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@ Vmars - Thank you for your comments. I did want to know a different point of view and thanks for that. That being said, I do want to clear up a few misconceptions. I never said that people should not express their true opinions and neither did I say that things need to be sugar coated. I am mature enough to understand that not every body works that way and that is fine.
My main point is in regards to comments being made about the creatives which I still maintain is sometimes not healthy. I don't have an issue with people not liking the show, or not liking a story line or a scene or a character...its a TV show and everyone is going to have their own likes and dislikes. Like I said, not everyone is going to be happy ALL the time. However, I do not think that anyone has the right to make insulting comments about someone else's work without knowing every angle or aspect of the amount/quality/quantity of the work they do. A creative cannot just improve a show over night and even if they want to there are a lot of factors that go into the creative process... not the views of us fans alone. I admit, like PD, that the story has deviated a couple of times but there could be a lot of reasons for that. Do we as fans honestly know ALL the factors that were responsible for that deviation? Sometimes in life, things don't always go as planned!
I also would like to clear up the fact about always posting positive comments and making it seem like we love the show. Once again, that was not in my original post and not my intention either. You are right about giving the creatives our honest feedback....which includes both praise and criticism. However, there is a difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism.
For eg. If I did not like the rain scene, constructive criticism would be...'I did not like the Mayur rain scene. It was too short and I did not feel it took the story forward in any way. I wold have preferred if they talked all the way home and bonded over how silly their fights were'
Destructive criticism on the other hand...would be something like 'The Mayur rain scene sucked! The creatives don't know how to write a scene. The creatives should thank Arjun and Rati for saving them in this scene. Don't they know how to write dialogues!' Etc etc
(The above is just an example and not pointing fingers to anyone in this forum)
I hope you get what I mean.
Coming to your last point, I am a passionate fan too...just because I haven't been active or make several posts about how much I love/hate something does not mean that I don't care for the show. Personally for me, the fact that PD comes into this forum and interacts with fans, means a lot to me. She does not have to do this and she certainly does not owe it to us to come and interact with us. She makes the effort because she enjoyed the interaction. I still do feel that we owe it to her to make this place funner but I don't think she owe's it to us to 'make the show better' since everyone's variation of the word 'better' has different meanings (e.g. Sajan fans think having Sheena out is better and Mayur fans think having more emotional bonding is better) Although that is a whole different debate all together.
My intention with the post was not to correct people's language or to tell them to sugar coat their comments or even not post their views. I am mature enough to understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and will do what they want regardless of what I say. I wanted to understand people's thinking. I did also want to bring a different view point in support of the creatives because I personally felt bad after reading that PD was upset with things in the forum. As a fan, I don't like to see a creative and someone who is working to make me happy, upset because of something that can be controlled. That's just my point of view :)
My main point is in regards to comments being made about the creatives which I still maintain is sometimes not healthy. I don't have an issue with people not liking the show, or not liking a story line or a scene or a character...its a TV show and everyone is going to have their own likes and dislikes. Like I said, not everyone is going to be happy ALL the time. However, I do not think that anyone has the right to make insulting comments about someone else's work without knowing every angle or aspect of the amount/quality/quantity of the work they do. A creative cannot just improve a show over night and even if they want to there are a lot of factors that go into the creative process... not the views of us fans alone. I admit, like PD, that the story has deviated a couple of times but there could be a lot of reasons for that. Do we as fans honestly know ALL the factors that were responsible for that deviation? Sometimes in life, things don't always go as planned!
I also would like to clear up the fact about always posting positive comments and making it seem like we love the show. Once again, that was not in my original post and not my intention either. You are right about giving the creatives our honest feedback....which includes both praise and criticism. However, there is a difference between constructive criticism and destructive criticism.
For eg. If I did not like the rain scene, constructive criticism would be...'I did not like the Mayur rain scene. It was too short and I did not feel it took the story forward in any way. I wold have preferred if they talked all the way home and bonded over how silly their fights were'
Destructive criticism on the other hand...would be something like 'The Mayur rain scene sucked! The creatives don't know how to write a scene. The creatives should thank Arjun and Rati for saving them in this scene. Don't they know how to write dialogues!' Etc etc
(The above is just an example and not pointing fingers to anyone in this forum)
I hope you get what I mean.
Coming to your last point, I am a passionate fan too...just because I haven't been active or make several posts about how much I love/hate something does not mean that I don't care for the show. Personally for me, the fact that PD comes into this forum and interacts with fans, means a lot to me. She does not have to do this and she certainly does not owe it to us to come and interact with us. She makes the effort because she enjoyed the interaction. I still do feel that we owe it to her to make this place funner but I don't think she owe's it to us to 'make the show better' since everyone's variation of the word 'better' has different meanings (e.g. Sajan fans think having Sheena out is better and Mayur fans think having more emotional bonding is better) Although that is a whole different debate all together.
My intention with the post was not to correct people's language or to tell them to sugar coat their comments or even not post their views. I am mature enough to understand that everyone is entitled to their own opinion and will do what they want regardless of what I say. I wanted to understand people's thinking. I did also want to bring a different view point in support of the creatives because I personally felt bad after reading that PD was upset with things in the forum. As a fan, I don't like to see a creative and someone who is working to make me happy, upset because of something that can be controlled. That's just my point of view :)
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