ISHWARI 'S INSECURITY: With this, I would like to talk on Ishwari as well. Ishwari's insecurity stems from two things:
- One from being subjected to society which has wronged her
- Second one from being a bad mother to Dev (She accepted it in front of Dev before declaring her decision regarding his second marriage).
She wanted to get out of the society which had made her to struggle and face all the hardships and tribulations. She wanted to enshroud herself from the society because she had to take care of her self respect in adverse situations and was treated unfairly by the society. The pocket knife and the slap from the mistress help in seeing this thinking process of hers. So, she made sure Dev studied hard and went to an English medium school so that he could do it quickly. His good/better education would help in speedy enshroudment and would provide her the safe haven she looked for. But when she saw Dev not taking his studies seriously, she went to break the vase purposely so that he forces himself to study as no son can see his mother being treated rudely.The fear of the society made her take help of narcissism which made her retort to emotional abuse.
Over the years, she made sure Dev did what she wanted by making sure he never considered her wrong. She made him feel like she was his goddess who never did anything wrong and did all what was right for him and her children. But why did she want to portray herself as she was always right? Because deep down in her subconscious mind, she knew she was a bad mother as she forced Dev to take the responsibility of her enshroudment from the society by burdening him with her unwanted desires. But instead of accepting her failure, she made sure she never faced this guilt by making sure Dev reiterated her godly mother nature. If Dev tried to unintentionally help in resurfacing that guilt, she subjected to emotional abuse to convince herself that she is a good mother. She was able to maintain the goddess stature through emotional abuse.
Initially, she feared that Natasha would influence Dev but after seeing that she was not that effective, she went with the proposal. Also, the marriage was beneficial for the business as well.
But after Sonakshi's entry, she saw how she was influencing Dev's decisions. This made her feel insecure of her position in Dev's life as Sonakshi's goodness might help in seeing how she was a bad mother( her fear and not my opinon) which will make Dev leave her back to the society she feared from. She feared that Sonakshi was snatching her God status from Dev's life which helped her in assuaging her guilt.
She was not able to say no to Dev's choice as it would make her a bad mother in Dev's eyes. Not only this, she also did not want to relinquish her Godly status which made her take the sleeping pills. Unconsciously, she triggered the hypnosis effect in Dev which made him do what she wanted which was breaking up.
She wanted to make sure Sonakshi did not come back to Dev's life and sent Ritwick's proposal. She made sure she accepted the proposal as it would confirm that she does not come back in Dev's life.
After Dev's Deewangi, she feared she had become a bad mother in Dev's eyes and Dev would leave her. On getting to know that she was losing him, she went with the decision of getting him married to Sonakshi. Her good mother image is important for her.
On knowing about the prenup, she went for signatures as she did not want Sonakshi to take Dev's hard earned money which was enshrouding her from the society. She knew how she might influence Dev's decision which might lead to their divorce, so she cleverly took Dev's signature.
After marriage, she saw how Sonakshi had again influencing Dev's decision making her feel left out which increased her fear of facing the society by Dev walking out on her after getting to know how she was a bad mother. So, how did she make sure Dev never left her? She resorted to her emotional abuse by making use of his guilt complex and reminded him of how she had sacrificed for him, reinstating her godly as well as good mother status. If she was unable to make Dev guilty, she would induce what is called self triggered headache and got her way. The headaches that she faced were induced by her subconsciously as she wanted Dev's attention. These headaches were unintentional but helped her getting what she wanted.
Also, when she saw Dev calling Asha maa, this made her fears come true as she saw Dev was going away from her so she did not talk to him and gave him cold shoulder which helped her in achieving the hypnosis effect. If she got Dev's attention, she felt she was not losing her status.
Then came the pregnancy news. She wanted Dev's child desperately especially a male child as she wanted to reduce this guilt in her subconscious and make amends by giving the child freedom and relaxed childhood she was unable to give Dev. After knowing about Sonakshi's infertility, she wanted to try 7 percent chances as she did not want to accept her failure. She wanted God to help her get rid of her guilt by giving her what she wanted (baby). So she forced Dev to get her treated through hypnosis effect. (Making him guilty coupled with leaving the house).
Finally, the slapgate incident which showed Ishwari how Dev was going out of the way for Boses by hiding things from her reinstating her fear of Dev going away from her which might result in him leaving her so she went for her hypnosis effect (The murmuring).
She tried to resort to same emotional abuse by giving Dev the prenup papers and making him see how she was a good mother who thought about his future. But by then, Dev came to know how insecure she was and decided to choose Sonakshi over his mother.
Then came the seven year leap and we know how she was able to assuage her guilt by seeing how correct she was by getting those papers signed as she feared Sonakshi would leave him.
And now I can finally say that Ishwari suffers from narcissistic personality disorder and she suffered from borderline personality disorder which led her to taking pills. What we saw during this track is known as cognitive dissonance and you can search for it online.
With this post, I bid adieu.😊😊
Edited by bashingHater2 - 8 years ago