Originally posted by: fammma
aww...thank you so much, I am getting married at the end on this month, and I too have known my fiance for two years, but it was a long distance relationship so it was much easier
Now we will be iving together, so I suppose the adjusting and respecting will be hard too, but we both will have to be patient with each other...
Any other advice before I take the plunge will greatly be appreciated
Mine was a long distance too.... my husband was in the Indian Army at the time when we were dating.... and I only met him 4-5 times in 2 years as I had to fly from the US..... i spent 3-4 days with him all these 4-5 times I went back to India in those 2 years..... but yes, just give each other some space.... because you both will come from different families, different settings, no matter what there will be conflicts on things, but you will have to be patient.... both of you..... there will be times when you will have to ignore some things and he will have ignore as well.... one thing, if you dont like something in him.... and want to change, dont do it quick because he will feel that you are trying to dominate..... do it slowly..... for example, i did not like how my husband did his hair...... so everytime we watched a show or a movie.... i tried to tell him that I liked shorter hair (army cut).... and how they luk good, how one doesnt need to use gel or something with short hair etc etc..... so I didnt even have to ask him to change his hair style, he just did it on his own.....
so take things slowly...... 1st year is adjusting, 2nd year is adapting, 3rd year is getting comfortable and once you cross first 3 years, you know that it was the right choice (comes from my mom!!!!!).......
anyways, good luck and congratulations........