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@malika: The sad part about Ronita vs. Dev is that it has a lot to do with the way Bijoy views his two children. Dev wasn't good enough for Sona, his model child, but Ronita is too good for Saurabh, whom he considers a "failure." In his eyes, Ronita did them a favour by agreeing to marry Saurabh and Bijoy is grateful for it. But the very fact that his family felt the need to hide the truth of Ronita's family from him (the theft) speaks volumes. He is very exacting about the kind of people he lets into his family, but his standard of perfection is what ends up being most harmful to their relationships.
@BH2: I don't want to go too much into this discussion about Bijoy since it has been rehashed many times on the thread, but in short, no, I don't think Bijoy saw himself as a potential mentor to Dev. He always saw Dev as the unworthy man for whom Sona "left him," as he himself said during his and Dev's drunken conversation. As long as Dev's world revolved around Sona, Bijoy was willing (grudgingly even then) to concede that he might not be all bad, but he wasn't able to see that Dev had his own problems as well. He saw every action of Dev's as "for" or "against" Sona, which I think is unfair.
The way I imagine it, if Bijoy had really perceived that Dev was a young man, struggling with new experiences, and reached out to him, there was a wealth of advice and guidance he could have offered, i.e. helped him be a better husband instead of berating him for being an amateur, or seeing him like the enemy. As I have said before, I understand where Bijoy's fears come from. What I am saying here, is that he could have done so much more for Devakshi if he weren't acting from fear.
When I said romance, I didn't just mean romantic love, I meant a love for adventure, mystery and all things which are not common place. While Bijoy favours a more quiet and stable life, both of his kids crave that excitement and departure from the ordinary. Saruabh never felt comfortable in a normal, 9-5 job. He wanted to be an entrepreneur and he got mocked relentlessly for it, even when he found a success. Sona on the other hand, hid that love for adventure, fairytales, and prince charming in order to be Bijoy's ideal child, but that is still what she wanted, and wants, deep down. Bijoy sees the ability to mash these fantasies down and settle for the practical option as strength, but the side-effects include a dishonesty with oneself about one's feelings. Neither of his children are content with the secure and smooth lives that Bijoy envisions for them, even though he has their best interests at heart.
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