DOTW: Inspiration vs. Aspiration

Inspiration vs. Aspiration

Case Study Number one.

Recently I was privy to the inner workings of a girl's heart. My cousin sister who was refusing to marry 'Mr Nice' because long ago she gave her heart to Mr Amazing.

Mr Nice is a good, hard working boy who lives in the real world BUT Mr Amazing is a fusion of words of a writer and the flesh of a 'very handsome' actor.

Even though my aunt did not know the reason behind her hesitation, she guessed a little, maybe from her own experience OR maybe this is a universal experience, that her heart was waiting for an impossible aspiration. She guided, that as with most marriages that have stood the tests of time and tide, you will learn to love your husband.

Case Study Number two.

Once this girl who was totally ga-ga for this character journeyed her way to his motel room, only to find an actor who was much like any other man, and then she realized that she always had the character, it was her fiance and so she returned to him. Love isn't blind, but can be blinded by beauty, like the flash of a fierce lightning bolt.

Many people take stories such as MayUr or SaJan as inspirational sparks that light up their own souls. For me the best consequence of MJHT is that I seek that beauty, light and love in myself and those I meet. So I am not seeking Samrat but rather Samrat's light in others as well as myself.

However on the other hand I think of my cousin sister, I think of my friend who despite the happy ending, did indeed end up in the motel room, and I think of myself and I can not help but wonder if what my mind may rationalize as 'I am not ready yet,' my heart only too well knows is a wait for an unattainable aspiration.

So my question for debate is this:-

Considering the effect upon the heart of such stories as MayUr and SaJan which raise 'expectations' of love, are dramas good or detrimental for the human soul when most people make them aspirations rather than beautiful inspiration?

sabah 🤗 cos I missed u loads!!

Edited!!

OMGGG finally seeing you here after a long tim 🤗 Really glad that you are back 😃 and your post like always its Beauuutiful and brilliantly written ⭐️ ⭐️.I,ve always been told the same thing and the same lesson by my elders and today your post reminded me all their advices 😳.For me both Sajan and Mayur were a beautiful inspiration rather than aspiration.From what I learned after seeing Sajan,s story was True Friendship 😳the beautiful bond of friendship that touched my heart and thru thois bond they entered to a new stage of life which was Love 😳.

Originally posted by: aashizin

sabah first of all its very well written and portrayed post wonderful 👏👏 u put wonderful case study with one lady's discovering mr perfect 😳 i think inspiration ,aspiration and realization whole journey to discover and to find out path , Inspiration is the beginning of our spiritual journey; aspiration is the middle of our spiritual journey; and realisation is the end of our spiritual journey. loved the way u described mr nice and mr amazing (u recalled me guddi movie with this thoughts 😳😆) girl who has a her dream man with her but she was running behind to one actor whom she thoughts he was only amazing and perfect man in this world but she then realized that guy who was her true lover was her dream man whom she was searching , and she got to know in reality true love exist

i agree mjht gave us wonderful portrayal of true love with sajan and mayur stories different but eternal stories , sajan made us learn what is called true friendship and love one eternal selfless love story we always saw in any fairy tale but we saw it with them in reality with show ,i think its discovering true love in our love ones we have to find it

The greatest love you could ever find in your lifetime is the awesome love of ur partner has for you. Don't allow yourself to go through life without finding it. u can feel it u can discover it

its one inspiration with aspiration which make ppl to realize true and deep love obviously finding and discovering it as u mentioned ur cousin's case study where in motel she discovered her would be husband was the man whom she always searching in that mr amazing star

sajan and mayur set wonderful example of true and eternal love which always make anyone to feel the same essence in their any relationship whether it would be friendship or love situation can be different but realization , inspiration can't be it has always same essence in it , i also need inspiration for discovering 😳 i need to sake up and wake up only 😆

Originally posted by: a little faith

Aashizin,

Just beautifully written. My heart hummed and all. 😳 @pink, just wonderfully written. thanks a tone sabah 😳its all bcz of ur wonderful post seriously very wonderful topic to ponder and brood 😳👏

