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Posted: 12 years ago
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Here is an article of Media's influence ( mainly Mother Dairy out here ) on the psyche of a Indian Man
Call me a feminist for posting the Article and then again maybe I am ...
It depends how u choose to understand ...
Becoz I agree to an extent that ppl are influenced and made to think in this manner

The reason as why I am posting out here in this forum ...If you know anything abt the show u did understand ... the reason of girl hiding her beauty ...the ppl , who rebuked her for her looks ...the ever crying mother , who toils day and nights ...Taken of granted ... shown as a doormat


AD NAUSEOUS


Ogilvy might have become famous for saying ' "the customer is not an idiot, she is your wife". But sadly the sins of Ogilvy's progeny have come back to make the big daddy of advertising eat his words. The two latest ads from the Ogilvy stable clearly prove that while the customer is not an idiot and is definitely your wife, she is also to be ill-treated and stay in permanent service of her son till he deigns to take care of her.

You think I exaggerate, but I do not.

In the last few weeks, we've heard a lot about how music and films are just ruining our young men and teaching them to treat women badly and as second-class citizens and sex objects. How can you blame the young Indian male for thinking he's the chosen one and women are merely there to serve and service him? It's not the poor lobotomised dear's fault. He bought a Yo Yo Honey Singh concert ticket or a CD and his impressionable mind got corrupted ' instantly. But much before he got the 100 bucks to spend on a CD or a movie ticket, he was introduced into his status as Lord And Master Of All The Women He Surveys through the wonder of advertising.

You'd have to admit that the reach of TV advertising ' a visual medium which doesn't require you to be literate or even have to understand a language ' as long as you can see and hear, is far greater than any other medium. You can be pretty much from any economic demographic which has access to television to see the ads which our emancipated advertisers and companies are spending crores making.

Yesterday, the incongruously named Mother Dairy ' which after its depiction of women should rename itself as the plough-bearing son-loving Mother India ' released the second of two ads. The first is slightly better than the second, but then it's all relative. It's like saying Jack the Ripper is slightly better than Son of Sam.

In the world of Mother Dairy, there are no daughters. The only women are mothers. Mothers who live to serve their sons ' much as Asaram Bapu wanted them to. The first of the ads shows a mother receiving a call from her college-going son who's reached his hometown and is calling up to say he's coming home. She's obviously pleased to hear that. But the lovely son shows up with a veritable army of friends ' all male, of course. The mother, who is shown in a white saree and with no help at home, proceeds to feed this platoon of friends without a complaint. The ad ends with the line that we can only do this with our mothers, and should drink a glass of milk every day so we can grow up and look after them in return.

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=LOzjD86rt2s[/YOUTUBE]

The second ad takes it a step further. A young woman, seemingly in her early-Thirties, is sitting at a dining table with her husband. While her husband is eating dinner, she tells him with palpable fear that she has broken his trophy. He responds with barely repressed anger and disgust and tells her to never touch his belongings, and leaves the table. As all good husbands must do. She doesn't argue with him or ask him to sit down and finish his meal. Again, as all good wives must desist from doing. This entire exchange is witnessed by their infant son, who she then walks up to and in a long-suffering manner asks to never play cricket in the house again. And asks him to go to sleep. Ma ho to aisi! Willing to get abused and settle for most probably a wallop with that broken trophy once she enters her bedroom and maybe even a spot of marital rape ' as long as her son is spared a bollocking. She doesn't utter an unkind word about his father or tell her son not to speak to women the way his father just spoke to her. So, what's the lesson? It's okay for your father to treat your mother worse than he would treat turd on his shoes, but it's her duty as your mother to take the fall. And as a son, go ahead and lie and drink a glass of milk after that. Mummy's there to take the brickbats. Would have made more sense if they'd shown the son step out, mid-rebuke by his father, and offer his father a Mother Dairy ice cream and mellow the mood. But hey, that's just so boring.


