Arranged marriage in our society

I am opeing this topic because I feel it is not right to have this system in our society anymore. I am very much Indian even though I have been in USA for most of my life.

Look wot happened to Karan and Nandini? Now same is happening to KT and Laksha. Tulsi is out to destroy three lives at once. KT, Laksha, and Eklavya.

I would say we need to come out of this arranged marriage thing. I know sum of them succceed and sum love marriages suck but I belive if a guy and a gal date for a while get to know each other and then marry it will make more sense. They also need to make sure it is true love and not just affection.

Please dont feel offensive and start fighting this is just open conversation where we reason and debate not argue or fight. Hope you undersatnd.

The conception that arranged marriages have outside India is that the respective families come together and decid to get their kids married, without their consent. Period. Wrong!

This practice has been abandoned for a long time; at that stage in history, such practice was seen as acceptable and desirable. However, with the change in society and technology, life has obviously changed.

Today, families don't rely on their kids to "choose" their other half. If they are in love, they (one in love) certainly express them to the family and the families usually settle upon that. Otherwise, every considerate parent would want to pick the best "other half" for their kid and go around society to see a good match, if they are at that age of marriage.

Once they find a good match, they ask their respective son or daughter to consider it and think about it. Then, the guy and girl go out and see if there is a spark that can last. There is no pressure, since parents realize that this is a life-long bond. Also, if the spark is not there, both sides agree to remain friends and never cross that limit. If they like each other and seem to be a good match, the talks go ahead.

~~ As for Ekta Kapoor, don't equate normal Indian traditions and life methods to her serial, as they are portrayed in the most UNREALISTIC fashion and have no parallels to reality.~~

Yes, there are some exceptions, where fathers force their daughter's into marriage, but this happens in those families that are truly backward thinking and when the other side is willing to see this injustice happen! Since, the other side does not want to embrace a girl that is coming against her will to that house.

So please, don't equate Ekta's crazy world with normal Indian life, they are opposites and would never come close, just like Israel and Palestine, if you will.

EXAMPLE : In yesterday's episodes, Tulsi basically asked KrishnaTulsi in a cunning way to marry Eklavya, as she wants him to like he is and not change like Ansh, some 20 years ago. In a normal situation, something like this would never happen.

And if it did, the expectiation would be for KrishnaTulsi to explain that she is in love with someone else and would be able to provide all the love that her other half would deserve. But, knowing that this is Ekta's world, this would never happen. And if in real life this does not happen, whose fault is it? Hmm.... KT!!!

This is just my rationale for explaining the mainstream view. Please feel free to display any dissenting views.😊

KSBKBT is just a serial. There is nothing for arranged marraiges. Mihir and Tulsi's is a love marraige. So you cant tell that Tulsi is against love marraige.

Arranged marraiges still exist in a big way in our society. And it'll take quiet a long time for it to stop. As long as the couple is happy after marraige, it shouldn't matter what kind of a marraige it is.

Shriman:

Thank you for the rational explanation. You are right to certain extent. Let me clear one thing, I m not trying to mix and match here. I undersatnd completely that this is just a serial. You wont belive in most part of our country the system still exists. I dunno to wot extent in wot part but it still exists.

Now about parents suggesting or arranging the meeting is still an arranged marriage ain it? Wether they like each otehr or not it is still worng. DO you think Parents should expect taht? In today's society, no guy or a gal is without a boy friend or gurlfriend. Then y a meeting even? Let them go ahead and find out for them selves. Let me know if I m not right.

Originally posted by: swethapreetham

KSBKBT is just a serial. There is nothing for arranged marraiges. Mihir and Tulsi's is a love marraige. So you cant tell that Tulsi is against love marraige.

Arranged marraiges still exist in a big way in our society. And it'll take quiet a long time for it to stop. As long as the couple is happy after marraige, it shouldn't matter what kind of a marraige it is.

I agree with you to certain extent. And I did mention it in my post too that both ways there is a possibility of a failure. But at the same time we at-least need to give enough room to kids and that is wot I am trying to express.

wat tulsi is doing is blackmailing Kt to marry Eklavya so that makes it force marriage not arranged. i think now dayz when some1 has arraned marriage they get to knw one another b4 there marriage and if guy and gal cn't stand each other i doubt there parents will force them to get married. and personel i aven't gt anything against arrange marriages as along u get 2 knw one another b4 and ur not in luv with any1 else i dn't think there is anything wrong with it.

Originally posted by: angel 786

wat tulsi is doing is blackmailing Kt to marry Eklavya so that makes it force marriage not arranged. i think now dayz when some1 has arraned marriage they get to knw one another b4 there marriage and if guy and gal cn't stand each other i doubt there parents will force them to get married. and personel i aven't gt anything against arrange marriages as along u get 2 knw one another b4 and ur not in luv with any1 else i dn't think there is anything wrong with it.

Thank you for your view. Good to know it.

i think both love and arrange marriages are fine. just so long as no ines being forced into anything.

Originally posted by: DeSiPride05

Shriman:
In today's society, no guy or a gal is without a boy friend or gurlfriend. Then y a meeting even? Let them go ahead and find out for them selves. Let me know if I m not right.

i disagree, there are many indian guys and girls who don't have boyfriends or girlfriends. some have them some don't, both inside and outside india.