Flawed perfection !! - Page 8

Originally posted by: deepsel

[DIV]<font size="2" color="#ff0000">[I][BR][/I]</font>[/DIV][DIV]<font size="2" color="#ff0000">[I]Hi Sona[:D][/I]</font>[/DIV][DIV]<font size="2" color="#ff0000">[I][BR][/I]</font>[/DIV][DIV]<font size="2" color="#ff0000">[I]LOL posts can be measly for next few days dear..my brains will short circuit if I continue to ditch my sleep like this[LOL]so please excuse me if you don't see any regularly..will definitely try to pen whenever am little free[:$].[/I]</font>[/DIV][DIV]<font size="2" color="#ff0000">[I][BR][/I]</font>[/DIV][DIV]<font size="2" color="#ff0000">[I]Yes the journey has started and how?![;)]Suhana is the definite mixture of Dev and Sona with Dev's qualities majorly doning her interior hidden with Sona's values as exterior and Sona knows that very well . Remember " mein aisewali beti ho tho" and Sona's face after that?![:$][/I]</font>[/DIV]

Originally posted by: siddhi.d123

Hey as always amazing post.But I still don't understand Dev's anger towards Sonakshi what does he actually expect.My favorite dialogue was when Dev said ki woh hamari beti hai and Sona corrected him saying there is nothing between us to call her hamari beti and u can see from his face he was hurt that she doesn't want to be part of the hum.Also more than lift I loved the way he delicately turned her and picked up for his own comfort.Dont know whether it was Dev or Shaheer 😉

Originally posted by: grace4317

Hi Deeps...You have very well presented your thoughts from a totally different point of view, especially the bolded ones. I haven't yet finished reading the analysis thread by Sam;so not sure whether anyone else has thought in this way. However, thanks for helping to see the first scene of Dev-Soha interaction in such a positive manner. Otw, i was really distressed to see how Dev alone was being questioned for something the most important ladies in his life were equally responsible too...😭

Underlined part - I also felt that dialogue included Ishwari too and it was some sort of his frustration to show how in the name of motherhood these two have made / are making his life a hell.

Green part - I feel, Golu too will have a part in teaching Ishwari on how to share your most loved ones with others & to Sona what does it mean to understand your partner & be with him thru thick & thin.

Originally posted by: Cutiepie.sona

Yet another beautiful post Deepa Di👏👏

Ur posts reminds me of the dialogue of Dev

"Dev Dixit ko aaj tak koi jhuka nhi saka

Lekin pyaar ne jhuka Diya"

It will be his love for Suhana that will make him realise his faults and once again bow down like a Fruitful tree and not standing straight like a old Dead tree😳

Originally posted by: Shaavi

Wonderful post as usual. I agree to most of what you said, but something is not setting completely. 😳 . I do not want to hurt anyone but wanted to just say what I feel. I sincerely apologize if it hurts anyone and it is not intensional.

Thanks Shaavi and I am not at all surprised with your disconnect 😆 And please stop apologizing for merely stating your opinion be it Sam's thread or mine😳

Most of the times it is said that Dev got his love easily but not Sonakshi. She had to fight for it. But did she really ever fight for her love?. Yes she realized her love for Dev first, but never really told him. In Natasha track, it was not like Dev knew Sonakshi loved him and yet ignored her feelings. It was just that he was simply not aware. When he told Natasha that he loves Sonakshi, he even tells her he does not know if she loves him or not. Here Dev took a risk. The risk of breaking up with Natasha without the knowledge of Sonakshi's feelings. If(hypothetically speaking) He had gone to Sonakshi and she had refused saying she just thought of him as her friend, Dev probably would have respected that or maybe tried to woo her. But saying Dev did not have to work for getting Sonakshi, but she had to is not fair.