A beautiful journey indeed, inspiration, aspiration and finally realization. Very profound. I hope every person's inspired aspirations become beautiful truth. i guess all r responsible their own blooming look of inspiration , discovering ourselves is in our hand u r always with ur own way and essence with ur persona but u also grow more day by day becoming new person discovering urself and discovering wonderful qualities which inspire u and make u to aspire as well its all depends on interaction u know ppl more and discover new quality in them everytime its like one self motivation leading them to realize and discovering

You raised very mature points about understanding the true and pure reality of love, however I can not help but note real life cases of mature and sensible people whose heart resist, flinch at tying themselves to another for the hope that if they just wait longer, seek harder they will find that perfection they seek, all the while being urged on by 'dramas.' sabah i agree understanding the true and pure reality of love is like discovering it from every person real life's case r just one experience which inspire us to feel the same way it acquires study of ppl and knowledge abt them to find pure soul undertaking and discovering it seekers always tries to find what they want to feel and to get and when reality make them to realize what they feel they can have only they has to find it of course some ppl finds it early and some takes time finding and realizing true love obviously discovering it

It is theory vs. practical. For in truth people understand how they should feel but the 'enchantment' of SaJan and MayUr, tug at their heart strings and so they hesitate, just a moment longer, BUT for how much longer before even hopes turn to dust. sajan and mayur r mere reality of true love it was based on one drama but in reality such a love exist yes its theory vs practical we read any theory and then put it in practically its difference to feel sajan and mayur's love story and feel same way with ur own life partner like i heard many of ppl say that we r just like sajan and mayur our love story was like that its best example to see that they seriously discovered their pure ,deep and true love in their partner 😳

Love Sabah

As,human beings we tend to hope alot when it comes to the matters of the heart and cannot help but resist the mere image of unperfection when we know or feel that one mr perfect is there out in the world, as fairytales suggest just made for them.

It is indeed a thought provoking and beautiful topic. I adore the way you penned it. When I read this topic at first, my answer was 'Yes, I take it as an inspiration'. But when I gave it a second thought, I realized that along with inspiration, I have also taken it as an aspiration. This is what my conclusion is. Hope I convey it properly. Do correct me if I am wrong. I would definitely love to change this attitude 😳

I feel that it is mostly based on our expectations and the way our heart loses itself completely to a show or a particular character. Inspiration and aspiration go hand in hand. Everything will be fine as long as if we know what we are doing. Self control and the awareness that it is a fantasy is much needed. If we forget the fact that it is just a show, then it becomes an aspiration. For example, Gunjan, a character, is really sweet and kind. So every other character adores her and loves her. So I take her as my inspiration and try to be like her. But I can't expect the outcome to be the same. I can't expect the people to react the same way like the other characters did. I feel that it becomes an aspiration. The same goes for problems. If a hero solves a problem by fighting, we can't expect the real life people also to do the same because in real life we name them differently. In real life, people have different idea about real life heroes and only the people who live in real life can accept it. The same goes for friendship and other human emotions. The action and reaction really matters. If I say I love this character, then it should mean only the character and not the person whom we don't know. For that, I should know my limits. I should have control over my heart. Inspiration and Aspiration has a thin line of difference. Sometimes one take over the other and sometimes both play their cards. Dreams! I mean the ones we dream about the shows. I feel we can't name them as dreams. It can be named as thoughts. We normally think about the show we love and we think about the guy who plays the lead. The problem arises there. We see him as a person instead of seeing it as a light with positivity. With this character, we start dreaming about the couple and somewhere or the other we modify. So it becomes an aspiration. The love story which we took it as an inspiration becomes an aspiration. So even if we have a perfect life, it becomes imperfect before our eyes. We will be clouded by fantasy. This way each and every thought take over us and finally we end up losing what we have. About the self realization, it depends on right time. This one is dangerous because at times we might lose the loved ones forever. So I guess taking precaution is a better step rather than getting hurt. It would be better if we have a guide and it becomes much better if we become a perfect guide for ourselves. We should really know the difference! We should take each and every character like a book which holds lot of knowledge. We should take the positive things from it and avoid the negative things.

I am really glad that I came across this topic. I am sure it will have some effect on me. And please do correct me if I am wrong!😳