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Well said Fatty! Esp the bold bit. About supporting/criticizing stars about their personal lives Ive seen a lot of that happen all around the internet. But then can we truly take a stand on things like whether someone cheated his wife/dumped his girlfriend etc etc? But most people behave as if they are a fly in the wall of the houses of their favorite stars. I will simply judge a star by what he presents to the audience publicly ie his work, media interactions and perhaps his social appearances.Originally posted by: make-believe
I couldn't agree more with Ksh on this.I have to mention here and it may be a bit tangential, but nevertheless still relative to the question at hand...in my opinion or understanding, when I am a 'fan' of someone, it means that I hold that person's work in very high regard and esteem...when I say I am a fan of someone, it means that I respect their talent and that a piece of work they are doing or have done in the past has deeply touched or resonated with me. It extends solely and singly to the body of work and talent that I recognize. That is what I respect and admire, not the actors or actresses themselves as people. I do not sign up to be their agent, manager, publicist or even a chamcha who will stand by them in all that they do, be it right or wrong, come rain or fire. Because to be very honest, once again in only my humble opinion which many might disagree with, being a fan of a PERSON whom we don't personally know of, just based on a character they have played on a visual medium is not only illogical but very odd. When we start mooning over someone without even knowing how that person is in their day to day demeanour...or when we start defending that person as if they can do absolutely no wrong because of a sense of 'loyalty' we feel towards them...that type of person worshipping is not only highly misplaced but also faulty.We grow up in life and even are taught educationally to perceive things with a thinking and critical mind...the point is not to criticize or look for something amiss in the things around us, or in the papers we read, or in the people we meet or hear or read or talk about...the point is to develop that trait of being able to think for yourself. Then why, if we admire someone's work or even their personality if it may be so, should we stop thinking for ourselves or offering what we might feel about a situation? As long as it is done sincerely, truthfully and presented in a civilized manner, I see absolutely no harm, and in fact actually the presence of an open environment in which people are free to express what they feel.With MR fans especially, I don't think this is a problem...most of us are vocal about our opinions with regards to him, which is only naturally valid and well. As long as it is not done with ill-intention, I ask again...what is the harm? If someone says that MR may read it by some chance and feel slighted...well then, the world is a big playground...and it's not always goodness, praises and all the other rosy things in the world for every kid, who has to go out and step into it at one time or another...be it him or any other random person walking on the road, we have to face up to our part of criticism and take into account other people's opinions to evolve and grow as human beings. It is not a bad process, to be the critically thinking person or the one at the receiving end. It is natural, only instinctual...a learning curve.And suppose even if we say for a minute...that yes, we shouldn't extend criticism to someone who we are fans of on the merit of being 'true fans'...then what is the limit for that? When and how do we define something that is worthy of criticism and something that is not? Once you turn off your mind or personal opinion for the sake of being a true or supportive fan...you risk being blind-sided about things that you would otherwise find different with your sense of reasoning intact. Take the example of Karan Singh Grover's fans for a moment...they became such true and honest fans of their favourite indeed that even when he was found as responsible of something despicable like three timing his wife, dance partner and co-actress, they continued being as madly infatuated with him as they were on first day. And their reasoning was that it was his 'personal life'...that they were no one to judge, that it didn't reflect or leave any stain on what they thought of him or the part he was playing on screen. For them, it was only la la land. Who cares about reality? As long as they can exist in the fantasy of whatever it is that they belong to in their heads...it really didn't matter. I honestly ask anyone in this forum or even on IF...what does that say about a person who thinks as such? How much has their personal opinion, instinctual reasoning and moral epicentre deteriorated to make them a 'true fan'...when they cannot even think right from wrong any more in lieu of being 'never changing' and upstanding supporters of a person or cause, anything on this planet, which is susceptible to error?So if MR fans give their opinions...let them. It shows that they are thinking people rather than blind supporters. That is something to be appreciated, not a problem or issue.
That way I think MR has done the right thing by staying away from the spotlight when he has nothing to speak about. And his leftover fans have been quiet supportive of him.
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