DOTW: Inspiration vs. Aspiration - Page 2

Originally posted by: -BlueFairy-

OMGGG finally seeing you here after a long tim 🤗 Ash, it has been too long since I had the pleasure of your sweet words. Really glad that you are back 😃 and your post like always its Beauuutiful and brilliantly written ⭐️ ⭐️.I,ve always been told the same thing and the same lesson by my elders and today your post reminded me all their advices 😳.We tend to disregard advice from our elders so easily not realizing that in fact we are cutting ourselves off from our own heritage. I tried to understand my Aunt's advice even though my cousin found it harsh. Then again I understand my cousin's heart too and its captivation with an aspiration. True, we have much to be grateful for, and so if the worst thing to happen to you is that you marry Mr Nice, your life is still very much blessed BUT then again I think if you have the courage to hold onto hope then maybe you should seek that Mr Amazing, or the closest thing to it or as I like to call him, Mr Very Nice! OR AKA "I can't believe it's not Mr Amazing!" 😆

Sorry, I digress.

For me both Sajan and Mayur were a beautiful inspiration rather than aspiration.From what I learned after seeing Sajan,s story was True Friendship 😳the beautiful bond of friendship that touched my heart and thru thois bond they entered to a new stage of life which was Love 😳.

I loved the fact that Gunjan was the first to fall in love out of the group as she was the one who had no expectations of love, of how it should be, how it will come etc. In this way she was more open to it when it arrived and embraced it in her entirety. A girl who would flinch at a hug, allowed herself to become suffused by another soul's nearness.

Rather than concentrating on the looks and physical features of characters,we should try to look into their charatcer form inside cuz the inner beauty of heart is better than the outer beauty of a person 😳and that is another thing which I learned from Sajan.I love the example you gave about Mr nice and Mr amazing and also for Samrat like people should try to find his qualities in theirselves or others but not the same to same person which we have seen in the show 😳. Exactly, in this way, no matter who you are, where you are, whether you are single, married, divorced or engaged, there is hope that you will find those qualities that you are endeared towards in Samrat or Gunjan in the person holding you hand. If not, then you can still seek them in yourself. There is much joy in that alone.

Amazinggg and fantastic post 👏 👏 👏Really loved it 😳 Thank you for your heartfelt reply, I truly appreciate it. Love Sabah.

Originally posted by: myownarea

sabah 🤗 cos I missed u loads!!Oh, Divya, I might cry, which would make you feel awkward as you try to squeeze at least a bead of sweat from your cheek. :P I missed you too.

Edited!!

I havent been to the forum much, infact except commenting on an occasional VM, I havent been here at all, but here is something I like :)True, it is difficult to write without inspiration and I have yet to find something to replace my old muse, that was MJHT. : ( Nevermind, the old muse still has many nuances left to become captivated by : )

Abt MJHT , I am glad to say when I first watched it I was 26. I was already married by then! Why I say I'm glad is this. I was a practical and focussed teenager with not ANY aspiration of bumping into Mr Perfect . I had absolutely no interest in matters of the heart ,falling in love seemed such a waste of time . ( I know, now people might find it hard to imagine me like that, but thats how I was :D )...It is always the 'practical' ones that 'crash' into love. I think it is because you don't carry any expectations, or conditioning of how and where and in what manner, love should make its entrance. I had many friends, girls and boys, but one person became more special than others and slowly as if to prove everything I held close to heart -wrong, I fell in love, slowly, without realising it at first. I grew to love the person and slowly changed into somebody who believed in love. (How could I not after having fallen so deeply in love? )To quote Darcy (seems appropriate :P ) I was in the middle before I knew that I had begun

My perception of love changed when I experienced it. I loved books and movies and the love stories often interested me, but not for me..but for those characters..now I believe in love 'cos it happened to me! Strange how things work in life. Truly you can not force a belief into another's heart or soul, you must wait UNTIL that heart and soul has breathed in that belief! Just beautiful Divya!

