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So after yesterday's Eid ka chaand, we're back to one dialogue per episode for Raavi 🤪🤪

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

@bold: it isn't the makers' creative liberty, I believe it does happen as part of this Yatra

Yeah, Esha and Prema explained it. It makes sense now that they're going barefoot and someone's cleaning it so they aren't injured and mannat doesn't get bhang.

Originally posted by: Sakmen

Hello ladies

Is the episode worth watching?

It's a fire hydrant red episode it seems... filled with oily with Raavi going back to single dialogues 😆 Better to skip.

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

So after yesterday's Eid ka chaand, we're back to one dialogue per episode for Raavi 🤪🤪

Correction.. One OTT dialogue*

😂😂

Here we're hoping for an NDE for shivi, so that shiva's insecurities get resolved. But will we get suman's insecurities being resolved instead? 🤣🤣

Originally posted by: Sakmen

Hello ladies

Is the episode worth watching?

No I guess

Originally posted by: GrilledCheese

Their special brand of adbhut sasta nasha which goes through adbhut upgrades every day 🤪🤪

I want them need them to stop mahn 🤣

Originally posted by: milkcakejamun

It's a fire hydrant red episode it seems... filled with oily with Raavi going back to single dialogues 😆 Better to skip.

Thank you for the warning ❤ and saving a lot of my time 🤣

Originally posted by: ValleyOfPeace

Four more episodes

And I am sure kuch accha to milega zaroor🖤

Maahi 😆

Let's hope your positivity wins! ❤️

Originally posted by: funny_fubar

Lovely post Chikki!

Compromise is definitely needed in any relationship whether it is out of love or arranged. I think what Raavi needs to address with Shiva is what the basis of the compromise is. I guess what Shiva is thinking that they might be ok for the present, but somewhere down the line, when there are bad days, he does not want her regretting her marriage and cursing her fate. (Have seen real life instances- that is why I am very wary of forced marriages). 10 years down the line it might be too late to do anything- now atleast Raavi has a chance to move on(difficult, but easier than when she will be in her 30s).

So Raavi definitely needs to address the insecurities. Not "I wanted something else before, now I am going to compromise", but "My needs and understanding have changed- I used to like something before, but now I like other things". Shiva is basing his assumptions on Raavi still wanting the same things from life

Yes Shiva is definitely wrong in not hearing her out. Maybe that is what Raavi wants to eventually touch upon as she speaks with him. Unfortunately, ShiVi have bad timing. If they had this conversation pre-Sneha kaand, Shiva might have even agreed with her and worked things out.

Insecurities do cloud a person's judgement. It is very burdensome for people surrounding the insecure person- just like us viewers are irritated with Shiva and want him to just grow up and deal with it. People give well meaning advice on either changing or learning to let go. Perfectly sound advice, but completely useless until the person works his way out of his insecurities.

We all agree Raavi needs to be loved and pampered. Maybe Shiva feels exactly the same. And what if he is convinced that he cannot be person, that he cannot change? This is not about wanting to change- he is refusing to even to take a step in the direction because his confidence is shot.

I also agree with your analysis of how difficult Raavi's life might be if she did get divorced. But despite the social pressue, divorce should always be option. Keeping aside my bias for Shiva, what if his push had injured her 😕 Or what if (hypothetically only) he had hit her in anger? She should definitely not stay in such a relationship, and should walk out. I'll go a step further and say, if she is being mentally battered in a relationship, shouldn't she walk away?(Here I am a bit unclear- is she being mentally or emotionally tortured? Somedays I feel yes, somedays no)

That said, this is a show, and we have a loved pair. All references to NDE, third angle, divorce are mainly plot points to move the story forward, not as a means to be insensitive. 😆 If the makers gave us progression through open communication and introspection, like the OG, no one would bother asking for this. When two characters are at a stale mate and refuse to talk to one another, how do you force a change? 🤷‍♀️

Again a thesis 🙈 I think I should impose a moratorium on my IF visits when PMSing

Loved the clarity with which u write this..absolutely agree with u...

Yes..compromise is definitely a part of any relationship..especially when it comes to marriage..but it can only be fulfilling if there is love at the base.d..I feel love is always over rated ..as if the only thing that leads to a perfect life ..and perfect story. .but yes..love does have a very important irreplaceable position in life...I think I have written previously abt this which I always believed in...love is like the body of a vehicle..while compromising and caring are the wheels which drive it forward..

But the problem here is in daily soaps..compromises are shown as something forced or something which is done only when love is not there in that relationship...in real life,I believe there wouldn't be much compromise without love...and if someone is compromising without love, i call that relationship abusive/forced...as bad as being kept captive..because of no support from society or family there are people who go thru all the abuses..all in the name of marriage and compromise..but where is love there..it can only be termed as abusive marriage where the victim or the abusive doesn't choose a way out because of social restrictions.. ...

What u said abt Shiva pushing her around which could have in an alternate scenario physically injured her would have been the nail in the coffin for a women like me...in our country it is pathetic to think how normal it is considered with these sorts of slight physical abuse..pushing nudging..pinching..and there r also many who think slap is normal in a marriage..I remember when I watched the movie thappad, me and my husband had a slight argument regarding it..he was like that man was unreasonable and hence the divorce..I was like even if he was reasonable which led him to give her slap, divorce was the right thing she did..he has no right to hurt her physically no matter how wrong she is..we got further into argument where he started giving hypothetical scenarios...and I couldn't help and just told him the truth. .that if for once he touches me with the intention of hurting me..I would call police..no matter how much I love u..hurt me..I will call police...he was shocked and dnt knw..he stopped arguing there. .and after sometime he calmed down and then found the whole argument funny..🤪..Well I am including this personal story..because I know from.my friends that how many of them considers this sort of mini abuses as normal..itbis shocking.. disgusting ..and bollywood and telewood support this mentality by naming them passionate...they got it all wrong.. 😳