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Bear with me here.
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, Mahirji is like a 17 year old in love for the first time. Like the control over the muscles analogy, he absolutely has no control over these feelings and emotions especially during any sort of physical/psychological crisis.He isn't doing it intentionally, he is being controlled by them. He has completely skipped that part of our lives, teenage to early adulthood where we experience certain attractions, attachments and heart breaks. He is going to learn them the hard way. Right now everything has happened to him in a very short period of time, he has been bombarded with multiple emotions, feelings, fears back to back. He didn't get sufficient time to digest these, right now he is a live wire. He is showing acute mood swings, disproportionate reactions and hyper reflexes. He is high on emotions. On top of that the fears and his own insecurities are making the kid desperate. Don't underestimate fear, they push us to do things so out of character that sometimes we surprise ourselves. We all have done it, may be for different reasons, at different ages.
I'm absolutely not denying his inbuilt possessive streak, which he definitely has, but he is displaying second stage of love. He has been showing signs of attachment and possessiveness.This is text book case. He will gradually cross over towards next stages but he is going to take his own sweet time. Right now he is exhibiting a mate's reaction to his position and place being threatened by another person. It's very primal.
That being said he is educated, liberal, loyal and very broad minded but he is a man who has it ingrained it into his soul that a man HAS to provide and protect family and friends, now imagine to what extent he will go for his mate.
And he has fallen in love with a woman who is polar opposite of what classic woman represents. She is no damsel in distress, she pretending to be one to catch his eye. But what attracted him the most is this, she being totally opposite of what he expected and what he can provide. That is what allured this man. The heart wants what it cannot have. There were and are many women who would love to be his damsel in distress. His recent reactions are only going to pinch women, who don't fall in this classic category. All women are different, they expect different things from their spouse, depending on their own personality types,age, experience and other circumstances.Bela herself has snapped at him for this same reason. There is one fine line between being a mcp and what he is portraying, it's a very delicate balance.
I'm waiting to see (apart from the initial heart break) how he reacts when it finally dawns on him that this a woman who rules a clan and fights with her life on her palm every fortnight!
P.s I'm still on the way back home, couldn't go in detail.
P.p.s I love engaging into this with you, no question of humouring.
At the risk of sounding like a broken record, Mahirji is like a 17 year old in love for the first time. Like the control over the muscles analogy, he absolutely has no control over these feelings and emotions especially during any sort of physical/psychological crisis.He isn't doing it intentionally, he is being controlled by them. He has completely skipped that part of our lives, teenage to early adulthood where we experience certain attractions, attachments and heart breaks. He is going to learn them the hard way. Right now everything has happened to him in a very short period of time, he has been bombarded with multiple emotions, feelings, fears back to back. He didn't get sufficient time to digest these, right now he is a live wire. He is showing acute mood swings, disproportionate reactions and hyper reflexes. He is high on emotions. On top of that the fears and his own insecurities are making the kid desperate. Don't underestimate fear, they push us to do things so out of character that sometimes we surprise ourselves. We all have done it, may be for different reasons, at different ages.
I'm absolutely not denying his inbuilt possessive streak, which he definitely has, but he is displaying second stage of love. He has been showing signs of attachment and possessiveness.This is text book case. He will gradually cross over towards next stages but he is going to take his own sweet time. Right now he is exhibiting a mate's reaction to his position and place being threatened by another person. It's very primal.
That being said he is educated, liberal, loyal and very broad minded but he is a man who has it ingrained it into his soul that a man HAS to provide and protect family and friends, now imagine to what extent he will go for his mate.
And he has fallen in love with a woman who is polar opposite of what classic woman represents. She is no damsel in distress, she pretending to be one to catch his eye. But what attracted him the most is this, she being totally opposite of what he expected and what he can provide. That is what allured this man. The heart wants what it cannot have. There were and are many women who would love to be his damsel in distress. His recent reactions are only going to pinch women, who don't fall in this classic category. All women are different, they expect different things from their spouse, depending on their own personality types,age, experience and other circumstances.Bela herself has snapped at him for this same reason. There is one fine line between being a mcp and what he is portraying, it's a very delicate balance.
I'm waiting to see (apart from the initial heart break) how he reacts when it finally dawns on him that this a woman who rules a clan and fights with her life on her palm every fortnight!
P.s I'm still on the way back home, couldn't go in detail.
P.p.s I love engaging into this with you, no question of humouring.
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