As a rule, owing to my experiences I dont believe in believing in an image created by actors on screen or authors in books and get carried away into believe this is how life is...a fairytale of sorts. Giving MJHT its due credit, it was more real than a mere fairytale, hence if people wait for a Mayank, I wouldn't blame them for such men do exist, maybe they dont look the way Arjun does, but then the qualities of Mayank, the faults and the good qualities combined are real enough to exist.Very astute point whose sharpness still manages to fail to scratch the surface of some people's minds.However, to think someone falls for the character for only their looks is a little disconcerting for there is a huge difference between whats real and whats portrayed on screen.Tell me about it. I learned the hard way with a story similar to my friend's, in substance NOT form, for which I am very, very grateful.

However it is understandable that some become spellbound for 'the screen' is a type of enchantment.

The fairytale you look for should be from what you've experienced in your life and not inspired by someone else's imagination which is what MJHT , movies and books are about..Ah! Divya wisdom. How I have missed you dearly! To be in love with a delusion is tragedy, to be in love with your own imagination is insane but to be in love with another's imagined figment, is a whole new level of psychosis.😆😳

Life is not about mere shows and movies...there is so much more to it ...people need to see people around them and recognise them for what they are and not be blinded by prejuidices that the society or even such shows have created. Beautiful is not always the best, sometimes you might find your diamond in a stone that you had been ignoring owing to your preconceived and prejuidiced notions!Just wonderful!

I would genuinely encourage everyone to read more, look around, listen to conversations..(LISTEN not hear!) , react to kindness, think more and learn to live without crutches of fairytales.

Divya, an honour as always. Love Sabah.😳

Originally posted by: -Sajjal-

Dearest Ambreen, I was truly happy to see that you took the time to post as you always add an interesting layer. 😳

As,human beings we tend to hope alot when it comes to the matters of the heart and cannot help but resist the mere image of unperfection when we know or feel that one mr perfect is there out in the world, as fairytales suggest just made for them.True sometimes to let go of hopes feels akin to letting yourself drown. Then again holding onto hopes that never materialize feels like holding onto hot coals.

I guess i being a pratical person through out life never let movies, books or even music blur away my reasonable and practical thinking but recently i have also come upon the matters of my heart and which i had condemned away as they were based on sheer emotions and none of that praticallity i prided myself on. So i guess to say that i never waited was wrong, but i never let the reel affect the real either. You are truly blessed, as I thought, wise beyond your years. Unlike myself. I have always been a dreamer, pinning unto my back wings of hope, trying to fly and as I fall to the ground wondering 'why?'😕😳😆

Stories like mayur and sajan's are defintely very inspirable to many young hearts whom wish to have something special as that within their own lifes, but i guess it really depends on the person because even the hardest of hearts can't resist love its a fact. Love is well, recently i came upon these beautiful wordings, ''When the moon comes out at night, we all see it, like it and appreciate its beauty, but eventually the morning comes, and we can't see it anymore. But even when you can't see the moon, you know its there. Its existence can be felt even if it can't be seen. Love is also like the moon ... when the ones that you love are there, love is beautiful and when they leave ... love does not leave with them. It does not fade away'' Just beautiful. Thank you for sharing. you don't need Mr. perfect right there infront of you but you also can't give up the right to wait for him, its in human nature to want and Love is forever surging our emotions and pushing the cords we never want pushed and hence Mr. perfect becomes aspiration when we see it , we want it regardless of the fact that it might be some build up character a perfect image of perfection, fake character that can't exist in real life or some fairytale ending.I am glad that your 'practical' heart understands or empathizes with enchantment. You have always shown a mature understanding of all the intricacies of the human experience.

i guess in the end, personally love should be inspired by your own life, your better half should be the perfect fit to your life not some build up fairytale prince charming and neither a mayank or samrat. Even i got swayed in the battle of aspiration when i saw someone perfect as mayank but in real terms i have come to understand very important...that perfection itself is mere unperfection and my perfection was always right beside me. Wonderful. So true, no matter how ethereal an imagined aspiration may seem it can never compare to how wonderful the real feels. How many times i have seen people traverse valleys and climb mountains in search of a single orchid whilst leaving behind the wildflowers in nearby meadow.

I think we must seek beauty and light in every avenue open to us. People say tv isn't real it is reel. Which is true and false too. IF you were to look for Mayank in Arjun you would fail. But there is something of Mayank to be found in Arjun, in the creators, in the writers and even in the actors playing opposite Arjun for we cannot help but take pieces of those who are in our company. I think people should look for their Mayank, as you said, but in order to do so improve yourself so that you deserve Mayank, and in the meantime, find inspiration in the reel Mayank portrayed by Arjun.

