Name Calling - Page 11

First Previous

Page

Next Last

Frequent Posters

Deepa

@deepsel

Rocker

+ 3

Posted: 8 years ago

#101

Aww my cute Mishti🤗 Firstly a big hug for placing your heart like this on the public forum!! No one can understand what one went through unless they put themselves in their shoes, so don't feel bad for these name callings. I agree people in this forum nowadays have crossed all limits in name calling irrespective of any age , character, even to real members with the freedom of anonymity. I also agree it do prick our sensitive part sometimes but IF is a place where we need to be really thick skinned. I hope this post has made you feel better to bring our chirpy girl back😳. Continue your everlasting positive posts which never fails to bring smiles on our faces and don't loose heart and fall into the trap of this virtual world 🤗

Quote

Deepsikha

@Mishti_94

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#102

Originally posted by: grace4317
Mishti...once again a big 👏👏👏 for creating this thread. Especially because it helped many to share their experiences and also because inspite of what you had to go through, how you are keeping yourself positive have encouraged a lot of us... Keep the good job dear.

Thank you Grace!

Yes, I'm glad people shared their experiences here!

Talking helps most of the time! :)

Thank you.

Yes, I will try my best! :D

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

Sajini Cherian

@sajinifaby

Rocker

+ 5

Posted: 8 years ago

#103

Its been a while since i posted anything in the forum... coz i considered this as a family... but this ended up being a gal vs boy tug-o-war...

while i peeped in.. i saw 2 posts.. one urs and one another one.. which i understood is the reason why u came up with this post...

i was shell shocked to see a post that compared a 6 year to a 20 or more year old feeling...

can we show this story to a small 6 year old child and ask the child to respond... it would be like what soha did...

if elders fight like young ones.. over the silliest thing... but can't get over each other.. then the young ones are left with no other choice...

when someone call soha a manipulator... even if so, what is wrong about it? her parents care for her is what they say... then she need a proof about it... i dont think the child is wrong in asking how she dearly wants her parents.. but also want her parents to see if they can live or not...

i remember as a child.. when i used to ask my father some doubt... he starts replying his way... and then i go to interrupt him... he used to say a banana talk "thokkil keri vedi vekkelle" - dont fire a gun... same way.. can u allow the story to unfold a bit before one becomes judgemental

she want to witness what her mother and father said.. def now i will agree with what the other group has to say.. she is smart enough to differentiate between good n bad...

most of them.. wanted to see what u want sona to do...

sona still loves dev.. if not, she wud never say good things about dev... and tell her child that her relation with him didnt work.. rest all were great...

she saw sadness in her eyes.. am sure as a loving daughter... she not only wants her father.. but also... her mother and father to be happy.. as much as they do for her... and golu is also in that mission.. if soha is a manipulator for a good cause even.. I CERTAINLY am with THEM 3.. LIKE ASHA..

its all about love and giving in one more chance is part of it...

ishwari the manipulator only separated love...

but soha the manipulator (according to others) will unite love...

AM ALL FOR IT...👍🏼

Quote

Sajini Cherian

@sajinifaby

Rocker

+ 5

Posted: 8 years ago

#104

Mishti.. from now on I'll call u only by that name..

Its always the truth, that people who go through pain only tries to be spread joy... and sweetness...

Continue to be a lighthouse and sweet to all...

Don't bother if stones are thrown... coz only when people think rightly... such strong oppositions come..

Quote

Ria.C

@Ria.C

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#105

Awsum post Deeps..well said 🤗

Quote

Deepsikha

@Mishti_94

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#106

Originally posted by: cumberben
I m new here, but would like to praise you for your outright Confession.Its never easy to share something so deep and painful with others .I stand by you , Suhana and Every child who want their parents to be with them at all pivotal, whether it makes sense or is just a plain nonsensical moment in their life. They deserve and have full right to ask for this.
Hats off! For the courage you showed 😃

Thank you!

Yeah it isn't easy. But when you see unacceptable things happening, you need to take a stand sometimes, right?

Exactly. A CHild is a child. And their demands will bhi childish. Ab zid nahin karengey toh kab karengey?

