Was putting the baby issue on hold a good idea? - Page 2

I think it isnt too late 4 ashu to have a baby. When d woman has clearly stated she isnt ready 4 a baby, n is doin everythin she can, n more to make him happy ,y doesnt ashu just appreciate it. Why cant he b happy wid wat he has.
This reminds me of d sayin aadhe ko chod saari ko dhaave,
aadhi mile na puri paave.
In his quest for a complete family,he is riskin his wife's happiness.
I understand he cant wait for yrs,but least he can do is wait till she completes her internship.
Does he really think nidhi wuld b happy when she's carryin this way? Is that healthy ? 4 d mom to be ,n 4 d baby?

Originally posted by: deepa_jd

I think it isnt too late 4 ashu to have a baby. When d woman has clearly stated she isnt ready 4 a baby, n is doin everythin she can, n more to make him happy ,y doesnt ashu just appreciate it. Why cant he b happy wid wat he has.
This reminds me of d sayin aadhe ko chod saari ko dhaave,
aadhi mile na puri paave.
In his quest for a complete family,he is riskin his wife's happiness.
I understand he cant wait for yrs,but least he can do is wait till she completes her internship.
Does he really think nidhi wuld b happy when she's carryin this way? Is that healthy ? 4 d mom to be ,n 4 d baby?

Deepa, the point of my post was that they should sit and talk it out rationally rather than evading the issue...whatever decision they take, it should be mutual and not one-sided...neither of them should feel cheated out of their happiness...like putting the brakes on Nidhi's career immediately would definitely affect her mental health and that of any prospective child, Ashu yearning in silence for an indefinite period will affect him and their relationship...if the issue continues to fester this way, it will harm them both...that is all!

But I don't think it is that he does not appreciate what he is doing for him...the promise that he asked of Nidhi is indication that he can live without a kid for now but not without her...his love for her far exceeds his desire for a kid! At least that is what I felt!

Originally posted by: deepa_jd

I think it isnt too late 4 ashu to have a baby. When d woman has clearly stated she isnt ready 4 a baby, n is doin everythin she can, n more to make him happy ,y doesnt ashu just appreciate it. Why cant he b happy wid wat he has.
This reminds me of d sayin aadhe ko chod saari ko dhaave,
aadhi mile na puri paave.
In his quest for a complete family,he is riskin his wife's happiness.
I understand he cant wait for yrs,but least he can do is wait till she completes her internship.
Does he really think nidhi wuld b happy when she's carryin this way? Is that healthy ? 4 d mom to be ,n 4 d baby?

Originally posted by: radhika72

I would say Asutosh unfair if he insists for a baby immediately before she completes her internship. Nidhi unfair if she plans for more than 2 years. Hope both of them meet midway and come to an ideal solution. and this issue is once for all settled.

Radhika, I don't think or at least I hope that Ashutosh expects her to give up her internship and have a kid...I have a feeling it was her comment of wanting to wait for a few years that has probably spooked him...if they could have agreed on a mutually comfortable time frame, keeping in mind Nidhi's internship, the matter would have been resolved...but of course, so would the drama...and hence the prolonging...I don't think a baby is coming so soon...I think there may well be conception related issues..!

@ sujatha.i do understand d point of ur post. I can read n comprehend,thank u very much. Lil bit,but yes.
I think ashu is just not tryin 2 understand her pov, give ur marriage sum time,man.

I agree that they both need to sit down n solve the issue for once n all ..rather than keeping in heart n getting disturbed every now n then .

Quote @ Sujatha.

Originally posted by: deepa_jd

@ sujatha.i do understand d point of ur post. I can read n comprehend,thank u very much. Lil bit,but yes.
I think ashu is just not tryin 2 understand her pov, give ur marriage sum time,man.

I am sorry if you found my reiterating the point of my post offensive, Deepa...I certainly did not intend to question your power to comprehend...credit me with some intelligence too...but you were making a case for why Ashu should not push for a child now...all I said was that my post was really about the need to talk and not about their decisions...what they decide to do thereafter is their problem!

Originally posted by: Sujatha.rao

Tanu, that was my whole point...be it post internship or post PG or whatever, talk it out and resolve...because this will come back to bite you if you ignore it now..

And, humein bhi toh batao...about this hint of yours...hint ka mazaa akele hi kyun le rahi ho?

According to the precap, I think Nidhi gets convinced ... and there is a glimpse of Nidhi standing in the Ashu's cabin... So, in all I am guessing today, there is going to be a decision...

It is true, Ashutosh is so stubborn and as Tanu put it.. it is truly 'Rang mein Bhang'...

As far as Nidhi is concerned, she is very clear... and clearly stated too... everytime Ashutosh agrees and again brings it to her twice in a day... In a way, Ashutosh is bringing this contention... and building up the pressure... I would have appreciated him, if he too was clear like Nidhi.

@BOLD
Haan... they are telling us every faltu thing thru baba / lakshmi bai... hope they will tell us this too..😉

Originally posted by: SHIKHA19

I agree that they both need to sit down n solve the issue for once n all ..rather than keeping in heart n getting disturbed every now n then .

Now i want ashu to undrstd that nidhi's education is more than his wish right now ..n he should let her do that first ..n ya on the other side he can ask nidhi not to wait for many years ..but an year is enough ..n he will support her completely in baby thing n she doesnt need to quit her career compltly she can take some break for some time n join back hospital again .

Yes Shikha, this is exactly what i am talking about...they need to sit and talk about it..he needs to understand the importance of her career...and she needs to understand that asking him to wait for too long is not fair to him...and they need to take a mutually comfortable decision!