Life is just beautiful and people sometimes get blinded by the want of something they feel they can never have and start to look for him when he might be just right beside them. But sometimes we just need to stop and look around and realize that ...the perfection they hand been looking for was there the whole time and not let fairytales and reel stories sway them away from the reality.

Excellently written. Life is beautiful. Even the reel. For instance, the coolness of Mayank, that suaveness of action, that feeling of security you get just by looking at him, excellently portrayed by Arjun, and wonderfully penned by the writers, that is visible, it is real, it is beauty and it is light. However as you said that very aspiration can become a prison, caging us to one hope in one form when in fact it should open us to the idea that the substance is attainable by each and every one of us. If we all strove to fulfill the potential within us all, we could all have our Mayanks or Samrats by becoming their complimenting Nupurs or Gunjans.

Great topic sabah appi. Indeed a pleasure to see you again after so long Ambreen, it was truly a pleasure. God bless you. Love Sabah

Originally posted by: nishi_sajan

It is indeed a thought provoking and beautiful topic. I adore the way you penned it. When I read this topic at first, my answer was 'Yes, I take it as an inspiration'. But when I gave it a second thought, I realized that along with inspiration, I have also taken it as an aspiration. This is what my conclusion is. Hope I convey it properly. Do correct me if I am wrong. I would definitely love to change this attitude 😳

I feel that it is mostly based on our expectations and the way our heart loses itself completely to a show or a particular character. Inspiration and aspiration go hand in hand. Everything will be fine as long as if we know what we are doing. Self control and the awareness that it is a fantasy is much needed. If we forget the fact that it is just a show, then it becomes an aspiration. For example, Gunjan, a character, is really sweet and kind. So every other character adores her and loves her. So I take her as my inspiration and try to be like her. But I can't expect the outcome to be the same. I can't expect the people to react the same way like the other characters did. I feel that it becomes an aspiration. The same goes for problems. If a hero solves a problem by fighting, we can't expect the real life people also to do the same because in real life we name them differently. In real life, people have different idea about real life heroes and only the people who live in real life can accept it. The same goes for friendship and other human emotions. The action and reaction really matters. If I say I love this character, then it should mean only the character and not the person whom we don't know. For that, I should know my limits. I should have control over my heart. Inspiration and Aspiration has a thin line of difference. Sometimes one take over the other and sometimes both play their cards. Dreams! I mean the ones we dream about the shows. I feel we can't name them as dreams. It can be named as thoughts. We normally think about the show we love and we think about the guy who plays the lead. The problem arises there. We see him as a person instead of seeing it as a light with positivity. With this character, we start dreaming about the couple and somewhere or the other we modify. So it becomes an aspiration. The love story which we took it as an inspiration becomes an aspiration. So even if we have a perfect life, it becomes imperfect before our eyes. We will be clouded by fantasy. This way each and every thought take over us and finally we end up losing what we have. About the self realization, it depends on right time. This one is dangerous because at times we might lose the loved ones forever. So I guess taking precaution is a better step rather than getting hurt. It would be better if we have a guide and it becomes much better if we become a perfect guide for ourselves. We should really know the difference! We should take each and every character like a book which holds lot of knowledge. We should take the positive things from it and avoid the negative things.

I am really glad that I came across this topic. I am sure it will have some effect on me. And please do correct me if I am wrong!😳

Dearest Nishi,

After reading your post, I think i hit the like button around 101 times. Fortunately that is an odd number so the 'like' remained. Your post is so beautiful and eloquently written. It is so full of insight and wisdom that I immediately checked out your profile to be amazed at your tender age. Truly you are blessed way above your years. I wanted to highlight my favourite parts and nearly ended up highlight everything. 😳 After careful consideration I illuminated in pink those lines that I felt were most profound and made me ponder a little more. Thank you for sharing these wonderful thoughts.

I loved how you took both viewpoints. Included both inspiration and aspiration without diminishing either in essence but rather forming a new union of inspired aspiration. This truly takes an enlightened heart to perceive. I am in awe. Just wonderful! 👏⭐️

I have always believed that relationships, the best kind, are like seasaws, you need two people to enjoy the ride, but two people playing. It works by one side giving something whilst the other takes, and then the roles reverse. It never works if only ones side gives, for then the journey becomes stuck, no progression forwards, just stuck at an impasse. As you have given me something, it is now my turn to return the gesture so that we may progress forth.