Nope I will never say Sona fought for her love..infact she never did 😳. Had Dev not proposed her, she would have never mustered the courage to express her feelings but move on with that first love intact some where deep in her heart. What I said is Dev got it lucky and easy, thats it. He never had to wait to gauge her feelings or felt the pain of loosing her watching with someone, etc etc during the first proposal. Hope I made sense when I said, Suhana is making him work for his right which Sona gave away easily😉

From my perspective Sonakshi got her love very easily. She got much more than she imagined by Dev with his unconditional love for her. He accepted all of her and not just one part of her. It is also true that he tried very hard to make her dreams come true. Even during their courtship period or the marriage phase, he did not really speak more about his dreams. Very rarely he talked about them, but was always ready to compromise his feelings for the sake of Sonakshi or Ishwari's feelings.

@Bold : This I will totally agree..one of the reason I still route for Devakshi because Dev is indeed not a bad person as portrayed by many.. He did put other's wishes over his own and paid a huge price for the same😳

Watching the show now with the information we can see, makes me wonder if Bose family had their own facades similar to Dixit house. Even before Dev came into picture, Sonakshi would hide her true feelings from her family. Yes her dads and Elena, even Asha or Bijoy would coax it out of her, but the fact that they had to do so when constantly they talked about honesty and transparency makes me wonder. In this season the constant chant of "perfection" by Sonakshi or Soha is grating me and giving me a lot of misgivings.

I have a feeling this "Perfection" rant is done deliberately by CVs to prove that there is no such thing as "perfect" and how Boses missed to see the grey areas by seeing only Black and white😳 This might be an important aspect for them to see where they went wrong 7 years ago as well.

There is no perfect person or relationship. You just learn to accept the flaws of your family and live with it. For example if your husband has a habit of leaving the toothpaste open, initially you might tell him to close it, even remind a few times, but after a while you just accept it and close it your self. You don't give that much importance to it and learn "tolerance" towards certain behaviors. This tolerance is not just limited to husband/wife, but to all relationships. You get angry with them, jealous of them, disappointed with them, but also love them, share with them and support them.

Agree...also I always feel one's behavior influence other in long run😳. I am a kind of person who will close that toothpaste in his absence but will purposely keep it open when he is around , so that it falls in line with his vision and cultivate that habit of closing it himself because I have stopped screaming and blaming but instead opened his conscience😳 So as you say there is nothing called perfect which also includes accepting imperfectness as perfect too !!

I guess this is why most of the fairy tales end with the note "then they lived happily ever after". They do not attempt to explain what that happily ever after means. I mean they cannot make their characters flawless till then and suddenly add flaws to them. Princesses portrayed in almost all of the fairy tales are beautiful, kind, gentle, compassionate and in other words "perfect". Similarly all princes are brave, chivalrous, strong and would dare to face any adversity for his love.
Sonakshi believed it so much that she wanted such a love story for herself. That was one of the reason why she fell in love with with Dev. From what she had seen, Dev had fought against the world to provide for his family, had rose from rags to riches single handedly, was also ready to do anything for the people he loved. She had seen him move heaven and earth to fulfill the needs of his loved ones.

Agree absolutely !! No matter how independent and self provided one is, they always look for that dependent partner/friend/shoulder to lean on to relax,who can treat us as the most precious and Sona expected that from Dev. Only problem is she didn't know that Dev too expected the same from her😳

In the hospital when Dev broke up with her, it broke her image of "him being her Prince Charming". But it did not break the image of her being the "princess". When she came to know of the infertility issue, it once again made her question her completeness as princesses are perfect. Dev never blamed her for it and although Ishwari demanded she undergo treatment, she also asked her to focus on the 7% and not the other 93%. But most of Sonakshi's focus was on that 93% which made her feel incomplete. By this time Dev was no longer the prince charming as according to her he had not fought for their love, he said she was the strong one and that she was always correct.

Shaavi infertility is one issue I can never blame Sona or Dev for because both were correct in their own part. Not just for a perfect girl like Sona, for any girl knowing she can't be complete without a child is huge blow and she requires all the support she can get to pass through that phase and Sona didn't get that😳. We really can't blame her for not looking that 7 % positives especially when she was shoved with treatment options without giving any time. It was never about being perfect or being correct in that time!

