I've been trying to understand Raavi and her thinking ever since she got married. I'm with you on this one. I think I understand her abit better now though (apart from one aspect), my mum kind of helped me.
I actually do love the girl to bits, but she seems to be two sides of different extremes for me. She's either really airy fairy (dreaming up things about Dev, thinking nothing can go wrong in life) or she's thinking everything and everyone is against her. She got jilted at the alter by Dev, that's when her whole life and dreams burst in front of her, she didn't even think twice about suiciding. She kept looking at Dev throughout the wedding, she kept getting hurt by Rishita's words and at the fact that Shiva is now her husband. We all know what her misunderstandings are about the kidnapping. For her Shiva left her with the goons. She's bound to think so because his actions seemed to look like that atleast. Though she can read his hatred for her, she can't read the care in him at all. But she doesn't think to ask him about it, just accuses him, perhaps because she now chooses to believe everything she sees with her eyes and has trust issues (rightfully so). Since the kidnapping her issue has been 'you left me with the goons, I don't trust you.' But when divorce got brought up the panic on her face was more evident than Shiva's. She chose to stay, which makes me think she atleast believes in staying in this marriage on a face front.
My main issue is how does a girl nearly commit suicide over a situation and never give that incident a thought again? (Also it seems only Shiva remembers that incident!). That's where I cannot understand her. Her hatred has been for Shiva and Shiva only. I don't question her misunderstandings at all, but it's like you said, where's her hatred for Dev in all this? He's the one to have caused it all. Whereas Shiva has in a way lost his brother because of what happened. He's actually directed some of that hatred towards his brother. Even when he's hated Raavi because of the mami situation, he's actually shown hatred for mami too. It's possible that this could be an upcoming story idk, she might show some sort of hatred for Dev later. I love that she's okay with Rishita, but she was sitting next to Dev at the picnic (I think) like nothing's his fault.
A few things that my mum talked about, which makes sense to me. She thinks Raavi is not a rational thinker, whereas Shiva is. His rational thinking may not make sense to everyone but there's some sort of logic behind it. He's more straight forward and logical thinking, that's where his smartness lies, but his fault is that he doesn't always verbalise them. Raavi is the opposite, she'll verbalise something without thinking about it. That was shown a few times with the latest being when she threw water over the bed to draw a line. Even when Shiva shouted at Dev about destroying everyone's lives it's like she hasn't heard what he said. Shiva can understand that her life got ruined but she's not able to understand that so did his. She's not the greatest at joining the dots.
The sindoor bit hurt her, it was that daily realisation that she's married to Shiva. She was trying to say she looks good without sindoor too, perhaps trying to go back to a time before Shiva. She seemed abit gutted when Dhara said she looks a little incomplete without it. She didn't even want to put it on in front of him, it's a big deal for her, she's more emotional, so when he did her sindoor it probably hurt that bit extra. (Possibly there'll be one in the future as a parallel, where she wouldn't want to be without it). Shiva isn't the emotional type (on the front - we know he actually can be), so some of these things are probably not a big deal to him.
My mum also thinks Raavi never really understood the Pandya family like she thinks she did. Her bubble burst on the wedding day itself but did she fully know them to begin with? You know how they say you don't know someone until you live with them? In a way she's been airy fairy about them too. She's always dreamed about them being her future inlaws through Dev, she's always wanted to be like Dhara, she wouldn't also give up on Shiva because she wanted to be happy families after, and for her it was impossible that Dev might not have felt the same way. She didn't understand the effort it took to become like that. It's as though being Dev's wife would give her everything. But she's actually really getting to know them through being Shiva's wife.
With all that she probably never understood Dhara like she thinks she has too. She wanted to be like Dhara, she had the biggest trust on her. She's never really seen all that Dhara went through to get to where she is now. She's never seen Dhara with her family when she's not around. She doesn't know how Dhara has had very complicated situations put in front of her, how she's had to handle them without causing too much damage, how she's had to make difficult sacrifices for her family. When that trust broke, things changed for her (even if it didn't last long). Raavi even tried justifying her change by saying Dhara changed first. Having doubted her and been slightly horrible to her, and then seeing the care Dhara has she's really going to understand what Dhara truly is about when she fully sees her in her position. She'll get to see the position Dhara has in the Pandya family and in Shiva's life, she might even care for her extra when Shiva will matter more to her (we've already seen him make Raavi see sense).
We all saw how Suman was with her, quite firm. I think now she's understanding how Suman can be as Shiva's mother, she must have only got love up until that point. She'll also really get to know Gaumbi, Krish and Dev as Shiva's brothers only...it shocked her when they all stood up for him without needing any justifications from Shiva himself.
For me she's not very logical, she doesn't look at things as a whole picture, Shiva doesn't help by staying quiet either (she might not even listen if he did). She publicly humiliates one for being a coward but not the other. It seems really unfair. Even Shiva doesn't care until she publicly says all this. She needs to find a middle ground in between the two extremes, same with Shiva.
Shiva and Raavi's relationship is exactly like how they held hands. Held onto by the smallest of threads reluctantly...but however small, ultimately it's something to work with.
Edited by Miss_SR - 4 years ago
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