[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=_0TAHInaWL4[/YOUTUBE]

But why blame Mother Dairy alone for reinforcing this image of the son as the one to be protected and cosseted at your own cost? Bajaj CFL has shown rare ingenuity in propagating another myth. I chanced upon this ad a week back, and I think it's almost a year old. Just when I was pleased as punch to see that Bajaj CFL has featured a family with two daughters, I realised that it would have been better if they hadn't. In the very inspired ad, a young woman is told that a prospective groom is coming to see her. But she looks horrified. Not because she doesn't want to have an arranged marriage. No no. She's most upset by her not-much-paler-shade-of-walnut complexion. After all, nobody wants to marry a blacky. She looks subdued and rues her dark dismal fate. Till her fairer sister tells her she has the solution for instant fairness and pulls out a Bajaj CFL bulb, fits it into the socket and switches it on to make darkie instantly fairer. And, of course, the prospective groom can't take his eyes off Ms Fair and Suddenly-Lovely. Bajaj ' sab kuch roshan kar de. Shining a light on the fact that a woman's only quality which a man could want to marry her for is her fair complexion.

[YOUTUBE]http://www.youtube.com/watch?feature=player_embedded&v=c63qAC8rAlA[/YOUTUBE]

These are not commercials made a decade ago, when we didn't know any better. Or when our advertisers and companies didn't realise how they were portraying men and women. Or when they were unaware of the debates on how advertising can reinforce regressive practices. These are ads which have been released in the past year. And are in the same vein as ads which show women referring to their husbands as "aap" and in return being referred to as "tum". Perpetuating the skewed social dynamic of men and women ' and not too subtly. These ads are made after planners from ad agencies conduct focus groups, and the ads are tested out on audiences, before finalising them. Heaven help us if this what our focus groups are approving and identifying with. At least we know Asaram Bapu would be proud of them.

And then, just as I thought that there was no hope in the world of advertising, I came across an ad which celebrated women, motherhood, independence, freedom of choice ' and featured not only no adult males but also featured a daughter. Blimey! No wonder it was made abroad, where the wild wild West lives. It's the Fiat 500 L Welcome to the Motherhood ad. It features a young mother ' maybe in her late Thirties ' and her three kids, a daughter and a younger son and a baby. And she performs a gangsta rap on her life.




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.scorpio10 thumbnail
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Posted: 12 years ago
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I am back as I sd its how u understand it ...
I agree with the above opinion ...as I deal with a bit advertising along with other things , I feel if the above ads had lil more understanding ...Like in the first ad
1) U can do so only with ur mom ...Yes I agree and many of u too will agree ...for its our mother who pamper us and spoil rotten ...Feed us , our friends and friends of friends ...Yes dad are cute ...but they too have been raised by awesome mothers ...that's what the ads did not show ...
it showed a mother who supposed to cook , more like taken for granted ...not the values , she instilled in you of respecting and loving everyone alike
2) Mother takes blame ...The father is shown as an angry hot headed man , who loses it becoz his trophy broke ...well I would lose it too ...But its only a woman who can Tame the angry bull sorry angry man ... it would have been wonderful if they would have shown how the father calmed down and then spoke to the son ...
3) I do not agree with this ad one bit ...what is the crap abt being fair skinned...

All its needs its a lil sensitivity with a bag full of humor

Edited by scorpio10 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Priya, your post is timely and far from being sexist or femisnist. By the way since when has speaking about women's issues looked down as femisim. I couldnt give two hoots even if im branded as one as i feel this is not about male female but about the unjust ways of treating half the population of a nation.

