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gemini54

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Posted: 8 years ago

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@gudima you are a true inspiration. It is easy for people who have not gone thru hardships to wax poetic about the right thing. But it is totally a different thing coming from a strong woman like you👏

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gudima

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: gemini54
@gudima you are a true inspiration. It is easy for people who have not gone thru hardships to wax poetic about the right thing. But it is totally a different thing coming from a strong woman like you👏

Thanks I have not much time to read all this and post something and as today was Sunday a nd I was going through these post and I really felt sorry for those member who think that I child or especially a girl child need a father love who wanted or loved her mother or support her mother because she produced baby I also have two girl child one adopted and one mine and being a woman I would always my daughter's should also have view like me

And it's really time for us type educated and independent woman to show the worth that we can do anything without their help so they can start giving us respect and value

I have never faced any difficulty like I was papa princess and was treated by my husband and in laws as a queen means I always got love from everybody but after watching the life of my mother or my sister or many other woman on that day only I have decided if I will get a partner who will love me truly as me then only I will be with him

u t this is the first forum where I have seen members with so much strong view and my favourite as m I mentioned Tia

Anyway I am not saying everyone should do this but being in sonakshi place type of person should do this

I know I have done somewhere wrong because I have no problem like sona in real life

And I will never bad-mouth my in laws as they really treated me nicely or my husband even given me space but my principle was different like they wanted a single boy child at any cost which I hated being a woman

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gemini54

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Posted: 8 years ago

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@gudima thanks for replying. Your reply has even more elevated your strength. All of us who are supporting Sona are only admiring her strength and just trying to make a point that love is important in our lives but respect even more.

Also a man or woman needs his or her own strengths and being in a relationship especially of marriage should be a choice, a choice made because of love and respect not because of any other circumstances even a child. Though it is easier said than done..but people like you show that if you have conviction it can be done.

Thanks for sharing your beautiful story and you are right this forum is beautiful because people with varied ideas and opinions coexist and know what is right.

Thanks again keep writing

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Originally posted by: gemini54
@gudima you are a true inspiration. It is easy for people who have not gone thru hardships to wax poetic about the right thing. But it is totally a different thing coming from a strong woman like you👏

Thanks I have not much time to read all this and post something and as today was Sunday a nd I was going through these post and I really felt sorry for those member who think that I child or especially a girl child need a father love who wanted or loved her mother or support her mother because she produced baby I also have two girl child one adopted and one mine and being a woman I would always my daughter's should also have view like me

And it's really time for us type educated and independent woman to show the worth that we can do anything without their help so they can start giving us respect and value

I have never faced any difficulty like I was papa princess and was treated by my husband and in laws as a queen means I always got love from everybody but after watching the life of my mother or my sister or many other woman on that day only I have decided if I will get a partner who will love me truly as me then only I will be with him

u t this is the first forum where I have seen members with so much strong view and my favourite as m I mentioned Tia

Anyway I am not saying everyone should do this but being in sonakshi place type of person should do this

I know I have done somewhere wrong because I have no problem like sona in real life

And I will never bad-mouth my in laws as they really treated me nicely or my husband even given me space but my principle was different like they wanted a single boy child at any cost which I hated being a woman

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gaushiv13

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Posted: 8 years ago

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gudima

I loved loved loved you

Everyone need to take inspiration from you

I also am not able to understand these type of rules like why men always need own child if their wife can't get pregnant why can't they adopted child as no child carry a DNA report with them always so what's the difference between adopted and own child as it would make difference to us only as we carry a child not the men

Then why when men can't become father we women agree easily to get adopted and have family and never questions that I want to experience motherhood by carrying a child

So it is us only who has diminished ourselves

It is we only who don't consider ourselves worth enough if we can't become mother

ANYWAY I WANT TO ASK ONE QUESTION AS YOU HAVE WRITTEN You HAVE TWO TWINS ONE SON AND ONE DAUGHTER AS WHAT I CAN GET TGROUGH IT THEN WHY YOU ADOPTED A DAUGHTER

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Tinkerfairy

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Your whole post again reminded me what kind of treatment she went through in that mad DIXIT house.😭This is what I was asking from Cv's give us sona's POV.Sona has lots of reason for not sharing this news.just one pic of holding her baby standing in front of Dixits house prove what kind of strength sonakashi has.Really proud of you sona.also i want to know whether there will be any kind of introspection of dev and ishwari about how they treated her ,what kind of failure they were as Husband and mother in law.Right now all I am seeing is Both ma and Beta blaming Sona again and again😕😕 ya misunderstanding and saying sorry se kam chalana padega 😕😕also Soha jab badi hogi when she came to know how her father had treated her mother,toh Kya "superhero" ka tag tab bhi rahega.😕

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Hari73

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Posted: 8 years ago

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@gudima..you are a brave woman.👏

It is very important for every female financially independent. I mean not just working...she should have freedom of spending too. I have my own bestest friend who had gone through ugly divorce. My friend is a smart, rank holder engg. She got arranged marriage and then shifted to california. Initially it was all goody..goody. but her husband has become over controlling her. Her bank cards were taken by him..and was given some pocket money and on the top of it. .she had to give him breakup where she spent her pocket money. It went on like 2 to 3 years. She thought it will be ok once she has child. But after having child also still same. Her life had become like paid slave. This is worst life anyone can have. On the top of it he started to doubt her character as well as she studied staying in hostel. You know we will be having some boys also as your friend. So one of her friend boy met her at her house. That day they had ugly talk and my friend had to walk out of the house with 3 year old baby with no money in her hand. She struggled lot. Some of friends supported her. Then she took divorce from him. Now she is living peaceful life.

