Tell me why bijoy should be nice to Dev? updated on pg 5 - Page 2

Originally posted by: yyy

Because it was Bijoy's daughter who invited Dev to come and stay with them .If he has any issues then he needs to talk to his daughter first not show his frustration on Dev .Like you said he is not the SIL anymore so they have no right on him nor does Dev have on anyone except Soha .Another reason is no matter what differences Bijoy has with Dev fact is he is Soha's father and like it or not he needs to respect that .If he is having a problem then talk to his daughter and ask her to make different arrangements

Apart from age has Bijoy done anything to gain respect in Dev's eyes or even among his family members ? Would you have any high regards for someone who is acting childish by not serving food for guest,who doesn't spare a innocent child and lashes out at him , try to snatch your daughter from you on the pretext of saving her ,who is ready to create a scene anywhere and everywhere , enjoys food but still makes snide remark about the food .

No one is expecting him to love Dev but having some courtesy for ur guest is needed .If he cannot forget accidental slap then it's his choice but he cannot use that to insult Dev and make everyone around him miserable with his actions especially Soha

Ok. So we are going by " athithi devo bhava"... here he is athidi and also dev .. so i can understand...

Since we are talking about expectations. Sona and dev were discussing multiple options and dev clearly said he doesnt agree to the 7 day deal and discussions ended for that day. Then all of a sudden he decides to take the deal and drops in with out informing- knowing bijoy doesnt like him .. he intentionally tried to aggravate him by bringing the bp tablets (i am sure he expected bijoys reaction and wanted to provoke him further - unless dev is a bp patient and he carries his medicines in his pocket). So after this if bijoy played a similar prank on dev it is not acceptable!!

Now coming to current situation... bijoy caught dev with jewelry bag and dev accepted that he did it and doesnt know why he did it - no explanation. Should. Bijoy just forget everything and be normal with him ?

Coming to snatching daughter... i remember dev being nasty to bijoy over phone even on the day he locked up sona in office. He broke sonas name plate that carried bijoys name. Until then, bijoy was not nasty with dev .. i dont see any mention of the slap from anyone in bose family in S2. It is not the slap that worries bijoy .. it is that dev will hurt sona and soha once again. So snatching the daughter... if dev can respect sohas wishes and agree to all that soha is asking for.. why cant bijoy respect sohas requests.. he did not take soha away forcibly... i think giving into a childs wishes like this is wrong by both bijoy and dev - that's a separate rant.

So i still dont see any solid reason why bijoy should be nice to dev and dev should be nasty to bijoy..

Originally posted by: yyy

Because it was Bijoy's daughter who invited Dev to come and stay with them .If he has any issues then he needs to talk to his daughter first not show his frustration on Dev .Like you said he is not the SIL anymore so they have no right on him nor does Dev have on anyone except Soha .Another reason is no matter what differences Bijoy has with Dev fact is he is Soha's father and like it or not he needs to respect that .If he is having a problem then talk to his daughter and ask her to make different arrangements

Apart from age has Bijoy done anything to gain respect in Dev's eyes or even among his family members ? Would you have any high regards for someone who is acting childish by not serving food for guest,who doesn't spare a innocent child and lashes out at him , try to snatch your daughter from you on the pretext of saving her ,who is ready to create a scene anywhere and everywhere , enjoys food but still makes snide remark about the food .

No one is expecting him to love Dev but having some courtesy for ur guest is needed .If he cannot forget accidental slap then it's his choice but he cannot use that to insult Dev and make everyone around him miserable with his actions especially Soha

just perfect. Nitu. Nothing to add. Good reply.

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Ok. So we are going by " athithi devo bhava"... here he is athidi and also dev .. so i can understand...

Since we are talking about expectations. Sona and dev were discussing multiple options and dev clearly said he doesnt agree to the 7 day deal and discussions ended for that day. Then all of a sudden he decides to take the deal and drops in with out informing- knowing bijoy doesnt like him .. he intentionally tried to aggravate him by bringing the bp tablets (i am sure he expected bijoys reaction and wanted to provoke him further - unless dev is a bp patient and he carries his medicines in his pocket). So after this if bijoy played a similar prank on dev it is not acceptable!!

Now coming to current situation... bijoy caught dev with jewelry bag and dev accepted that he did it and doesnt know why he did it - no explanation. Should. Bijoy just forget everything and be normal with him ?

Coming to snatching daughter... i remember dev being nasty to bijoy over phone even on the day he locked up sona in office. He broke sonas name plate that carried bijoys name. Until then, bijoy was not nasty with dev .. i dont see any mention of the slap from anyone in bose family in S2. It is not the slap that worries bijoy .. it is that dev will hurt sona and soha once again. So snatching the daughter... if dev can respect sohas wishes and agree to all that soha is asking for.. why cant bijoy respect sohas requests.. he did not take soha away forcibly... i think giving into a childs wishes like this is wrong by both bijoy and dev - that's a separate rant.

So i still dont see any solid reason why bijoy should be nice to dev and dev should be nasty to bijoy..

Even before theft incident Bijoy was rude to Dev and especially Golu .I can never by any justification on mistreating innocent child period .

