Jealousy and not distrust!

I think Nidhi's problem, based on what she has said so far, is that she is extremely possessive about Ashutosh and is unable to tolerate his excessive display of concern for a woman whom she knows was once in love with him and maybe still is...While she is trying to be largehearted and humane, the woman in her is sounding warning bells...If it were some other woman but Mallika, we would have even found this display of possessiveness cute...

Ashutosh already knows that she is madly in love with him and very possessive too...maybe he should try and be a little more indulgent towards her...she is a kid after all and he is her toy that she does not want to share..instead of getting upset himself, if he tried to understand and enjoy her possessiveness, things would be easier for both...after all, he has longed to be wanted all his life...wanted to belong...and here is this girl who is clinging on to him for life...isn't she actually the answer to his prayers...

Maybe if AShutosh had had a normal upbringing in a normal family and had been without so many complexities and insecurities, he would have been able to do this...

Come to think of it, I don't feel angst when they fight...I feel like I am watching two muddled kids who are trying hard to tell each other the obvious...that they love each other like crazy...

Maybe this is why I am not getting worked up at all...they only make me smile!

Originally posted by: alkaparmart

sujata ji no one [wife] want to share her husband to any other woman,think we are woman,can we tolerate any other woman's presence in our husband's life.love is always possessive and jealous.and that's too husband like ashu who always took more care of friendship than his wife.they are matured only for show.why ashutosh didn't gave confidence to nidhi that mallika is not betweeen us,he twice promised her that mai aage se dhyan rakhoonga.mallika stopped him to meet her,and he is proudly saying she told not to meet,what is nidhi's fault.her reaction is obvious.everytime she shown matuarity and forgive ashu for his deeds.that's love.

Alka...where did I ever say that Nidhi is at fault,,,I was only saying Ashutosh should understand her fears 😊

Originally posted by: alkaparmart

i am also saying that ashu is now expecting more from nidhi,but don't want to understand her possessiveness.

Alka...that is the whole problem...he is seeing it as lack of trust...not possessiveness!

Well written Sujata...

I think everyone irrespective of the gender expects that he or she must be the first priority for the spouse It is not lack of trust or possessiveness or even jealousy For me I believe if my husband loves me he should put me and my welfare above all others. In the last episode I understood Nidhi. she trusts Ashu and mallu is not a problem for her. When he said he will not meet mallika as per mallika's wish she read it he gives more importance to M than me.It would have been my reaction exactly. I would have been infuriated not because of the actual meeting but this reply. Poor Ashu said wrong thing in the wrong moment. My husband is another Asutosh in the articulation department. He used t do this thing of adding fuel to the fire and then pestering me what is wrong .Now after experience he does the right thing. Simply keeps quiet when I am upset.Ashu is a fast learner and will learn what not to say to a wife.Btw Good post.

Sujata: extremely well thought pov u gave on nidhi's concern over her hubby-ashu... Hopefully ashu will able to understand nidhi deeply..

Originally posted by: kaks0211

Well written Sujata...

But I think Nidhi is scared also of trouble brewing in their relationship - as she has faced earlier...She has been saying that whenever Mallika comes something goes wrong...Poor girl is just scared of losing Ashu...

I know...the scars of the past...you can't blame her...she is trying to rise above her insecurities but can't help being pulled down by the past...but I think she does not distrust Ashutosh at all...she is just terrified that his humaneness will somewhere compromise their relationship...like i said, Ashutosh is a great guy...but as a husband, he is still learning the ropes...

Just imagine this...

A normal husband, eve if he is as prinicipled and humane as Ashu, would have pulled the girl onto his lap..hugged her tight and told her that he was hers and hers alone...and she had no need to fear...and that the past was a bad dream...and the present would be nothing like that...if he had cuddled her and said all this to her and reassured her, she would not have felt so insecure...but he is unable to do that...because he has insecurities of his own...what a muddle!