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-Rani

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Posted: 13 years ago

I was wondering that people want to see Kunal sad and dejected because Siddhi left him. My question is - How long can you morn someone whether they leave you or they die? 1 year, 2 years? 3 years? how long is enough?

It's been 9 long years since Kunal's wife who supposedly betrayed him and cheated him left him, should he still be sitting in the corner and morning for her?

I think not. Even in real life people do not sit there for 9 years and cry for there loved ones so why are we expecting Kunal Chopra to do so that to for someone who has intentionally left him and not vise-versa.

I think we expect little too much from this guy; just because he doesn't cry buckets like the females, he is insensitive? How long a man in a real world cries for his wife? for 9 long years (that too who deceived him) I don't think anyone does.

I mean the pain will always be there, but that doesn't mean one stops living his life.

Edited by -Rani - 13 years ago

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jay_bpm

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Posted: 13 years ago

I personally do not think KC is insensitive.

Well about 9 years, I expect Kunal to handle himself little better.

I don't want to see him crying and yearning for Siddhi 24x7.

At times I do feel people may expect bit too much from him. He shouldn't cry behind Siddhi and try to act for sake of his son; but when he dances per his son's insistence he has forgotten his wife?

I don't know how people expect him to act so we know he loves Siddhi very much but at the same time take substantial actions to make his son happy. Once in a while he'll be happy for his son; doesn't mean he's insensitive towards Siddhi.

Now comparison with real life, well that ship sailed long ago when Siddhi made deal with Richa.

No offense to anyone, just my POV.

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-Rani

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: jay_bpm
I personally do not think KC is insensitive.
Well about 9 years, I expect Kunal to handle himself little better.
I don't want to see him crying and yearning for Siddhi 24x7.
At times I do feel people may expect bit too much from him. He shouldn't cry behind Siddhi and try to act for sake of his son; but when he dances per his son's insistence he has forgotten his wife?
I don't know how people expect him to act so we know he loves Siddhi very much but at the same time take substantial actions to make his son happy. Once in a while he'll be happy for his son; doesn't mean he's insensitive towards Siddhi.

Now comparison with real life, well that ship sailed long ago when Siddhi made deal with Richa.

No offense to anyone, just my POV.

I don't think he is insensitive or dong anything that a common man wouldn't do. For us it's only been a week since the leap, but for Kunal it's been 9 long years since the incident happen.

Agree,he shouldn't have stopped working and providing for his family, but having said that I don't at all want him to be unhappy and sad all the time because his wife didn't share with him that she has sold you to the devil in exchange to your freedom.

Even after returning from the jail, she didn't trust him enough and assumed he was married to Richa just because she was whipping cake from his face? Where is that trust which should have told her - no matter what Kunal will never marry Richa. She believed Sulekha over her husband's credibility.

Basically, it's okay to overlook If she doesn't trust her husband, but it's not okay If Kunal does it? Why is that? People say Kunal shouldn't have believed her words when she told him in the jail that she hates him because of what she had done for him and his family; however, it's okay if she believed that Kunal had married Richa just because she saw her whipping his face and just because someone who practically stole her child (Sulekha) told her so. We have seen her doing jasoosi giri so much in other tracks, why not do jasoosi giri to find out whether or not Kunal actually married Richa?

I can just go on and on and on, but don't have time to do so, so will stop here...

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bhavis

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: -Rani
I was wondering that people want to see Kunal sad and dejected because Siddhi left him. My question is - How long can you morn someone whether they leave you or they die? 1 year, 2 years? 3 years? how long is enough?

It's been 9 long years since Kunal's wife who supposedly betrayed him and cheated him left him, should he still be sitting in the corner and morning for her?

I think not. Even in real life people do not sit there for 9 years and cry for there loved ones so why are we expecting Kunal Chopra to do so that to for someone who has intentionally left him and not vise-versa.

I think we expect little too much from this guy; just because he doesn't cry buckets like the females, he is insensitive? How long a man in a real world cries for his wife? for 9 long years (that too who deceived him) I don't think anyone does.

I mean the pain will always be there, but that doesn't mean one stops living his life.