Firstly my return push on 'inspiration' from your bit @green. As I said to Divya, "To be in love with a delusion is tragedy, to be in love with your own imagination is insane but to be in love with another's imagined figment, is a whole new level of psychosis." I mean at least those who are charmed by actors have an outside chance whereas I do not even have a gnat's hope of consequence. HOWEVER this leads me onto a question I once posed on this very forum. "If the human heart is capable of imagining such a character, then it is also possible for it to become such a character?"

To which my soul screams a resounding YES! Segueing smoothly onto aspirations, from your part @blue.

The crux of your issue seems to be whether or not to keep hold of those inevitable aspirations that stow away upon inspirations that sail through our souls and anchor in our hearts. As you pointed out, an inspiration may aspire to be 'as seen on TV' but the reality falls short. OR does it?

I contend that we fall short by underestimating aspirations. We limit them by what we have seen, our experience, TV and so forth. Instead we should hope to find better that what Gunjan found. Be like her but expect better. In this way you will won't gain Samrat BUT something better than Samrat. Let us have a high opinion of aspirations. May you find better than what you seek, and seek better that what you find.

Love Sabah

Originally posted by: mayadika11

omgggggg SABAH after long time u have posted another inspirational post dear....loved it to the core....i was really missing ur fab. posts...

glad u penned down ur wonderful thoughts on such a beautiful post...

well for me both the stories of SAJAN/MAYUR have been inspirational....their love stories are truly eternal for me....SAJAN redefined friendship and selfless love for me....MAYUR redefined eternal and priceless love for me....both these love stories r close to my heart and will always be forever.....i am really proud to be a fan of MJHT that gave us these evergreen love stories to us.....

thanx a ton for ur pm too....

take care....

Originally posted by: -Mehak

Life is difficult without dreams, it is just that u need to mold your dreams in the limitations of moral values.

I am a 19 year old girl, a normal college going girl, with set of dreams, obligations of my family and the duties of carrying myself in a way according to my family's values and morals.

I cover my head when i walk on streets, i lower my gaze in front of strangers, i speak in low voice in front of my father, everything a normal muslim girl should do, but again i experience things which take me to another world of stories and fantasies.

I dream endlessly, and i don't even remember since when?, the day i remember i had been dreaming about perfect life partner, who would be just as perfect as a dream. I tried finding him in every TV serial i followed, in every hero that came on TV, i admire characters and then keep on prolonging my list of qualities my life partner should have, but it was MJHT , it was MAYANK SHARMA who gave my dreams a higher boost.

I started following MJHT, because i could see a glimpse of my prince charming in mayank, and as long as it came on air, i was obsessed with it, i still am. I can never get over Mayank Shrama. He is the person who filled colors in my dreams, but then again i didn't get carried away.

I do dream about my partner, but never did i leave the boundaries of my values and religion to go and find my mayank.

Everyone gets chances, i also get. I go to my college and i find hundred boys, who APPARENTLY are just like my mayank. I do get wrong calls on my mobile phone , who claim to be the perfect prince charming, but i manage to keep myself away from them, just because, i want to find my mayank in my husband, inshAllah, in the relation that would be allowed by the society, allowed by my religion. Sometimes i think what if i get married to a person totally opposite mayank, that would be painful, but then again i know, the type of person i am, i will try to find some attributes of mayank in him. 😳

I don't know to whom will i get married, and i don't know when will he enter my life , so all i do is wait for him, and pray to Allah.

I took MAYUR as an inspiration, there sincerity, there purity, there respect, there un-defined love, there sense of sacrifice, these are things which i would like to see in my love -story, one that would start after my marriage. inshAllah

I love MAYUR, but at the same time, i recognize things which were wrong in them and also i know where to draw a line between reality and fantasy.

Sabah di! u are truly my ideal! keep making such topics..

Originally posted by: a little faith

My most sincerest advice if you are searching for Mayank Sharma then seek to become Nupur Bhushan first. Something worthy for something worthy.

I truly hope you find and gain your Mayank Sharma. Ameen.

Love Sabah.