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Since yestersday's epiosde has been aired almost all of us have been venting our anger at Nidhi and saying to all our friends and to ourselves also how Nidhi could do this to Ashutosh...We have seen that Ashu has kept his promise of supporting her but now it is Nidhi who is chickening out and is not prepared to face the situation...Or should I say she is running away from reality????
Nidhi has two choices left to her...1) She does what Mandira did and marries Ashu against her Bab and DB's wishes and breaks all ties with them...Or ...2) she bows down to their wishes and breaks up with Ashutosh...
If she chooses the first option she will not only be letting down the two people who love her the most...(even though to us they are unreasonable)...But will be leaving them to face the taunts of society all by themselves...Would it be fair of her to have them treated in this way????? If she sees only her happiness she would not bother about them...But by having her do so The Cvs would be turning Nidhi into a selfish and self-centered girl who puts her happiness before that of those who love her...
The second option is harsh not only on Ashu but on herself too...She has now fallen so deep into this abyss (called love) that it would not only be difficult but even impossible for her to find happiness in this life...No doubt she is not the only one who will be suffering...Ashu also will be suffering with her...He has experienced love so late in his life that he is now finding it very difficult to even visualise a life without Nidhi...
So considering these two options what can they do????? Go against the elders and societal norms and get married and live happily ever after????? But if they do this will they be able to 'live happily ever after'? Will Nidhi be happy knowing her Baba is going thru so much at the hands of society? Will Ashu be happy knowing Nidhi is unhappy because of her Baba's unhappiness?
In both the options the end result is unhappiness...In one it is unhappiness because ur family is unhappy and in the other it is unhappiness because of being unable to live with ur loved one...
In yesterday's episode one dialogue which Nidhi told Anjie summed up this whole traumatic turn of events...Nidhi telling Anjie u were against this from the beginning...U knew what would happen...But I did not listen to u...Shows that whatever has happened was not foreseen by her...Ashu on the other hand had foreseen this turn of events but had given into his feelings ultimately...Had he not been pressurised by Arman initially into accepting his love maybe the story would have been different...He would have been reticent in accepting his love and maybe then Nidhi would not have fallen so deeply in love...
But all these are IFs and life always has something else in store for us...which we are totally unaware of...The only solution to this is a change in Baba's outlook towards this whole age-gap thing...Yesterday he said I can force u Nidhi but can't fight society...That is totally wrong thinking on his part...If he truly loves his daughter he should see where her happiness lies and support her...Instead he is willing to see her unhappy but not be brave enough to face society...
One question I would like to ask to society is...Why are people so interested ion other people's lives????? Why can't others live their lives in the way they want????? Why should society force people to live the way it (society) thinks is the correct way?????
In my opinion it is Baba's character that has been butchered...For his false pride and even more false values (what we say ijn Hindi 'khokhle adarsh')...he is condemning his only and beloved daughter to a life time of unhappiness...KLoved Ashu's dialogue to baab...u are only better than the rest of those fathers who resort to honour killing in that u have not sentenced ur daughter to death but to life imprisonment....
Sorry for the long and probably boring post but felt I had to share my views on this...If I am wrong in my thinking then please feel free share ur views also...
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