Rani after a long time will agree with you. Whatever happened it was not Kunal's fault. Yes he should be more responsible but that does not mean he should stop living life. He has all the right to be happy just like Siddhi.

I was thinking that after leap they will show both as a strong character due to love. But here they are showing love as weakness.

No men real or reel can mourn for so long. Life has to go on and as they say the Show must go on.

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DiVa

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Posted: 13 years ago

Rani, you are right.. how long should a person mourn when his love leaves him? The period you have mentioned is reasonable. Then why did Kunal waste 9 years of his life?? Should he not have come out of the drunkard and wastrel state he is in after a certain period and become a work-o-holic?? Actually if that is how they showed him, I would not have any problem with his dance yesterday. But thats not what he is. He wasted and is still wasting his life because of none other than Siddhi.. is he not?? Looks to me like he is waiting for her to magically come back and set things right for him! For him to start working that too after 9 years, the entire family has to plot and trick him into it?? Yesterday, AC just requested once and he starts dancing like crazy?? I mean, I feel his character is being very inconsistent. May be its not what it looks like and I hope we get to see some pain from his side for siddhi because frankly, don't mind him moving on to small happinesses around him but the guilt that his wife is in jail suffering for a crime she did not commit should not let him move on.. that is just my POV.

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amarjyoti

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Posted: 13 years ago

chopra family bahut selfish hai,pahala apni maa ko bachana ka liya siddhi sa shadi kara di kunal ki,phir raveena ki jaltiyo ka liya bhi hamasha siddhi ko blame karta raha,or pata chalna par mafi mang lata tha,raveena ki shadi ka time pa bhi ya hi huya tha,kunal ka case ka time pa bhi yahi huya tha,thakral bhi uska dusman isi vajay sa bana,or ab unka siddhi ki koi parvaha nahi hai,sab usa galat samaj raha hai,unhona sirf siddhi ko apna fayada ka liya istmal kiya hai,or sabsa buri to veena lagti hai

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@TheRowdiest

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Posted: 13 years ago

Well Said Rani ...ppl expect everything frm Kunal only ... he shld be mind Reader ...

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rupasi

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Posted: 13 years ago

Has someone died in the chopra family recently besides anandthat im not aware of...that the word mourn has been used i could'nt get it...as per my knowledge kunal is very much aware that his wife is in jail thats wat he told the gola wala no? no doubt he has the right to be happy bt if his supposedly mourning period are over then he has long overdue his lazing period ...then y hasn't he moved his lazy b**ps yet...if he could be happy for the sake of others he could also be working for their happiness😉

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Mages

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Posted: 13 years ago

well di...it depends on a person nature...how emotionally attached with the person whom he lost...

well you say in real life there isn't such person...well in my family there is one such person who is mourning for his lost mom for almost 7 yrs...my cousin bro lost his mother and now it has been 7 yrs...in this 7 yrs i have not seen him happy...he is party person...he always love to go out with friends...organise parties in diwali for family...he dances to the fullest...and even make us dance...he is the best bro 7 yrs back...but after he lost his mother whom is my aunt...he lost his smile...his jovial nature...though he arrange parties...but he never participate in it...he always sit in one corner...thinking...he always look lost...the brightness in his face is lost...he is 27 yrs old now...but you know in the night he held his mother's pic close to his heart and sleep...my uncle always gets worried for him...at times we come to visit him...he gives a fake smile...but deep down he is lost...since there is one in my family...in form of my bro...so there is people in real world mourning for loved ones for yrs...even for their whole life...such person are more emotional than practical...when its the matter of relationship from hearts...its expected...i have come across such person...my bro even now remember the funeral rites he did for his mom...and i remembered how heartbroken he was...when my aunt body was taken away from cremation after he created his rites for his mom...the way he cried upon his mother's body and ask them not to separate him from her...everyone had to hold him...in real basis there are such person who is still mourning and brooding for their loved ones...whether its death or long separation like SiNal...