As per Bijoy and his perfect daughter conversation,Bijoy agreed he is taking Soha away from Dev not because he was concerned about Soha's wishes but he wanted to keep her away fronSoha .Soha wish was to stay with her parents notvaway from anyone .If he is so concerned about Soha's wishes then he should respect Soha's decision of choosing Dev as her father .

Legally a minor child cannot be taken without parents approval .He can be jailed for this act .Before you bring up papers Sona got it signed .If I am not wrong Dev can prove in the court he was forced to sign it or he was blackmailed to sign it as there was no witnesses from Dev's side .It would Sonakshi's and Bijoy's responsibility to prove him wrong .Unless proven those papers have no value :) .Prenup anyway won't help Bijoy here .

I am sure even if we discuss further you and me will not be on same page .So I sign off now have a good discussion.Bye

Also for a middle class family, losing their home is a big blow as they put everything in building the house. Dev and his family ousted them from their home and made them leave the city in which they grew up. It is not a small thing in real life. In real life even brothers don't remain cordial for property disputes and here it was such a betrayal.

Originally posted by: jasw

Also for a middle class family, losing their home is a big blow as they put everything in building the house. Dev and his family ousted them from their home and made them leave the city in which they grew up. It is not a small thing in real life. In real life even brothers don't remain cordial for property disputes and here it was such a betrayal.

And this is the same dev who cried buckets when his mamajis home got. Urnt... and he has no remorse for being the reason to snatch bose house from them... but still they need to worship him as he is the dev dixit

@yyy
Bijoy never forced anything on soha... infact he has been the most sensible grandparent after asha - if u look at ishwari and gkb's manipulations. Bijoy may be disappointed but he never said dont call dev papa or dont spend time with him after his initial discussion and understanding with sona on what she wants for soha.

Bijoy told sona that he doesnt like dev around soha etc ... dev doesnt know all this... so why shud he disrespect bijky based on imaginations...Bijoy was taking soha to kolkatta upon sohas wishes and the only legal gaurdian at that time sona did not stop him as he is just doing what soha wants. If you go legally, bijoy did not do anything wrong and sona told dev is the father... there is no legal document to prove dev is indeed the father of soha.. before doing anything he needs to get a dna test first to prove that he is the father.
So bijoy didnt do anything legally wrong as sonakshi did not stop him.

Again back to my question
Why shud bijoy be nice to dev and why is it ok for dev to be. Asty with bijoy

Originally posted by: dlavanya

Ok. So we are going by " athithi devo bhava"... here he is athidi and also dev .. so i can understand...

Since we are talking about expectations. Sona and dev were discussing multiple options and dev clearly said he doesnt agree to the 7 day deal and discussions ended for that day. Then all of a sudden he decides to take the deal and drops in with out informing- knowing bijoy doesnt like him .. he intentionally tried to aggravate him by bringing the bp tablets (i am sure he expected bijoys reaction and wanted to provoke him further - unless dev is a bp patient and he carries his medicines in his pocket). So after this if bijoy played a similar prank on dev it is not acceptable!!

Now coming to current situation... bijoy caught dev with jewelry bag and dev accepted that he did it and doesnt know why he did it - no explanation. Should. Bijoy just forget everything and be normal with him ?

Coming to snatching daughter... i remember dev being nasty to bijoy over phone even on the day he locked up sona in office. He broke sonas name plate that carried bijoys name. Until then, bijoy was not nasty with dev .. i dont see any mention of the slap from anyone in bose family in S2. It is not the slap that worries bijoy .. it is that dev will hurt sona and soha once again. So snatching the daughter... if dev can respect sohas wishes and agree to all that soha is asking for.. why cant bijoy respect sohas requests.. he did not take soha away forcibly... i think giving into a childs wishes like this is wrong by both bijoy and dev - that's a separate rant.

So i still dont see any solid reason why bijoy should be nice to dev and dev should be nasty to bijoy..

Bijoy doesn't need to be nice to dev
Dev is just soha father that to sona foolishly allowing this creepe near her daughter.
Bijoy has all the rights to be angry but better stop shouting at this spineless man waste of energy waste of time instead ignorance is bliss .
Sona invited trouble herself so better keep a tab on it instead not allowing dig shits to take advantage.
Bijoy don't lose ur coolness for this unwanted guest .
Be happy ur kids are settled enjoy ur days ...

Originally posted by: Tia.0

Oh it's pretty simple, Lavanya. Whoever doesn't worship in Dev Dixit's alter and holds him accountable for his own actions deserve to be insulted no matter where they are by everyone they love.

I hope Dev's son-in-law dishes out identical treatment to Dev from "accidental" slap and physical threat. But for now, I hope Sonakshi repays back the favour to Ishwari in equal measure with pill for hallucination along with taunts and threat to do physical harm precluded by "accidental" slap.

By the way, who said that Dev respects elders, that's why he didn't stand up for Sona? It turns out, the only person he never respected was Sonakshi. But I guess that's the price you pay when you marry a chauvinist.

After all, it should be equal from all sides, no?