My house, my life, my wish - a brilliant episode! - Page 5

@inlieu

Hanuman has always walked the extra mile for Babita and Mini like he had said "Tum mother daughter ke liye aaukaat se badhkar karta Hoon." He has worked really hard to make both of them trust him. Can he trust Babita in the same way? At least not for now and you know there have been so many instances where Babita has hurt him too much but he always forgave her. Babita needs to break down his walls. This is going to hurt her for sure but I know she will. I remember the episode "Mhaara Kiraayedaarni ji ke liye prem woh sach hai" i am glad that even when he knows they are in love he is not rushing her into anything. He knows his love will win. About his patience, he can bear with anything until and unless Babita is safe. You remember him saying "Agar ashok le jata daughter ki mother ko toh main naa seh pata ... Itna patience na hai" I genuinely hope Babita starts working on her part.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

BINGOOO!

He had also said sab kuch aap hi ka toh hai

Also, I need to know what insecurities HS has about himself and his Haveli. Why does he start acting like a kid when people try to boss over him? Almost like he's too afraid to lose himself and listen to others in the process. I've observed with Naim Bi also. He doesn't like getting bossed over, he's afraid.

And Imarti's mention triggered him off, so much, that even if he never intended to drink, he drank just to defy her understanding that he'll listen to her.

Re: haveli - the simple answer will be it's his inheritance. The complicated answer will be he has a lot of emotional attachment to it. If I remember correctly, it was his grandfather who had built it and he has a lot of love and respect for the man. Yes, it's also the same house where his drunkard father lived and hurled his abuses. Yes, it's also the same house where his mother was continuously beaten and eventually died. But it's also the same house where he got married to Imarti. It's the same house where he got a new perspective on life and a newfound respect for women. Not to mention, Imarti lives in every single corner of that house. There wouldn't be a single space that she wouldn't have touched with her presence. On his lonely nights, when he looks into these spaces, he must be hit with a thousand and one memories of her.

Re: himself - in some ways, he considers himself to be a failure when it comes to the women in his life. He failed to save his mother as a child, and he failed to save his wife as a husband. In both situations, there wasn't much that he could have done. If he had intervened as a child, then his dad's anger and violent ways would have been targeted on him. As a husband, there wasn't much that he could do to make Imarti's delivery a success. That was literally out of his hands. There are a lot of underlying issues with him that haven't exactly come to the surface but I think we'll be getting some answers soon.

I think HS' resistance comes partly from the fact that no one truly understands how deep his pain goes. They can guess at it, but the intensity of it can only be felt by him. No one else can understand it. So when Naeem Bi tells him it's time to move on, he understands her sentiments but he can't abide by them because it's not easy. Imarti was Imarti. He just can't let go of her even if he wants to.

Originally posted by: Mishti_Dahi

And the best part is HS completely understands her. He knows it's her first. He knows she's a mother too and will have her own reservations and apprehensions. Yet, he's ready to surrender. But, wants her to make the move first cause of the simple love psychology. So that for whatsoever reason, no one can hurt him there later. She will make the move and it'll start where it all started- with Imarti coming to the forefront. I want NB and Lala to give her insights and help her out.

He is too scared that his heart will break again. Once Babita starts making efforts ... I want him to come forward and talk about Imarti. He should take his name first this time. Very honestly such men are rare and characters rarer. Oh I love him so much.

He is too scared that his heart will break again. Once Babita starts making efforts ... I want him to come forward and talk about Imarti. He should take his name first this time. Very honestly such men are rare and characters rarer. Oh I love him so much.

HS is a slap on the faces of all the tv male leads who portray the "ideal man" character "head over heels in love" their female leads which does not qualify as love in my dictionary.. this character is kind of revolutionary.. its like this is what women ACTUALLY likes nd want in their lives...

Originally posted by: asmaanixx

Re: haveli - the simple answer will be it's his inheritance. The complicated answer will be he has a lot of emotional attachment to it. If I remember correctly, it was his grandfather who had built it and he has a lot of love and respect for the man. Yes, it's also the same house where his drunkard father lived and hurled his abuses. Yes, it's also the same house where his mother was continuously beaten and eventually died. But it's also the same house where he got married to Imarti. It's the same house where he got a new perspective on life and a newfound respect for women. Not to mention, Imarti lives in every single corner of that house. There wouldn't be a single space that she wouldn't have touched with her presence. On his lonely nights, when he looks into these spaces, he must be hit with a thousand and one memories of her.