now for KC rocking the party to the fullest...well though i can't digest see him dancing and enjoying himself...bcz in 9 yrs instead of dancing and enjoying himself...he can work and give support to his lame family and then he can dance to the fullest forgetting siddhi also...but then on second thought he was doing for seema and anand C happiness...once he told veena that he will do anything for his son...so thats what he is doing...hiding his pain of lost love and just for the sake of his son he brings a fake smile on his face...but that doesn't mean in such a extend where he forgets abt his wife in jail rotting bcz of his filthy past...i have mixed reactions on his dance but sammy looks cute when dancing...post-leap he is super cool...

since you love KC enjoying party the fullest and dancing with full force celebration...what if siddhi does the same that KC did yesterday?...will you give the same reaction?...siddhi enjoying a party to the fullest forgetting her husband and elder son...she is rocking the dancing floors...celebrations in full swing...forgetting all that happened in 9 yrs...forgetting that she is a mother of 2 kids...forgetting that she is married as well as divorce to KC...will you support her?...what is your view upon it...

now coming to siddhi's sacrifice...sorry di...i have different POV...siddhi did not betrayed her husband...if now KC is happy dancing...celebrating...and living for his son is all bcz of siddhi...if she never sign the deal and sacrifice her life...KC would be rotting in jail for no crime of his...he might be even hanged to death...you are right that siddhi should have told kunal abt her deal with richa...but then richa is way too powerful than KC...what if she turns her promise and hook kunal into a another case...siddhi have thought all this aspect than sacrifice her life...if KC is with his family is bcz of siddhi's sacrifice...she never betrayed KC for her own happiness like richa did...infact she betrayed KC for his own happiness...which lies in his family...and their son...yes siddhi made him believe that she has become a vamp...but how can kunal even thought that siddhi can kill her own new-born son...why did he need to listen to a matron...can't he find out for himself...even with her younger son she only thought abt KC...how will he be w/o his son...he will be devastated...heartbroken...he will go back to his old ways...she was concern abt him...she kept kunal above everything even for her kids...she wanted kunal to have her younger son too...she sacrifice everything for kunal...her life...her career as a lawyer...her kids...what more she needs to loose...even after 9 yrs...what she got loosing...a son who can't recognise her...who is rude to her...who can't accept her...and KC got silver spoon...anand C has his mother qualities inherited in him...anand C is taking care of his father rather than vice-versa...KC has his full family with him...his son is exact replica of his mother...well its all siddhi's stupidity...but can't blame her she is blinded by love...and when its love...everything is fair in love and war...what did siddhi cheated him...i don't think she cheated him...did she take thakral's money and enjoy herself...she was rotting in jail for 9 yrs...noone knows she is alive or dead...she was not enjoying herself...

well its completely my POV...no offend...i don't mind KC dancing ...he was looking cute...but just that i can't digest due to circumstances this anniversary is being celebrated...they all behave as if siddhi does not exist in the world while siddhi on the other side is always remembering her family and KC...and they act as if anand C is born by clouds...

well 9yrs is a long time...siddhi has been alone...so there will be a little change in her psychological thinking...emotions...and reactions especially when living in a jail rather than a open separation...so she into believing that KC has moved on in life is realistic...she can't trust her life...happiness doesn't stay long in her life...so she bound to think as such...here its not abt trust factor...even seeing KC-richa in such circumstances...she still loves kunal...and never form a hatred for him...she accepted that he has move on...but for her she still loves him...unlike KC...who till now i don't know what he feels for siddhi in this 9 yrs...ok fine getting drunk and blabbering her name...deep down KC loves her...but when he is in sense...what is his thoughts abt siddhi...which i fail to understand

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BornHyper

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Rani, just to answer the question that you have asked and be to-the-point in that.

I do not think that we can specify any particular duration for mourning - it depends a lot on the individual and the situation they are in.

When my neighbour lost her husband in an accident, she could hardly mourn for 15 days since she had 2 young daughters to take care of! Hardly one month later, I could see her play Holi with her daughters. And this was for her kids sake only!!!

On the contrary, my aunt who lost her young son, mourned for him all her life and got into complicated health issues, became withdrawn and a bit unstable as well (mentally)

We cannot generalise things!

Even in Parichay, just because Kunal does not show or talk about Siddhi, does not mean that he does not love her or remember her!

Edited by shweta_r - 13 years ago