I am just trying to tell my fellow members. .Make financial position strong. God forbid if anyone have to see such days should at least not struggle for finance along with mental stress.

After i came to kuwait, I have learnt lot of things. I have met so many different cultures, different country people. So my perspective towards marriage has changed. It is upto you how you want live. Like one of my colleague don't want marriage, but want to have child. Another collegue says she never wants to get into marriage as she cannot do her husband seva. She feels burden in getting married😆.

In Arab world virginity not much important. .divorce and remarriage is common. Actually they have different tradition. After engagement, both boy and girl allowed to stay together for 6 months or more. After that if they are compatible, their marriage is solomised or else cancelled. Initially I thought Arabs are conservative. But after meeting them, only dress code is conservative but not thinking.

I do believe in marriage where husband and wife become solumate. Love, respect, understanding very important in marriage. It is better to stay separate if you can not adjust than making life hell.

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Tardis

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Amazing post... I like the flow of your ideas . And I wish we get to watch something like this...👍🏼👏

Though I would not like to jump into conclusions only with spoilers😆

We predicted so many things about Dev carrying Sona... nikla Earthquake 😲😆😆 (woh bhi real mein😉)

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Deepa

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Posted: 8 years ago

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God what a post Suvi 👏 It got me teary eyed!

I am Sona in real life who believes in second chances before giving up with the only difference being I was successful in taming the Obhodro's of my life and similarly getting tamed where it needed for a successful marriage! The mere image of Sona standing out of Ishwari Nivas proved she has indeed kept my belief true about her - Strong, daring, caring and doing right when it needed !!

I can easily guess she had to go from there by some misunderstanding but this mere 20 sec seg is enough to wipe out all the questions raised on her stone heart for keeping their lovechild away!! Thank God for that.

Also am sure we will be getting some similar FBs on why Dev couldn't keep track about Boses in 7 years because I still strongly believe he is not so ruthless to leave a family on streets like that ..that too which belongs to one whom he dearly loved ! Till then am sure of Dev's autopsy😆

@Gudima : More power to you my lady 👏 I admire your strength to not just choose your life but your strength to accept your faults too which is where most woman/ man falter!! I wish you all the luck for your future achievements too 😊

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gudima

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Posted: 8 years ago

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Originally posted by: Pramila.harish
@gudima..you are a brave woman.👏
It is very important for every female financially independent. I mean not just working...she should have freedom of spending too. I have my own bestest friend who had gone through ugly divorce. My friend is a smart, rank holder engg. She got arranged marriage and then shifted to california. Initially it was all goody..goody. but her husband has become over controlling her. Her bank cards were taken by him..and was given some pocket money and on the top of it. .she had to give him breakup where she spent her pocket money. It went on like 2 to 3 years. She thought it will be ok once she has child. But after having child also still same. Her life had become like paid slave. This is worst life anyone can have. On the top of it he started to doubt her character as well as she studied staying in hostel. You know we will be having some boys also as your friend. So one of her friend boy met her at her house. That day they had ugly talk and my friend had to walk out of the house with 3 year old baby with no money in her hand. She struggled lot. Some of friends supported her. Then she took divorce from him. Now she is leaving peaceful life.

I am just trying to tell my fellow members. .Make financial position strong. God forbid if anyone have to see such days should at least not struggle for finance along with mental stress.

After i came to kuwait, I have learnt lot of things. I have met so many different cultures, different country people. So my perspective towards marriage has changed. It is upto you how you want live. Like one of my colleague don't want marriage, but want to have child. Another collegue says she never wants to get into marriage as she cannot do her husband seva. She feels burden in getting married😆.

In Arab world virginity not much important. .divorce and remarriage is common. Actually they have different tradition. After engagement, both boy and girl allowed to stay together for 6 months or more. After that if they are compatible, their marriage is solomised or else cancelled. Initially I thought Arabs are conservative. But after meeting them, only dress code is conservative but not thinking.

I do believe in marriage where husband and wife become solumate. Love, respect, understanding very important in marriage. It is better to stay separate if you can not adjust than making life hell.

Exactly

I am also telling it's not necessary that everyone should do what I have done but at least those person who are not given respect should leave such relationship because whole life hit will be gone by thinking only that now everything will be ok but the men who are not able to respect and love women as what they are then they can never love you

And there is very fast world open for you if you will open your eyes

My case was different as I was not having any such problem if I have told him that time I am pregnant then everything would have got normally but I opted difficult path and was having my choice

But I have written my story to only tell that women are very worthy and can do anything with ease

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Tardis

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Posted: 8 years ago

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