Re: himself - in some ways, he considers himself to be a failure when it comes to the women in his life. He failed to save his mother as a child, and he failed to save his wife as a husband. In both situations, there wasn't much that he could have done. If he had intervened as a child, then his dad's anger and violent ways would have been targeted on him. As a husband, there wasn't much that he could do to make Imarti's delivery a success. That was literally out of his hands. There are a lot of underlying issues with him that haven't exactly come to the surface but I think we'll be getting some answers soon.

I think HS' resistance comes partly from the fact that no one truly understands how deep his pain goes. They can guess at it, but the intensity of it can only be felt by him. No one else can understand it. So when Naeem Bi tells him it's time to move on, he understands her sentiments but he can't abide by them because it's not easy. Imarti was Imarti. He just can't let go of her even if he wants to.

@bold - I cannot remember exactly but there have been so many times when Hanuman Singh has let the people around him know that he should not be pushed beyond hai restraining control. He has said such things to Khatri, Ashok and today Babita. He is too scared to open up because he knows that even if he is able to let out and convey his pain ... People won't exactly get it. I guess Babita will be able to strike the right chord and make the walls of his heart melt so that he can begin with speaking something to her.

Originally posted by: rr66

HS is a slap on the faces of all the tv male leads who portray the "ideal man" character "head over heels in love" their female leads which does not qualify as love in my dictionary.. this character is kind of revolutionary.. its like this is what women ACTUALLY likes nd want in their lives...

Yes he is a tight slap like he says ekdum kaan ke neeche dhara hua karara. I don't get the logic of regular ideal men of Indian television. They are too proud sometimes.

Originally posted by: rr66

which she is just unable to do... today also he openly asked like always that aapko bura laga meeta ne hath pakda nd then she goes mujhe kyu bura lagega etc etc like always... i understand where she comes from nd also HS is not making a move but he has so many insecurities more than babita at this point.. also he time and again shows what she means to him through his actions nd also understand the complex reactions she gives in return.. what more push does babita need i dont understand.. he is damn patient... i hope she do something b4 his patience breaks..

Yes, he understands her perfectly and he understands when she is in denial but I think today he really put it out there that she couldn't take it for granted that he always would. Why should he be the one to understand her always, and do all the hard work? For what, exactly?

The other day, when he was telling her off in the hanky scene, part of it was for Minnie but I think most of the words were direct from his heart, his frustration with her mixed signals and her unexpected invasions of his space.

Originally posted by: Cinnamon_Kisses

@bold - I cannot remember exactly but there have been so many times when Hanuman Singh has let the people around him know that he should not be pushed beyond hai restraining control. He has said such things to Khatri, Ashok and today Babita. He is too scared to open up because he knows that even if he is able to let out and convey his pain ... People won't exactly get it. I guess Babita will be able to strike the right chord and make the walls of his heart melt so that he can begin with speaking something to her.

Yes, and people do push him beyond his control and then expect he should behave himself, Babita included. They need to take responsibility for the repercussions.

Originally posted by: Cinnamon_Kisses

Yes he is a tight slap like he says ekdum kaan ke neeche dhara hua karara. I don't get the logic of regular ideal men of Indian television. They are too proud sometimes.

arrogants nd jerks.. most of them carry the angry young man tag proudly.. which is nothing to be proud of... i m like its a condition u need therepy🤔.. anyways we need characters like HS nd i think i can say the character of abhishek bachan from manmarziyan is one to be proud of.. to change the perception of an ideal man on screen..

Originally posted by: Cinnamon_Kisses

@inlieu

Hanuman has always walked the extra mile for Babita and Mini like he had said "Tum mother daughter ke liye aaukaat se badhkar karta Hoon." He has worked really hard to make both of them trust him. Can he trust Babita in the same way? At least not for now and you know there have been so many instances where Babita has hurt him too much but he always forgave her. Babita needs to break down his walls. This is going to hurt her for sure but I know she will. I remember the episode "Mhaara Kiraayedaarni ji ke liye prem woh sach hai" i am glad that even when he knows they are in love he is not rushing her into anything. He knows his love will win. About his patience, he can bear with anything until and unless Babita is safe. You remember him saying "Agar ashok le jata daughter ki mother ko toh main naa seh pata ... Itna patience na hai" I genuinely hope Babita starts working on her part.

Extra mile indeed. I loved that he pointed out to her that he had emotions too which she often did not seem to treat with care. Again, why I love the way his character is written. It's a commentary against social conditioning of men that makes them feel they have to appear tough, that sensitivity is a sign of weakness, and that they have thicks skins which means you can just say whatever you want and they will be ok with it.

As for his patience, I am glad he clearly expressed what the boundaries are (especially to the audience), what his limits are. He's a human being, not a saint. ❤️