I am confused!! Why is Raavi nice to Rishitha?

I expected this to be Dev/Rishitha vs others show but I guess I was wrong .. Here it is more like Shiva/Dhara vs everyone ... I am so confused..

My guess is that whatever Ravi did was to annoy Shiva, but she overlooked the fact that it was also hurting Dhara. When Shiva confronted her, she realized that she was also insulting Dhara by siding with Rishita to annoy Shiva. That’s why in the end of the episode she asked Dhara to pick her room.

Its so soon that Raavi doesn’t have feelings for her childhood love anymore .. I know story is not going in that route but for me she being normal to Dev and Rishitha is creeping me out

Originally posted by: by_stander

My guess is that whatever Ravi did was to annoy Shiva, but she overlooked the fact that it was also hurting Dhara. When Shiva confronted her, she realized that she was also insulting Dhara by siding with Rishita to annoy Shiva. That’s why in the end of the episode she asked Dhara to pick her room.

Originally posted by: itsprav

Its so soon that Raavi doesn’t have feelings for her childhood love anymore .. I know story is not going in that route but for me she being normal to Dev and Rishitha is creeping me out

Well, that's who Raavi is! The only person she gets really mad at is Shiva 😆

They are a family, so make it work.

Originally posted by: itsprav

Its so soon that Raavi doesn’t have feelings for her childhood love anymore .. I know story is not going in that route but for me she being normal to Dev and Rishitha is creeping me out

I get that it has been emphasized a lot that raavi has madly loved dev since childhood but simultaneously she had fights and her nok-jhok with Shiva since their childhood too. They both provoke intense reaction from each other since the beginning and despite of how crazy she was about dev, her feelings felt a lot like a crush and less like love. It does happen that sometimes we claim to have strong feelings for someone but in reality that is not the case and raavi doesn't look the type to even consider feelings for someone who is married. She is not rishita. She does have self respect and knows her boundary. She closed the door on dev the moment he humiliated and disrespected her. I mean she tried to commit suicide and I think when a person reaches that kind of low, all they can do is go up after that and now raavi is in the process of accepting her circumstances and shiva. I mean she did get an out when Suman suggested divorce and raavi herself decided to stay so now she is in this marriage by choice. So it makes sense that she has been able to get over dev. She is over him but she has not forgotten anything. Now she has accepted shiva too to a certain extent. Shiva on the other hand, has accepted her as his wife but he doesn't love her yet. It is a work in progress. Phew! This got long. Sorry abt that

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Raavi is unreal. I can't understand how she can be so normal with Dev. Granted she always fought with Shiva and she was infatuated with Dev, even then she should show more reaction. Not just Shiva-Dev conversation is needed but also Raavi-Dev. She needs to close the loop.

We as fans justify Raavi's behavior as normal because we are eager to have her move on with Shiva. 🤪

Because she was never that close to Dev. She had never been mad at him in her entire life. No matter how many times she said she was in love with Dev, there was always some distance between the two. Even being mad at someone requires one to have a right over that person.

For Raavi, that person has always been Shiva. She feels she like complete haq on him, that’s why she can get mad at him.

Raavi thought she was in love with Dev but it was probably just infatuation or even a crush that seems to have worn out

According to me she was more upset at the thought of being humiliated in front of everyone at the mandap than not being able to marry Dev. She doesn't feel an ounce of possessiveness either for him, nor does she feel upset when she sees Dev and Rishita together or romancing.. she has moved on from him so it just doesn't come naturally to her to be mean to Rishita.. her world revolves around shiva now.. actually it always did

Raavi is acting out in her grief and hurt and in all honesty I don't feel too bad for Dhara because to me Raavi was dealt the worst hand in the marriage fiasco and while Dhara's intentions where good and in the long run the impact will also turn good since this is an ITV pairing, the present impact in Raavi's mind at least is bad. Dhara was not helping matters in my opinion with her advice to Raavi on the very next day that life is not fair.

Remember she has no romantic feelings towards Shiva at the moment. They do have chemistry in each scene but it's mostly Shiva manhandling her. During the kidnapping and the choking scene, while Shiva's actions where the one that actually saved her, I doubt Raavi sees it that way. Especially with Dev reaching to untie her in the room after kidnapping and Dev asking her if she's okay after choking on food before Shiva. In all essence. She's got a constant reminder of what she lost.

