episode is being conveniently ignored and only HS is shown as a hero...now the love story is being taken forward which is good but why is that episode being given least importance...neither have they shown HS apologising neither has he been shown regretting wat he said...he is as he was ...back to normal...and even the story is back to normal ....on top of that everyone from Naeem Bee to Poonam tell Babita that she has ego (Naeem bee said that not Poonam) but both felt she is making a mountain of a mole..that she should forgive him or rather just forget the incident since it is not so big ...don’t agree...the incident is big and impact still bigger...the next part should start only after closing this chapter...as that states that watever v go thru v Have to be cautious of wat v speak or do...can’t cross our limit ....and if v have done that atleast v shud have the decency to feel sorry and apologise...unfortunately many here are for HS and are just ignoring wat he has said or do not feel he was wrong...they feel Babita is raising the issue little too much and it is ok if HS said something once...wat I don understand is whether it is once or not how does that justify wat he said....v all want them to get married ...just feel that before that wud b gud if they show HS feel sorry and say sorry genuinely...don’t know if that will happen though...

Originally posted by: princessonline

Exactly! I have no idea why they labeled it as ego. I think it’s more hurt and fear than ego. She’s a traditional woman. What he said was already in the back of her head. She was already insecure about it, and he hit her where it would hurt the most to push her away. It makes sense she’s backed off. Anyone would.

No I wouldn't. Especially at a time when I knew he was hurting real bad. I would have understood what he was trying to do, seen through those hurtful words, understood they were deliberate and he didn't mean a word of it and I would have stuck with him through thick and thin just the way he had stuck with me through thick and thin despite many hurtful things I had told him many times.

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

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Strange that we should know him better than she does considering that she is the one who has been living in close proximity and under the same roof with this man and has been the recipient of his generosity and unquestioning love and faith repeatedly. By now she should know him through and through the way Minnie does I would think don't you agree?

I don’t think so. Of course we know more. We’re witnessing this from afar whereas she’s in the middle of all this. We get to see what Hanuman is thinking. What he’s saying to others. She doesn’t. Of course she can sit there and justify and tell herself “he’s not like this. He’s a good man.” But beyond that, she doesn’t know what we know.

She doesn’t think he’s a bad man. She’s not discrediting what he’s done for them. She’s not going to continue to hope and dream she’ll end up with him or there’s something there when he’s told her to back off. When feelings are involved, logic goes out the window. She needs validation. Hanuman should have clarified and explained why he said what he said. He’s also been going around saying he’s better off alone.

She’s not being egoistical or dumb. She’s protecting herself from a heartbreak. She’s made assumptions before with Ashok. She’s going to try to protect her heart this time.

Originally posted by: Padmajaan

No I wouldn't. Especially at a time when I knew he was hurting real bad. I would have understood what he was trying to do, seen through those hurtful words, understood they were deliberate and he didn't mean a word of it and I would have stuck with him through thick and thin just the way he had stuck with me through thick and thin despite many hurtful things I had told him many times.

She never explicitly told him to back off or hurt him where it hurts most. He specifically told her she should stop focusing on a stranger man and focus on her daughter. I would walk away. She supported him. Translated the letter for Imarti’s dad. She supported him then. Doesn’t mean she’s going to run back to him for a second chance at love.

Originally posted by: Reshmi.parekh78

I have raised this multiple times before...so will not put all again..but for me Babita is completely right...as a woman I stand by someone who takes offence to what was said...everything can’t b taken casually wat ever b the background of y it was said...just a little confused y the entire episode is being conveniently ignored and only HS is shown as a hero...now the love story is being taken forward which is good but why is that episode being given least importance...neither have they shown HS apologising neither has he been shown regretting wat he said...he is as he was ...back to normal...and even the story is back to normal ....on top of that everyone from Naeem Bee to Poonam tell Babita that she has ego (Naeem bee said that not Poonam) but both felt she is making a mountain of a mole..that she should forgive him or rather just forget the incident since it is not so big ...don’t agree...the incident is big and impact still bigger...the next part should start only after closing this chapter...as that states that watever v go thru v Have to be cautious of wat v speak or do...can’t cross our limit ....and if v have done that atleast v shud have the decency to feel sorry and apologise...unfortunately many here are for HS and are just ignoring wat he has said or do not feel he was wrong...they feel Babita is raising the issue little too much and it is ok if HS said something once...wat I don understand is whether it is once or not how does that justify wat he said....v all want them to get married ...just feel that before that wud b gud if they show HS feel sorry and say sorry genuinely...don’t know if that will happen though...

Yes! I agree with you more than 100%. Those are my thoughts exactly. As a woman, I stand by Babita. I love Hanuman, but that doesn’t mean I’ll justify what he said. It was wrong and an apology is necessary. He could’ve chosen to be honest...told her he didn’t want to drag her in this mess instead of saying what he said to her. I would react the same way as Babita. You don’t get to make decisions for me. She’s not a child. She could’ve chosen if she wanted to stick around or walk away had he just been upfront about it.