The harsh ways and the chaos!

I feel no matter how much we try, there is just that much that our feelings and brain at a particular point of time make us understand and focus on.


The harsh ways! I always keep wondering about Neil's extreme ways of dealing with things, and whether they are really always needed, whether there is no other way of getting the same result without inflicting so much hurt and pain on ur loved ones. I have no doubt that he is a very loving, sensitive guy but I wonder about his methods, yes they are very convincing in the sense they make u really believe the act be it leaving the altar, faking Juhi's death or now breaking the marriage with Avni, but yaar they are very humiliating and very hurtful! I kind of understand the reason behind them given some situations but I always wonder whether doing it in such an extreme way is needed, in all the three cases the hurtful element would have been less had he within the same ways tried things with a slight difference, apologizing to guests during the altar act, if Avni and he know it is an act, he could at least save the family's reputation in front of guests, he could have for example informed the family about faking Juhi's death, then at least no risk of someone having a heartattack seeing that, and in breaking the shaadi even if he wanted to convince Avni, the anger he showed and his words were enough, he could have avoided breaking the mangalustra (I know it's the fake one) and wiping harshly the sindoor (the upper layer of it), the hurt would still be there but without that hurtful flash. As I said his acts are very convincing to the people seeing them (family or others) but the hurt is strong, not everyone has the ability to understand, some few things are very impactful to forget easily!

Hence I say that drama and plots are eased through Neil, through the way Neil deals with a situation either through his harsh ways, or not always saying explicitely and immeditely that he trusts Avni till he proves it in another way (Ali-Avni fiasco), not saying he loves her post Juhi's come back, he told that to everyone else but her just so that CVs keep the angst and the confused state of Avni and once again here, for whatever reason they made him do that in front of everyone, it was for drama maybe in part for Vidyut as well to see it, but if we see Neil he usually never tells her off in front of others not even when he is the one hurt (when she married him doke se), he told her off once though when she took Juhi out thinking Vidyut is under custody but then he never intended to hurt her. So actually unless it is an act, Neil would never not even in his anger hurt Avni intentionally, Avni might get frustrated and utter hurtful things to get back at him for the hurt she feels but Neil never believes in that way.

Now to Avni, I think even if she thought about Neil's dialogues before the arrest scene and even if she felt something fishy, the impact of all the flashbacks from the past and the hurt during the scene where he broke the marriage will be so strong that she won't be able to think beyond it, because pain is there in her heart it won't let her even if she wants to, I feel that she wonders about the hows and the whys but the chaos in her head will make her feel so exhausted to see such contradicting things that she would just want to shut all those voices in her head and just focus on one thing!

I know she is suffering a lot I really know and I know it's in no case easy and you should be really in her shoes, having all those thoughts and flashs from the past haunting u and never giving u a second of peace and him breaking the relationship, to feel what she must be really feeling, she must even be so tired to even understand the hows and the whys and just want to get rid of the pain she is feeling. I imagine anyone in her situation would feel deeply hurt and humiliated especially in front of everyone. I mean he usually never tells her off in front of everyone minus when he told her off about taking Juhi out yaar not even when she married him doke se so it would be hard for her to see that man she is used to see by her side being the one hurting her that way, if it was someone else it wouldn't have impacted her this way.

I hope he carefully thinks about what he is doing, I hope CVs in their attempt to prolong the misunderstanding don't make him hurt her further, I mean isolated confinement and all that.

I also want him to understand where he went wrong. I want both to realize where they went wrong, only then they will avoid repeating the past mistakes but the fact remains she is more vulnerable due to her past and the fact that it's being relived by her but I hope that doesn't prevent the introspection and retrospection once the entire situation is cleared, it might take time, require distance, I have no problem with that as long as it happens, and as long as I can see their love for each other always highlighted even when they are away from each other!


Anyways that was the chaos in my own head LOL, so u can imagine the chaos in their own heads with Avni, her past, her hurt, her heartbreak and Neil having a lot on his plate as usual (guilt and tadap, need to free her, to tackle Vidyut...)

the hard part of TV soap is that somehow the CVs have to show drama.

Beautifully summed up Naj. I think what might have hurt her is he decked her up and next moment he is wiping all the symbols away. His harsh words giving her pain may not even make her wonder why he is doing so.

Originally posted by: dsupriya

Beautifully summed up Naj. I think what might have hurt her is he decked her up and next moment he is wiping all the symbols away. His harsh words giving her pain may not even make her wonder why he is doing so.

The things he said actually could be understandable, he said I thought u would trust me, trust your husband, Neil who loves u but you still crossed the line (she was ready to run away), so I honestly feel she can understand him here but her main shock I suppose was when he wiped the sindoor and he snatched the mangalsutra and then arrested her making her think he didn't trust her

I feel these two things wiping sindoor and snatching mangalsutra and that in front of everyone had the huge impact, yes the entire scene and what he said happening in front of others as well might have had an impact on her, but if you look at his dialogues and if he said them alone with her in their bedroom, you would see his point actually but here it wasn't even his point he was not even angry at her, all this was an act.