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Posted: 13 years ago

Watching today's episode reiterated what the television, keeps kicking in - in almost all serials... like Imli said - a woman can feel complete only when she is married and has kids !!!!!! This fact is pushed into every serial like crazy and I suppose Maryada while being path breaking for a indian tv serial could not resist the old touch like the many serials!!!

I am a woman in my early 40's taking a break from a highly stressful corporate Job and therefore hooked to watching some TV... I am single, successful , content too and highly satisfied with my life and when I heard Imli speak today, could not but help laughing at the mentality that still bogs down most that marriage defines the identity of a woman...

No offence to married women, some of my Best friends are married and some are not and we are all a very happy group - co existing ... though more regrets from the married ones at the freedom we singles have LOL !!!!

Well for that change to come... I suppose it will have to be a maryada part 2 ... since every story about every single brave woman in the end turns into a love story ... where its shown like she was waiting for prince charming to come along!!!!

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Posted: 13 years ago

Blrgal...well said and could not agree more. I am in my thirties but similar in that I am in a very successful job, single and do not think marriage in any way defines me as a person...or anybody for that matter. I do not live in India but questions I get asked all the time by fellow-Desis are...'when are you getting married'...'your biological clock is ticking...when will you have a baby'. 🤔 Honestly...I pay no heed to anybody and have lived my life on my terms. Indian shows propogate the age old view of women's roles in families...women as wives...as daughters...as sisters...as mothers...rarely as a single successful person who is actually happy! Such a pity!

BTW does the 'Blr' in your ID refer to Bengaluru?

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Posted: 13 years ago

BTW does the 'Blr' in your ID refer to Bengaluru?

Yep, it refers to Bangalore... still can never refer to my city as bengaluru !! LOL !!

Agree with you , marriage for reasons that society expects... so not. my philosophy! Glad you are enjoying life... have fun and be happy... cheers!!

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: blrgal

BTW does the 'Blr' in your ID refer to Bengaluru?

Yep, it refers to Bangalore... still can never refer to my city as bengaluru !! LOL !!

Agree with you , marriage for reasons that society expects... so not. my philosophy! Glad you are enjoying life... have fun and be happy... cheers!!

😆...am from Bangalore too but have grown used to referring to it as Bengaluru every so often!

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Posted: 13 years ago

Imli has always been set in her ways when it comes to being a typical indian. She wasnt even too pleased when it was decided that Uttara should remarry.
But one thing which she did say was right, well half of it. Vidya should get a divorce, thats right, so she can remarry, thats upto Vidya alone.
Imli was brought up this way, that women should get married, have children and be by your husbands side, no matter what. Vidya too. But living with the Jakhars has given Vidya a choice which she never had before. At present Vidya wants to study further and then help women who also want to study further, do something with their lives rather than just getting married and having children.
Vidya should free herself from this marriage so she gets the closure she needs. And if she does meet someone in the future then it will be easier for her.

I think it was mentioned in the show just to point out that its not necessary for every woman to get married and have children to feel complete.

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Posted: 13 years ago

True! I am not one of those girls who dream about marriage...and I appreciate your thoughts :D Thank you for sharing them!!!

I think through Imli we can see all those stereotypical women who think marriage is the only important thing in women's lives...

I love how CVs are portraying such views and then contradicting them :D

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Posted: 13 years ago

I think it is subjective

Different people need different things. men and women alike.

I am a career woman but I also treasure having an Aditya in my life. I see both sides of my life as crucial to my success and my happiness. Yet I can also live by myself if a calamity struck

I know many women who think like me and then I also know woman (my sister beign one) who chose to live a single life. She has a few friends who are single women they seem happy enough. though I know my sister who is now in her mid 40s wishes she had got married and had kids when she stays over with my family.

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Posted: 13 years ago

I loved how the creatives, thru Imli, voiced what many South Asian women are taught from childhood. that u have to marry n have kids(boys preferably) to be complete, or else the society won't let u live in peace!

I just hate it when people poke their big nose n ask personal questions based on marriage n kids... there should be more Indian shows where the female lead doesn't go laden with jewels, falling fainting when the knight in shining armor is nearby 🤪, then marry and face bad in-laws, keep crying n viewers shower them with sympathy 🥱

I hope Maryada makes good use of this extension and doesn't bow down due to typical mentalities... Hats off to all the single women living in India, coz Indians still have to grasp that a woman can be single and yet live very happily without repenting!

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Posted: 13 years ago

Originally posted by: --Hope--
I think it is subjective

Different people need different things. men and women alike.

I am a career woman but I also treasure having an Aditya in my life. I see both sides of my life as crucial to my success and my happiness. Yet I can also live by myself if a calamity struck

I know many women who think like me and then I also know woman (my sister beign one) who chose to live a single life. She has a few friends who are single women they seem happy enough. though I know my sister who is now in her mid 40s wishes she had got married and had kids when she stays over with my family.

It is subjective Hope! and like i said - i have both kinda friends and there is no difference... just that there are many women who are single and happy and live with no regrets and it is time that Indian TV acknowledged that.

I love my niece and nephew and maybe would have liked to adopt... but chose not to... with absolutely no regrets... but Indian mentality of wondering when the girl will marry... is a cross that society carries... will take a longer time to overcome that...

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Posted: 13 years ago

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Originally posted by: _dkmystery_
I loved how the creatives, thru Imli, voiced what many South Asian women are taught from childhood. that u have to marry n have kids(boys preferably) to be complete, or else the society won't let u live in peace!

I just hate it when people poke their big nose n ask personal questions based on marriage n kids... there should be more Indian shows where the female lead doesn't go laden with jewels, falling fainting when the knight in shining armor is nearby 🤪, then marry and face bad in-laws, keep crying n viewers shower them with sympathy 🥱

I hope Maryada makes good use of this extension and doesn't bow down due to typical mentalities... Hats off to all the single women living in India, coz Indians still have to grasp that a woman can be single and yet live very happily without repenting!

Thanks!! could not agree more... but the surprise is that while the majority think like that... there is a minority like my grandma who would tell me...Marriage is not the be all and end all of life... be independent, stand tall and be happy... ( BTW- she was happily married to my gramps for more than 6 decades) so too my gramps and my parents and most of my extended family... easy for me... but for some I am sure it tuff to make such a decision and not be hounded.

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