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Hi everyone! Today i want to talk about something which this series had made me think about.
" Society", this is one of the most abused word in day to day conversation. But i have a question, what is this society? Who all are a part of this society? Actually each one of us make this socity, we are society. So, nething right or wrong happening in this society, we are a part of it, we are responsible for it.
Since our childhood we read, see and hear about woman discrimination in our indian society, for ages woman has been considered as a lesser race. We all talk, retaliate this logic, claiming women are equal to men but have we ever thought who is responsible for this? Men in our society or we women ourselves?
How many of us have seen our fathers shouting on our mothers on pety issues or sometimes on bigger issues? I think many of us. But our grandmothers and our mothers always justified it saying " he is stressed because of office issues and he needs a vent". We see around us husbands shouting on hisbands, brothers shouting on sisters, bfs shouting on gfs, sometimes sons shouting on mothers.
And always it is woman themselves justify this in name of love, stress, right and nature.
But when opposite happens, woman shouts on a man, it is considered bad, uncivilized and sign of poor upbringing.
Sometimes, this occasional shouting converts into violence. Then its v women who make those men as villians.
But we forget that we as women get what we had asked for, in name of love and security we were the ones who had asked for these insults and then we blame the society, " ye society hi aise hai".
Now coming to kuch rang pyar ke aise bhi. This forum is a society, with most of its members being women.
In season 1 we saw a ML, who was arrogant, eccentric, rude and stubborn. But never really disrespected elders and women. But by the end of season1 he was someone who in anger slapped his FIL (though accidently), abusing his wife and about to slap his wife. Some retaliated those actions but many accepted as they felt he was drunk, hurt and shattered.
Season2 we saw the same ML entering a hotel, manager asking him" Welcome back Dixitji ". What does this mean? He is a regular visitor of this hotel and stays in same suite. Then inside the room he was very ok with her till she din ask for a serious relationship. Let me quote Dev" Shruti tumhare baal, tumhari aakhen, tumhare honth kitne sunder hain, yes humara rishta special hai aur ye aise hi rehya agar tumne love word ka use nahi kiya hota. Tum bhi un sab ladkiyonnki tarah nikali jinko maine tumse pehle date kiya, jaise main unsabko bhool gaya main tumko bhi bhool jaaoonga". A man who spends night with women in drunk state every now and then, v want to believe he din have physical relations with them? Noone is this big saint. Alcohol itself is aphrodisiac. When the same man questions his wife's character, we justify him saying he was hurt but he would nver slept with any woman.
In Season2 we again and again ML bullying, his ex-wife, sometimes breaking his office, someday locking her in office in the night, someday tying her to a door. We all accepted it name of love, jealousy, hurt, fun, stupidity or insecurity.
Gradually the insults have increased over past 3 months, insults increased, accusitions increased and reached to what happened yest. A man who himself has been loitering around with multiple woman, calls his wife characterless, calls her a fraud who by her beauty and innocence trap men. But what we see is, his right to be hurt and jealous.
Probably now next what we will see is tsame man hitting is woman, then it will labelled as domestic violence and he will be labelled as a villian.
But did we ever think y are we getting so much of hatred and man handling, bcoz we are asking for it, bcoz we are accepting it in name of intense love, jealousy (form of love), insecurity, fun and style.
I know this is a fiction series and we get to see everything, its not a documentary. But never forget we will get to see what we accept and what we want.
If we as responsible members want to see a change, then we have to be that change and reject what we don't want to happen to is. How many of us will want all this happen to us in name of love?
Dev has a golden heart, he loves Sonakshi a lot, he is hurt, he is very insecure. Everything is true. He is one character who just needs someone to show him his blind spots and mirror to reality but just being pure hearted, giving, loving doesnt give him right to insult neone including a woman whom he loves so much.
I really din want to sound feminist but i felt as someone who is probably elder to quite a few of view, being a qualified professional who has been dealing with human emotions and relationships since last 10 years, has seen ugly faces of this society, felt like sharing it with you all.
