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Thank you. But of course, Soha is smart and she is using her intellect to manipulate her parents in a situation she wants them to be. But what Dev said was also true and correct. Will Soha like to see her parents unhappy and constantly arguing just so she can have both of them forcefully tied together?
Soha didn't answer that question and instead stated her ultimatum. But just because a child is demanding without knowing the consequences based on a tiny sample of watching her parents together, doesn't mean the parents can stop using their brain.
Dev and Sona can't live as a roommate and co-parent until Soha is an adult. So they have to remarry or live together. However, in that situation, two people are not only parents, they are also husband and wife for which they are incompatible. And even if they happen to sacrifice their life for Soha and spend the next decade unhappy and at loggerheads, what happens when Soha grows up and start living her life? What will super glue them then? In the meanwhile, they'd have wasted years when they both could have been happy and now will spend the rest of their life unhappy as well.
You are assuming that if Dev and Sona live separately they won't team up for Soha while if they are forced into a situation neither of them want, they will suddenly become compatible and definitely team up. But when in reality, the unhappiness will lead to bitterness and bitterness will lead to fights and fights will lead to even less cooperation or teaming up for their child.
Dev and Sona can love each other until eternity but they are fundamentally incompatible. Loving from a distance or dating for a short time or even sleeping together due to physical attraction are different from living a life in daily basis as they both found out. Their so called epic love could not even last more than one festival season. They spent more time arguing than they spent in love with each other.
Even if we remove all family, Dev's tendency to lie won't change, his tendency to never keep his promises won't change, Sona's frustration regarding his temporary solutions won't change, she won't suddenly start to trust him despite all the previous lies. Then?
Then they will be stuck in a toxic situation due to Soha. Soha is now 6 years old. So she is day dreaming based on the caring Dev and less argumentative Sona she saw. But she didn't see what goes on behind her back.
When she is a grown up, she will understand the more complex situations. But even then no child has the right to dictate her adult parents life just like no parents have the rights to dictate their adult children's life.
Now, I know it's hard to understand the problem in this situation. But what if at the end of Dev's stay, Soha decides that she doesn't like how her parents argue together and wants her mother to marry Jatin instead? Would you say that since Soha didn't ask to be born and it was her parents's decision, she gets to decide whom Sonakshi should live with?
No, right? The reason this is not looking unnatural is because Soha wants what most people here wants - Dev and Sona to get back together. But trust me. Children giving ultimatum to parents are not normal. Minor children don't get a choice to not live with any parent.
In my opinion, they should be together when they both want to because they can't live without each other after realizing their mistakes and rectifying them. Not because Soha threw a tantrum. And that situation I have not seen yet.
Originally posted by: areeba_blossom
Love your commentary. As always hilarious however I would disagree with you on last pointer you pointed out about how Sona should tell Suhana that the kids she just met would die to be in a place like hers.
I think Soha being a child of two parents who are business owners has an intellectual capacity to use situations to her benefit. It also helps that despite a very disciplined lifestyle provided to her by Sonakshi, she is pampered by every Bose member She calls her grandmother by name, teases her Mamu and calls out Bijoy on his attitude whenever she pleases. She also is provided with anything she asks for by her mother and she has witnessed and made sense to herself that her father is going to do the same with his promises of providing everything.She has substantial leverage of exploiting her parents' love and both of the extended family members' love in this scenario to get what she wants. Neither parent wants to be a bad cop in this situation as well since they are separated and there hasn't been/won't be any official proceedings for custody. It's not bratty but more of a yearning of getting the perfect family she sees everyone having in my opinion.For her parents to tell her to be grateful of the one parent she lives with and another she can go to anytime she wants to is an extremely abusive tactic. Parents are the one who chose to have a child. Not the other way around. The girl is asking for both of her parents to be together instead of a toy. She wants the people who are her biggest support to team up for her and while that's not the best idea for Dev and Sona because they are honestly toxic for each other, there teaming up is necessary for Soha's upbringing.I think the moment echoed a lot of complexity of Soha's character as a child which could have been executed with more perfection but calling out a child who is going to always chose between parents, bratty and point her that others have no parents sometimes is like telling a person with a disability that there are people dying in wars.
