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Hi everyone! Just popped in to say that I caught up on the episodes that I missed, and I am totally in love with this show. I have never seen romance done this way on any couple, and I am just thrilled with the way Devakshi is progressing. I know that there is much dissatisfaction around, and maybe it helped that my expectations were lowered by the mahaul of the forum, but I just loved the episodes. Here is one satiated viewer!
I think my favourite thing about the episodes right now is the play on the theme of time, the idea that there is no "right" time to do something that is important to your personal journey. Sona learned this lesson most obviously, both with regards to Dev's relationship with Ishwari and with his relationship with her. True, one cannot go back to the past, but reliving those missed moments can have an important and cathartic effect. What Sona had once interpreted mistakenly as Dev being a "Mumma's boy," she now understands was Dev trying to capture those lost moments of his childhood. It took her a long time to understand this because her own life was so simple and linear, and she lived each stage to its fullest and every relationship was given its due. The Dixits' life was not so linear at all. They focused so much survival, out of necessity, that they didn't have time to work on other aspects of their lives -- their childhood, their relationships, or their individual identities.
They only got an opportunity to do that once they were financially secure, and it was at this time that Sona came into Dev's life. She appreciated his dedication to his mother, but at the same time didn't quite understand why he allowed Ishwari to treat him like a child. That misunderstanding, coupled with Ishwari's taking advantage of Dev's desire to feel like her child and blackmailing him with it, is what led her to call him things like "mumma's boy." With that dinner table conversation, it became clear that she understood the complex non-linearity of their relationship now, and her prompting Dev to resume those moments that brought back his lost his childhood was her way of apologising for her misunderstanding that in turn caused Dev to turn his back on the mother he lived to care for. She understands deeply now how Ishwari's eight-year-old and her prince charming can co-exist in Dev.
And I think that is why she played along with the pregnancy acting, instead of making light of Dev's need to relive the past -- what she did before when she asked him if he would photoshop himself into the pictures. Dev doesn't try to recreate those moments to torture himself, but to give and receive those feelings that were missed. This is healthy for both of them, though Sona may not realise it because of her background. She is used to linear thinking -- let go of the past and move on; that is how you show your strength. In truth, she missed these moments as much as Dev did, though she was ashamed of her own "weakness" at the time. Now she gets to relive them with full haq and in that act, extract he bitterness associated with those lonely times. The cherry on the cake, was of course Dev's plan for the ward. Instead of trying to forget their troubled past, he made sure something increibly positive came out of it -- a classic Ishwari move, actually!
Last thing for this post -- I loved Dev's conversation with Nikki, and I think it showed again how well Devakshi work as a team. In her conversation with him, Sona helped Dev understand where exactly the root of his anger lay; it wasn't directed at Lakshya, or at the fact that Nikki was in a live-in relationship. When he thought about it calmly, he found that he could understand what it meant that she was in love and in a committed relationship -- what truly hurt him is that his favourite didn't bother to try and convince him, or even tell him about such a big event in her life. When he first met Nikki at her house, all of these feelings were muddled and his anger threatened to spill dangerously all over the place. WIth some thought, and conversation with Sona, he was able to sort out his own feelings and therefore communicate them with absolute clarity to Nikki.
As for why Dev and Sona are taking the responsibility to mediate between Nikki and Ishwari, it's simple to me. They want to do for her what nobody did for them: stand up for her right to love who she wants how she wants, and show her that they support her completely. Right now, Nikki believes that Dev and Sona are nothing but extensions of Ishwari, that if she doesn't approve then Dev and Sona will retract their support too. She doesn't want to let them in only to be crushed when they cut her out again. She is young, afraid, and very much in love with Lakshya -- the fraught position that Devakshi know all too intimately. Helping Nikki get both her love and her family without having to suffer for it will be yet another cathartic exercise for Devakshi who are still recovering from the wounds of their experience.
Ye Hai Mohabbatein