Thank you once again dear! :)

Quote

Deepsikha

@Mishti_94

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#107

Originally posted by: krystle123
first of all, a big sorry for this much late and thank u soo much for the pm...otherwise i would have missed this fabulous post.

a tight hug to u dear...🤗

actually, i dont know what to say, but i'm damn proud u mishti...u indeed a strong girl. the way u carried ur life in the most positive way is really commendable. u truely an inspiration tigres ⭐️👏

there is famous quote by shakesphere...i always remembered, but u r living example---

cent percent agree with u dear...u have given tight slap to all those who used these type of abusive languages to a kid. ppl have really crossed the limit.

i hope ppl will learn some ethics and manners after reading ur post.

i'm soo happy for u...i wish all happiness and success in ur life and for ur sweet happy family.

i'm really proud of our show that touched this much realism and practical approach..👏👏

THANK U SOO MUCH FOR THIS POST TIGRESS...MY RESPECT FOR U HAS BEEN INCREASED INFINITELY. SO PROUD OF U. 👏👏

KEEP UP THIS SPIRIT DEAR...

Thank you so much Krystle Di!

hahha😆

Not Tigress Di, Khargosh, remember?😆😆

Very apt quote.

I don't know how much people realised because I have received a couple of replies that actually try to prove Soha as a brat.

But I made my points clear to them too.

And I sincerely hope they realise what a grave error they are making here.

Nonetheless, I tried. :)

Thank you so much DI!🤗 ❤️

Quote

Deepsikha

@Mishti_94

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#108

Originally posted by: Tacker_Holic
This is such a beautiful post! I am so glad you are in a happy place! God bless you and your family!

Thank you!

Thank you so much! ❤️

Quote

Deepsikha

@Mishti_94

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#109

Originally posted by: mena_k
A child has every right to ask for whatever he/she wishes from his/her parents.
However, I believe the point of discussion was not that Soha asked for Dev and Sonakshi to stay together, but her running away with her grandparents to Kolkata when they refused. She told them she won't live with either of them If they refused. This had put extra emotional stress on the minds of both Dev and Sona. In a way this reminded me of Ishwari when she left for temple and refused to come back home until Sona agrees for fertility treatment which Dev promised. Soha was not wrong in asking considering she saw Dev taking care of Sona in front of her, however she did not see how Dev behaved rudely, inhumanely with Sona behind Soha's back. She believed what she saw, as a child she wished for something that every child wants. Nevertheless only time would tell If this time Dev stands up for the respect of Sona and not just for Soha's happiness. We all know Sona would never talk or behave like Dev does to Bijoy, no matter how bad Ishwari gets to her. Sona's stay in Ishwari nivas would be interesting to see.

@BOLD:So you Go ahead and compare a 6 year old to a 50 year old?

Soha reminded you of Ishwari?

I don't really have an answer to this because I'm amazed.

Sorry If I seemed rude, but i really fail to understand the base of this comparison.

Yes exactly. She believed what she saw.

And she has no reason to believe otherwise.

Like she didn't believe Bijoy's opinion about Dev.

She goes by her opinion.

And for her, she simply wants her parents together.

And as for her running away trick, I will quote my answer from a reply i gave to someone else on the same thread.

Yes, I agree, that it is wrong of Soha to demand to live with her grand parents leaving her parents, but instead of perceiving it as her bratt-ish behaviour, you could also look at it as her defense mechanism. A way of running away from a situation here. Her mother asked her to be happy living with one parent. She didn't want to do it, so she ran away. Isn't that what ALL kids do. Did each of us be brave enough at 6 to face the teacher scolding us? Or did we cry buckets to our parents because we didn't want to go to school because the teacher was angry?

We did the latter, didn't we?

Quote

Deepsikha

@Mishti_94

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#110

Originally posted by: _Payalj_

Mena, I didn't think you would blame a child. Very young people who are not parents making this mistake I can understand, but not the mature members

The child is making a mistake and is trying to leverage it s position no doubt about it. But the real shortcoming is of the parent who is not able to handle him or reach out to him.

Children throw tantrums for umpteen things because they are unable to understand the complexities of life or the problems of their parents. This is a part of the process of growing up. How many times a child threatens main ghar chod ke chala jaaonga, if I don't get x y or z. But the elders in the family don't promote them but handle it in a mature fashion.

Soha could have done nothing if bijoy had not complied with her request. But here people are happily blaming and name calling the small child. In fact bijoy has literally taught the girl a lesson which she will never forget in her life - emotional blackmail wins. But where are the brickbats for bijoy? We are happily blaming the small child whose entire psyche became a casualty of his mistake and impulsive behaviour.

Not you I know, but some people are being so vitriolic towards a small child that it makes one pray that God never curses any child with them as a parent.

@BOLD: Beautifully penned Di.

Those are my thoughts precisely.

I still FAIL to understand how soha becomes a MANIPULATOR in all of this?

Someone in a reply few pages back called Soha insensitive at 6.

Wonder what they call themselves at their own ages by all these assumptions that they are making.

Edited by Mishti_94 - 8 years ago