In her eyes Dhara played a major part in tying her to Shiva and hailing from a small community she knows she will probably have to spent the rest of her life with a man she vehemently hates at the moment. In her grief she cannot at the moment see Dhara's kindness. Shiva summed it up nicely, in her anger towards him, she cannot see the inherently good person that Dhara is. Ultimately this is going to hurt Raavi because she is a good person and when such people hurt others, they end up hurting themselves.

Also - this is my opinion, disagreement is welcome - I somehow don't feel Rishitha is being deliberately harmful. She comes from a very affluent background and Dev as we know is not a particularly smart cookie when it comes to proper communication. I don't think he ever really told her how his family functions. Don't get me wrong Rishita can be bull headed. The aarthi incident showed us that she is somewhere jealous f Dev's equation with Dhara, in the picnic though, I felt she was genuinely just interested in enjoying perks of being on a trip (I could be wrong). Also with regards to her saying not everything can be asked to Dhara , tell me, is she really wrong? Couples do deserve independence to make certain choices right? She should've given the option to other's to choose the room, if they so needed but I personally don't think she's she's wrong in choosing a room for herself.

Originally posted by: UmIbrahim

Raavi is acting out in her grief and hurt and in all honesty I don't feel too bad for Dhara because to me Raavi was dealt the worst hand in the marriage fiasco and while Dhara's intentions where good and in the long run the impact will also turn good since this is an ITV pairing, the present impact in Raavi's mind at least is bad. Dhara was not helping matters in my opinion with her advice to Raavi on the very next day that life is not fair.

Remember she has no romantic feelings towards Shiva at the moment. They do have chemistry in each scene but it's mostly Shiva manhandling her. During the kidnapping and the choking scene, while Shiva's actions where the one that actually saved her, I doubt Raavi sees it that way. Especially with Dev reaching to untie her in the room after kidnapping and Dev asking her if she's okay after choking on food before Shiva. In all essence. She's got a constant reminder of what she lost.

In her eyes Dhara played a major part in tying her to Shiva and hailing from a small community she knows she will probably have to spent the rest of her life with a man she vehemently hates at the moment. In her grief she cannot at the moment see Dhara's kindness. Shiva summed it up nicely, in her anger towards him, she cannot see the inherently good person that Dhara is. Ultimately this is going to hurt Raavi because she is a good person and when such people hurt others, they end up hurting themselves.

Also - this is my opinion, disagreement is welcome - I somehow don't feel Rishitha is being deliberately harmful. She comes from a very affluent background and Dev as we know is not a particularly smart cookie when it comes to proper communication. I don't think he ever really told her how his family functions. Don't get me wrong Rishita can be bull headed. The aarthi incident showed us that she is somewhere jealous f Dev's equation with Dhara, in the picnic though, I felt she was genuinely just interested in enjoying perks of being on a trip (I could be wrong). Also with regards to her saying not everything can be asked to Dhara , tell me, is she really wrong? Couples do deserve independence to make certain choices right? She should've given the option to other's to choose the room, if they so needed but I personally don't think she's she's wrong in choosing a room for herself.

At bold- respectfully disagree, IMHO

When you are on a family trip with two days old family, you have to follow the elders (here gautam and dhara ) until you know each other very well.

Gaura planned/managed the trip - dhara managed/cooked food - she must had counted raavi and rishita, too.

It is not about independence, it is about giving respect and not disturbing plan/hard work done by others for you.

Gaura knew how many rooms they have there, quality and conditions of those rooms... - they may planned already who is staying where - I don't mind if they give raavi first choice knowing her condition / trying to make her feel better / pamper a bit.... etc.

Rishita's attitude is I do not care of dhara or any other family member...- will not follow anyone's lead (understand...) - while her own father kept her prisoned .... she wants all those freedom here... in a middleclass join family !!!!!!!!!

while kicking out raavi's things from room in house, she did not think once... If she was kind hearted/caring / understanding, would think of raavi's status (will not show off how much her and dev love each other)... and try to console her... will ask for forgiveness... for ruining her wedding... and give her that room with respect ... in efforts to repent what rishita and dev did to raavi...

Raavi still knew pandyas from childhood, rishita is not aware of the family conditions/status/traditions /likings....

In general, new daughter in law takes a while to observe and know new family before opening her mouth or giving any opinions/taking decisions.