In all this whatever Dev did was lost. It always looked like he constantly failed and made mistakes as though he is a real idiot. But I wonder is Dev really an idiot as he seems to be on the surface? Hmm... 😉 .
Yes Dev is an idiot for trying to please both important ladies of his life expecting peace, but inturn loosing it eventually 😆

Pride goes a long way before the fall and this is one of the fatal flaws of Bijoy and Sonakshi. My guess is as much as Soha will help Dev to control his temper and impulses, she will also teach Sonakshi the reality regarding harmony and acceptance in life.

Sorry Deepa for hijacking your post. But reading you thoughts got me thinking and wanted to express them. 😃

Its always a pleasure to read your thoughts Shaavi, so keep them coming 😃

Originally posted by: gmgi

A very beautiful post Deeps. One of the best on Friday episode that I have read so far. It was such a pleasure reading it and that too on a Sunday.👏

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Dev and Sona both were stumped by Soha's reaction when they both knew she had already been friends with him as Golu's bigcha and had expected her to eagerly accept the same. But she questioned the Dixit's unwritten rule of entitlement of blood relations. Though it was unfair on Dev who had no part in the decision of not being a constant in his daughter's life it was also kismath ka khel to make him understand the two most important women in his life whom he believed to have let him down badly.

Beautifully put Geena !! Very true, both didn't expect that sudden reluctance from Suhana especially after her friendly encounter with BigCha earlier. Some karma came back to bite Dev😆 Sona too will get her turn soon after Suhana's Dixit mansion visit😉

Soha's reluctance also showed how perspective she is. Despite Sona's struggle to keep Soha away from their doomed past, her daughter have seen through her facade and her struggles. She even accepts that her mother is not honest though she tells that her mother never lies, following the same path herself. And I completely agree with you Deeps that she has missed her father doting on her like she has observed her Dadu doting on her mother. She kept quiet deliberately to avoid, her mother getting hurt.

Such weight on those little tender shoulders Even though Sona took utmost care in Suhana's upbringing , fate had its own way in making a mini Dev Dixit in Suhana who lived/living for fulfilling other's wish, even without Sona's knowledge . Sona will be torn the day she realize this !

Him calling Miss. Bose - Ditto Deeps. I too felt, him addressing them both.

Haila am not alone then ..Divya and you joined the party 😆

Sona was the one who told Dev that their relationship was perfect only to be proved wrong. And now she believes that it was not perfect because of Dev. She have molded Soha in such a way removing those traits that she believed made Dev imperfect for her and now thinks they make the perfect team. Once Soha and Dev makes another perfect team and Sona understands how much she has deprived Soha of her father's love, she will be forced to admit how wrong she was. They were perfect because their perfection and imperfection complemented each other.

Bingo, you summarized even better !!👏 Both wants to hold Suhana leaving other because both feels she completes them when in turn its never true because Suhana can only be that figment of missing piece of that puzzle but the completion can be achieved only with both of them on her sides !

Dev have accepted and is resigned to the fact that his mother will always do what she believes would give him happiness rather than what actually will. He also understands that she doesn't do it to make him unhappy but rather because she is adamant that she knows him more than himself and also understands what makes him happy. She is still trying to protect him from himself where as she needs to be protected from herself. But the one thing that intrigued me is her conviction that Sona and the Boses deserve that treatment from her and didn't have any qualms in admitting that she was wrong only because she turned Soha away. This brings me to what Divya said regarding Dev stopped by Bijoy. If it is Bijoy like it was Ishwari there then it will be this truth that will make Sona lose her trust on each and every relationship. And just like her trip and almost fall, Dev will be the one holding her and lifting her to accept the flaws and bring back her trust in love and relationships.

Divya's POV made perfect sense from every angle and am intrigued to see if thats really the case. But its not like Ishwari to keep quite if she had known about Bijoy's actions (if happened). Something is terribly missing from Dixit's side which hold the major clue for this puzzle. lets see if we all guessed it right 😆

"A man who never sways away from his ways , bows toward the right direction for the first time seeking permission from the mother of his child straight through the front door" - Perfectly summed up. Loved it.

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