My POV on Shiva-Raavi scenes from today.
If you are not married or not in a long tome relationship, you have no idea how hurtful Shiva’s words can be to repeatedly say that if you are not a certain way, we will part ways, at the drop of a hat.
I have not experienced it personally because my marriage has been rock solid from the get go and both my husband and I worked towards it, but my sister has. To this date it haunts her.
Two things Shiva is doing at present - not trying to understand Raavi’s POV at all and has misunderstood her which is very clear. But that doesn’t give him the right to threaten especially the last dialogue when he says if their tuning is not right, he will not hesitate to move on.He is doing the exact same thing what he thinks Raavi did to him. He is clearly making Raavi insecure and how much ever she tries will never be able to reach him until she speaks, behaves and thinks a certain way.
Raavi indeed came back for Dhara and profusely apologized for her behavior during Janmashtami, though she loves Dhara a lot, calls her idol, she has also called her out few times especially right after the marriage, in the haveli and even during the divorce kaand.
Raavi herself said today, all along she tried to live as per all other Pandya parivar members terms and expectations and now she wants to live in that house per her terms. What is wrong in feeling this way? This loan kaand, her trying to get Dev-Rishita in the middle of the night, almost getting killed for it has been a revelation for her. If only Shiva gave her a hint, would she have taken this drastic step?
Now after today’s dialogues won’t Raavi start having the same fears as in the past that Shiva won’t hesitate to leave her anytime? How will she now proceed with the relationship with this constant fear.
Shiva cannot threaten to abandon her everytime when he is faced with adversities instead work towards getting it resolved. Whenever Dhara is affected all Shiva can think of is protecting her even if it comes at a cost of his relationship with Raavi. This is not progress at all, just talking is not enough, understanding and trusting each other is even more important which is sorely lacking in Shiva-Raavi relationship, for that matter even in Dev-Rishita relationship.
As for Raavi wanting to be part of Pandya parivar, has cared more for the family than Shiva is all there to see. Isn’t it why Shiva started falling for her again when she returned? Infact he cherishes if she takes extra care of his family. So how can you hold it against her and she loves his family more than him. Because right from the beginning/childhood it is Shiva’s family who has been kinder to her than him.
Just like how Shiva doesn’t trust Raavi at all how is she ever going to trust him if he keeps saying there are chances for me to dump repeatedly on several occasions😕
Agreed completely. The pain and that haunting memory of hurtful words can break many an otherwise strong relationship.
Words have power. It is up to the speaker to see to how he/she should weild it. Shiva has almost always wielded it to bring pain to Raavi, and that truly needs to change. I was happy with how he was trying to get her to talk, both today and yesterday. But as soon as Dhara and her toxic presence in their relationship rears it's head up, he threatens her?
That is simply not cool. At all. Any woman with common sense would've asked him to choose between his family and her by this point. Raavi hasn't. Because she understands to some extent how Shiva is. But Shiva's understanding of her is extremely selective, and that needs to be worked on.
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