Originally posted by: Dancingdoll
hessa, when would you give him an opportunity to present his case? the very moment he comes in front of u, or after few hrs/days...when? when do u think u wuld be ready to hear the story from a stranger's mouth?
i guess the answer to that depends on how much i am able to admit to myself that the person is 1 and the same., maybe a few days a few weeks...or maybe just when ive managed to calm from the initial shock
on Disfigure case study, This is one case I have put myself in before because a friend of mine once asked me to do it because I was arguing with her about her BF!
U R RIGHT, I would enevr leave that man if his face got disfigured due to, say, accident.....and now I compare my reaction to these two situations and I se a diff in my reaction in both the cases.....In the disdigured case, i am sad, in pain and i run to be with my love...In Dutta's case, I am shocked and scared and I run away from this stranger...I havent completed my experiemnt yet, but this was the start! and I started analyzing that why were the reactions diff in both the cases, and I realized that was because in the case similar to Dutta's
1. I do not know the reason but the reason was such tht I could hav ebeen informed before hand
2. It wasnt due to natural cause
whereas the disfigured one was a natural cause not in any of ours control!!!!....
no i agree it isnt natural cause in this case,,, but she did have a good reason she never hid her face for the fun of it or with the intention of hurting dutta. relatonships are about mutual understandng and dutta needs to show he is able to listen and understand now
but in both the cases, I will come back to him...In one, it might take a longer time, if he has a genuine reason, in other, it wuld be instant return!