Shaavi dear... This is for you - Page 40

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

@gt, Such a well written post.

Different people will have different perspectives so please don't take the views personal. I can relate to your life experiences because I also have similar experiences in life. All my childhood went in my grand parents house and till I got married most of my life went in boarding school and hostel. I hardly spent 3yrs with my parents which I don't even remember properly. But some things are still imprinted in my mind like my mom used to leave for work before we wake up then my dad used to take care of us, giving bath, making us ready for the school, feeding us etc and then he used to drop us at school before leaving for his office. I feel people hardly notice or appreciate these efforts that includes wives. My mom never leave any opportunity to mention about all her sacrifices behind her success where as my dad never ever mentioned all the compromises and adjustments he did for us including my mom. When we treat relationships with love that gives happiness in life but when we treat relationships as responsibilities then that adds burden on our shoulders. I hope you understood the difference between Dev and Sona's ways of handling relationships.

In my childhood when ever some one asks me that whom I love more, dad or mom, my immediate answer was my dad. Even today that answer remains same but that doesn't mean that I don't respect my mom. My mom and dad both are self made individuals. I can share anything with my dad but that may not be the case with my mom. Most of us asked especially shaavi that is Sona ready to accept this reality or not? This is just an example.

I still have many compliments with the way makers are presenting sona's character like a pendulum. They really need clarity on whether she is doing a sacrifice by taking this deal or it's a mutual decision? As a viewer, as a wife, as a mother, I just want to ask one question to Sona, Still how many years she needs to trust Dev and become a equal partner in their relationship? Why he needs to beg for her trust and for a chance before her even today? Is love without trust love at all?Will she ever learn to work as a team with Dev without going back to her pendulum mode? Will she ever learn to accept the consequences of her decisions with dignity without running away from failures or without using blame game?

When it comes to Bose's that includes Sona also, all I want to say is - People who lives in glass house should not throw stones at others. Before judging and pointing fingers at others, we first need to look at ourselves.

Apart from this, I completely agree with latest Grace post regarding where and why most of us not able to digest this role reversal.

Originally posted by: asha2012

A very happy and prosperous Diwali to all of you! Have a safe Diwali!

Originally posted by: gt2918

@LiveLife-Thank you !

Although I have understood the views of the members here much better now,I still cannot bring myself to fully agree with your views,but that's fine.

Thank you to everyone who responded to my posts and shared their valuable insights.

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

Happy deepavali to you and to every one here. This deepavali is special for us since my son asked us to buy books instead of crackers. We usually bring less crackers still he wants to go completely eco friendly way from now on so we decided from now on we will celebrate deepavali with only diyas.😊

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

That's ok dear. We don't have to accept each other's perspective, all we need to do is agree to disagree with respect.

Our choices in life mostly depends on our past experiences and priorities in life. That's why even the situation is same then also we can't expect everyone to choose the same option. Let me give you one example to make it clear. My mom struggled alot for the basic needs also in her childhood so she really worked hard to give a better life to us and what ever may be the difficulty she never thought of leaving her job. When I quit my job my mom didn't supported my decision initially, she has her reasons and fears about my decision because I was in a better position professionally as well as financially. I respect that but I trust my husband and I felt enough is enough because I want to spend some quality time with my family. I hardly got any chance to spend time with my parents in my childhood so I don't want my son to feel the same. What she saw as sacrifice, I say that as my choice.😊

Originally posted by: grace4317

Happy diwali to all...It really pleases your heart when you hear how the new generation is getting aware of the need to become ecofriendly. Here, mera roz ka kaam he mere bete ko pani kam use karne mein bhaashan de dho...phir bhi koi faayada nahi.😔

Originally posted by: LiveLife321

When it comes to water kids forgot everything, they like to play with water that's why we need to remind them always.😊