I really don't mean any offence to anyone. Sorry in advance if i hurt neone
" Society", this is one of the most abused word in day to day conversation. But i have a question, what is this society? Who all are a part of this society? Actually each one of us make this socity, we are society. So, nething right or wrong happening in this society, we are a part of it, we are responsible for it.
Since our childhood we read, see and hear about woman discrimination in our indian society, for ages woman has been considered as a lesser race. We all talk, retaliate this logic, claiming women are equal to men but have we ever thought who is responsible for this? Men in our society or we women ourselves?
How many of us have seen our fathers shouting on our mothers on pety issues or sometimes on bigger issues? I think many of us. But our grandmothers and our mothers always justified it saying " he is stressed because of office issues and he needs a vent". We see around us husbands shouting on hisbands, brothers shouting on sisters, bfs shouting on gfs, sometimes sons shouting on mothers.
And always it is woman themselves justify this in name of love, stress, right and nature.
But when opposite happens, woman shouts on a man, it is considered bad, uncivilized and sign of poor upbringing.
Sometimes, this occasional shouting converts into violence. Then its v women who make those men as villians.
But we forget that we as women get what we had asked for, in name of love and security we were the ones who had asked for these insults and then we blame the society, " ye society hi aise hai".
Now coming to kuch rang pyar ke aise bhi. This forum is a society, with most of its members being women.
In season 1 we saw a ML, who was arrogant, eccentric, rude and stubborn. But never really disrespected elders and women. But by the end of season1 he was someone who in anger slapped his FIL (though accidently), abusing his wife and about to slap his wife. Some retaliated those actions but many accepted as they felt he was drunk, hurt and shattered.
Season2 we saw the same ML entering a hotel, manager asking him" Welcome back Dixitji ". What does this mean? He is a regular visitor of this hotel and stays in same suite. Then inside the room he was very ok with her till she din ask for a serious relationship. Let me quote Dev" Shruti tumhare baal, tumhari aakhen, tumhare honth kitne sunder hain, yes humara rishta special hai aur ye aise hi rehya agar tumne love word ka use nahi kiya hota. Tum bhi un sab ladkiyonnki tarah nikali jinko maine tumse pehle date kiya, jaise main unsabko bhool gaya main tumko bhi bhool jaaoonga". A man who spends night with women in drunk state every now and then, v want to believe he din have physical relations with them? Noone is this big saint. Alcohol itself is aphrodisiac. When the same man questions his wife's character, we justify him saying he was hurt but he would nver slept with any woman.
In Season2 we again and again ML bullying, his ex-wife, sometimes breaking his office, someday locking her in office in the night, someday tying her to a door. We all accepted it name of love, jealousy, hurt, fun, stupidity or insecurity.
Gradually the insults have increased over past 3 months, insults increased, accusitions increased and reached to what happened yest. A man who himself has been loitering around with multiple woman, calls his wife characterless, calls her a fraud who by her beauty and innocence trap men. But what we see is, his right to be hurt and jealous.
Probably now next what we will see is tsame man hitting is woman, then it will labelled as domestic violence and he will be labelled as a villian.
But did we ever think y are we getting so much of hatred and man handling, bcoz we are asking for it, bcoz we are accepting it in name of intense love, jealousy (form of love), insecurity, fun and style.
I know this is a fiction series and we get to see everything, its not a documentary. But never forget we will get to see what we accept and what we want.
If we as responsible members want to see a change, then we have to be that change and reject what we don't want to happen to is. How many of us will want all this happen to us in name of love?
Dev has a golden heart, he loves Sonakshi a lot, he is hurt, he is very insecure. Everything is true. He is one character who just needs someone to show him his blind spots and mirror to reality but just being pure hearted, giving, loving doesnt give him right to insult neone including a woman whom he loves so much.
I really din want to sound feminist but i felt as someone who is probably elder to quite a few of view, being a qualified professional who has been dealing with human emotions and relationships since last 10 years, has seen ugly faces of this society, felt like sharing it with you all.
I really don't mean any offence to anyone. Sorry in advance if i hurt neone
Anupamaa
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