Nayi Soch? Really? - Page 5

Hey Anushka! Look, when we want Navya to postpone the wedding, it automatically means she convinces the Bajpaayees to give up a few of their age old traditions and then continues to work. We know how Navya has never tried to do anything against their wishes, and so it is obvious that even when it comes to her continuing her work and postponing the wedding, she has to keep them in consideration. And even if she thinks of postponing the wedding, the Bajpaayees have to know about it cause well, they're Anant's family! She just can't take such a big decision on her own, cause marriage is an institution where both the families are involved as well! And as many people have pointed out, why does Navya have to leave her job, get married and THEN instill Nayi Soch into her in-laws' mind? That's in fact a more predictable option, rather than Navya wanting to postpone the wedding and wanting to continue to work. And how is she gonna be able to change the Bajpaayee's mind after she's married when she's only allowed to cook and clean? We all know the condition of the DILs of the Bajpaayee family! Working after marriage would be a BRILLIANT Nayi Soch, but for that Navya cannot leave her job NOW and THEN convince the Bajpaayees after her wedding. She has to convince them NOW. If they agree to let her work, and/or postpone the wedding, then its Nayi Soch. If she's made to get married like any other SP heroine, then its as if the Bajpaayees have won. As for Amar, you're forgetting that it was Navya who once went to him and whined about her problems with RRA to him. Yes, the fact that Amar is being meherbaan on her does seem a bit funny, but we have to remember that he's telling her all this for her good. In a way, he's also right cause like Tanu pointed out, he doesn't know the hardships and the trials AnYa had to endure to let the families agree to their relationship. He only was trying to be a well wisher and mentor, as he has been in the past. He only said this because of the fact that there was once a point where he advised Navya what to do in her personal life, just like Pooja said. Here he's only telling her to re-think her decision of getting married early. Amar saw how immature Anant acted in the party and after the party. Anyone would have told her to re-think her decision of marrying Anant if they didn't know Anant personally, and that's what the PO did that day. Amar hasn't questioned her choice, he only asked her to postpone her decision. I quote "Sir, Shaadi zindagi ka ek bahut important hissa hai. Lekin hai to hissa hi naa?" (The quote has been taken from the movie Isi Life Mein, where the hero says this to the heroine's father at a point in the story). And Amar is echoing his sentiments along the same point and sentence. She's a capable girl, so why should she forsake her education and a promising career to sit at home? Then even Anant should be asked to stay at home, cause Navya was always shown to be two steps ahead of him in their academics! Nayi Soch doesn't always mean that the girl has to bow down to the wishes of her elders and her husband/fiance, and then after years of struggle and hardship, they finally realise that their DIL was right all along. The convincing can also be done at this stage in their relationship, but because of AnYa's pathetic communication and inter-personal skills, I highly doubt it is possible for both of them to talk things out. We know Navya is not the type to think about working after marriage/postponing the wedding cause she's always thought about others before herself. She never wanted to work to utilize her talents, but she wanted to work to help her parents out financially. I just want her to think for ONCE about herself, and then try and convince the families about the same. Why is it that the SP heroine can NOT think about herself? And if there's a situation where she's able to do so, she's considered selfish? This show is trying to put out some MCPish values, and that's what I'm not too happy about.

Hi Sara! I'm sure there's a bit of a MU here. Amar has asked her to rethink her decision of getting married early; he's not asking her to rethink about the fact that she has to get married to Anant. Even though the dialogues may have not been that clear in the promo, it is evident that he has no intention of asking her to break off her marriage with Anant, cause he has no right to do so. While the fact that he's being so meherbaan to her is a bit funny, but we have to understand Amar's sentiments behind what he's doing. Like Tanu rightly pointed out, he doesn't know what all AnYa had to do to let their parents agree to their wedding. He only knows that an extremely capable and diligent worker is giving up a very promising career because she wants to get married, and in a way he's right! Why does Navya have to sacrifice? No, lets put it this way. Why is it always shown that the GIRL has to sacrifice her dreams and hopes and aspirations for her husband/fiance and his family? This is a serious issue of gender inequality that the channel/show has indirectly raised time and again! And Amar has always been like her mentor and guide. She was the one who once went up to him and cried about her issues with her friends, when at that point she should have spoken about it to Anant, and that's when Amar helped her out and gave her proper advice. If he could give her advice then, it is with that same right that he's telling her to re-think about her marriage; and once again, when he asks her to rethink about her marriage, it means he's asking her to think of POSTPONING the wedding. He never was asking her to think of breaking it off. While I too don't want Anant's heart to break, and I know that Anant has had a harder time trying to convince his parents, its still not right for the heroine to always be sacrificing everything for her husband/fiance. Anant could have sorted out his jealousies and misunderstandings, but for some reason he has pathetic interpersonal skills, cause of which he's never been able to express himself to Navya. If he would have done that from the very beginning, there would have been no need for any misunderstandings or jealousies to take place. I know everyone keeps talking about Navya only, and no one really thinks about this from Anant's point of view, but its time he matured, spoke about his issues to Navya, and then they both can take the major decisions in their life TOGETHER.

Hi Meethi! I agree with your points, but I too have my reasons for appreciating Amar and his opinions, and I'll be glad if you'd bear with me for a little while. Yes, the fact that Anant was the one who initiated the idea of taking Amar out to dinner shows that he's ready to move on with his MU and insecurities and he wants to apologise to Amar and Sharmishtha for his inexcusable behavior on the night of the party, and that's commendable. Yes, Amar technically shouldn't be the one to tell Navya what to do and what not to do, but he's not wrong from his PoV either. When he talks to Navya, he doesn't see the trials Anant and her had to go through to reach this point. He only sees that an extremely capable worker is going to forsake a promising career to get married, and thinks that it is wrong. And while I admit that he has no business to interfere in Navya's personal life, we're forgetting that at a point of time, it was Navya who went up to him with her sobs stories and whined about her issues with RRA to him, and at that time he advised her what to do. It is with that right that he merely SUGGESTED to Navya to re-think about her decision to get married so early and give up a promising career. If Anant was a mature person and had talked out everything with Navya, he would actually be sympathetic with what Amar says and not feel bad about it at all. Amar has Navya's best interests at heart and so does Anant, so why should Anant get mad? Its not like Amar is asking Navya to break off her wedding with Anant right? I don't see why should Anant get offended at this point, cause Amar didn't say anything offending at all. Instead, he just put forth a though in their mind, which is a classic example of Nayi Soch. Amar was the only one who could do this cause of reasons I've mentioned in my original post. Amar wasn't telling Anant's girl what to do with her life, he was merely making a suggestion, and I don't see what is wrong in anyone suggesting this to Navya. Everyone's angry cause AMAR suggested this. What if Nimisha or Sharmishtha had made the suggestion? Would the reactions still be the same? Meethi, I'm not trying to defend Amar here or anything, I'm trying to raise a voice against the unequal treatment of a sensitive issue. And you said that no-one's bashing no-one. I was just going through the thread where the WU of the promo had been posted, and most of the people are ready to go and commit homicide and are passing death threats to Amar. Isn't that also a form of bashing?