As you rightly pointed out there are scores of instances where the popular media is falling woefully short of its responsibility. Im aghast at such reputed and respected brands portraying regressive campaigns. Ads, movies, tv shows have been showing women as second class citizens and gotten away for as long as i can remember. The subtle biases, stereotyping women has become accepted norms of behaviour. And im wondering where are those Women's Rights Organisations, NGOs dedicated to women issues and why is it they turn a blind eye to these gender sensitive matters.
When our political class is steeped in outdated mindsets and biases what legislative support can we expect. They are yet to decide on whether girls and women can wear skirts and jeans lol.. When they have failed to provide reasonable safety to life and liberty of a woman what gender equality can we claim.
Only now after a ghastly incident that the society has woken up to the basic safety of women in our nation. It will take nothing less than a revolution or a movement to change the prevalent biases. Its also the responsibility and duty of the enlightened civil society to voice their opinions. Recently Honeysingh's concert was cancelled in Gurgaon, Haryana as there was an outrage over the objectionalble lyrics of his songs. Only when we oppose and take up these matters seriously can there be a change.
I for one strongly believe the actual change has to begin from our homes. An individual's mind is shaped from birth and its the parents the family who need to be sensitive. Then the educational institutions need to integrate these issues in the curriculum to further reinforcing minds. Why doesnt the Govt create awareness through mass media on the lines of pulse polio drive, AIDS, etc.. It would certainly bring a change.
Women also need to realise that their bodies are not meant to please others senses. They need to be confident in what they wear and how they look and not necessarily be guided by the so called fashion, trends etc.. They have to respect themselves first as rightful and equal partners.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Why even blame these ads? The bias against women starts from the day a child is born. Its quiet common to see sisters and mothers sacrificing their comforts and dreams for the brother/son of the family. Then when he marries the mother re-inforces the same with his wife too..that he is her first prority and thats how the society is. Anything else means she is a failure. Then again the mother and wife reinforce the same stereotype with the grand-daughter too. And it goes on...
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Posted: 12 years ago
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hi its a thought provoking post ...its sad reality needs to be changed
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Posted: 12 years ago
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some men are slowly starting to acknowledge the importance of women and give them eqality in some fields, but only real equality will start at home with parents treating children of both genders equal.

with the ads women have to protest at this kind of potrayal of their gender.
and as for the complexion complex don't know when they will get it in their head
that it's only companies wanting to sell their products, in white people's countries they sell them the products that make them look tinted or tanned, sombody just came back from switzerland tonight and we were just laughing about a swiss wife for him when the other person said the young shop assistant they saw was like leather skinned,because she had been using too much heat from tanning lamps to make herself look brown . i don't know why people are not happy with whatever colour they are born with . my family back home request for whitening creams or bleach, people here go under sunbeds to get our colour.or use sprays to colour themselves to go less white! they risk getting cancer to make themselves look less white.
please peolpe learn to be happy in your skin.
priya i also liked the unborn baby girl vid u posted. people have to become aware of these things .
all the boys too many per girl
white people don''t want to be white. that's a fact, t
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Posted: 12 years ago
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hi priya
well written post & article ,its shame women are presented in our media ,
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Posted: 12 years ago
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The Men in Skirts:

A group of 25 men turned up dressed in skirts, at
the cubbon park in bangalore city. Their goal: to
educate the world that a particular dress does not
lead to sexual harassment or rape of a woman
and to champion women's right to "wear" what
mattered to her.

Jay, a business analyst, said "I felt free, light and
good to walk in a woman's shoes. Women dress
in minimum clothes to confidently express
themselves. I realise now it's a matter of comfort.
Men should support this freedom of expression
and stop demeaning them. We have stimulated a change in mindsets and our purpose has been
served in that aspect."

Collecting a crowd of 100 at the Park's point, they
pledged: "I promise that I will be sensitive to
gender issues in the way I speak and act. I
promise not to be passive. I will step in if I hear
offensive speech or views. If I see something
wrong happen in front of me, I will create a discussion and talk about my beliefs.

Edited by scorpio10 - 12 years ago
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Posted: 12 years ago
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thanks for sharing priya.. well done, guys for an innovative way of expression... sure the tact , would have forced people to stop and look at first.. and take in the message.
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Posted: 12 years ago
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Originally posted by: scorpio10

The Men in Skirts:

A group of 25 men turned up dressed in skirts, at
the cubbon park in bangalore city. Their goal: to
educate the world that a particular dress does not
lead to sexual harassment or rape of a woman
and to champion women's right to "wear" what
mattered to her.

Jay, a business analyst, said "I felt free, light and
good to walk in a woman's shoes. Women dress
in minimum clothes to confidently express
themselves. I realise now it's a matter of comfort.
Men should support this freedom of expression
and stop demeaning them. We have stimulated a change in mindsets and our purpose has been
served in that aspect."

Collecting a crowd of 100 at the Park's point, they

pledged: "I promise that I will be sensitive to
gender issues in the way I speak and act. I
promise not to be passive. I will step in if I hear
offensive speech or views. If I see something
wrong happen in front of me, I will create a discussion and talk about my beliefs.


BRILLIANT!!! Every drop counts, every step in the right direction helps, way to go Bangalore boys ... Thanx priya for posting it.

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