Soha's truth : Reality Vs. Idealism..

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

😛 Well after much thoughts, emotional ride (thinking Dev already knew about Soha etc etc and getting excited for apparently no reason 😆), finally have decided to make a separate topic on this to discuss. 😊

The much controversial topic - Should Sona have shared the truth/news of Soha with Dev ?

Well, in an ideal world, where the father, although separated and signed pre-nup, deserves to know the news. In an ideal world, the father should learn that news, share fatherly bond with his child and yet maintain a cordial and respectful relationship with the mother of his child despite the ugliness of a pre-nup agreement. In an ideal world, the mother-children should choose whatever path in their lives and the father shouldn't mind/interfere. To go one step further, in ideal world, there is no separation itself. 😛

And then strikes the Reality. Let's see the reality of this case from Sona's perspective -

Separated from the father of the baby. And how ? After being asked to get out, after being handed over the signed pre-nup documents, after hearing a earful of hurting words, after having her father slapped and after being homeless. Not an amicable separation like Hrithik-Suzanne.
Leaves the city.
Finds herself pregnant.
Has the knowledge of the pre-nup that the baby's financial and overall responsibility is entirely hers and not her ex-husband's.
Knows the POWER of Dev Dixit and his love for his mother - A DEADLY combination in all universe. 😛
Knows what Ishwari wants.

Privileges come from deserving actions. Dev Dixit, to be privileged to be a part of this news, should have worked harder to ensure Sona shares the truth with him in an open and fearless mind. Looking at Dev Dixit's profile (numerous lies, deceits, manipulations, flaunting of power) which ex-wife in her sane mind would want to let him be a part of this news ?

When I truly believe Sona's stated reason in yesterday's episode was an amazingly bullshit reason, since a 6-yr old child cannot decide anything for herself, I also believe Sona has at least 10-20 VALID reasons to NOT share the news with Dev till now. Yes, in an ideal world she should have shared it with Dev since he deserves to know being the father of the kid, but in an ideal world all the decisions of a child is taken by her guardian until she is 18. And to overpower both the idealism, there comes the reality that after being familiar with the actions Dev can do for his Momma in the past, Sona is not OBLIGED to share the news with Dev.

If we are expecting IDEAL behaviour from Sona, let's look into Dev's profile to check how many actions of his have been IDEAL. But expecting IDEAL actions from Sona and ignoring Dev Dixit's FAR-FROM-IDEAL behaviours and giving him clean-chit is IMO not acceptable and is against the concept pf equality.

In the end, it's about unfair one-sided expectations vs. obligations in Sona's case. Upon not meeting those unfair ideal expectations, we can get disappointed on our own, but there is no obligation on her which upon not being met, she should be criticized or bashed. 😉

My 2 cents. Have fun and please refrain from bashing. ⭐️

Edited by Pehchaan.Kaun - 8 years ago

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preethik

@preethik

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Posted: 8 years ago

I agree that sona had solid reasons to not share sohas existence before.

Now that she decided to come to Delhi, work in the same office she should tell him about soha. She is financially well set has a good support system so no excuses.

But apart from her natural insecurities as a mother (nowhere near ish) she probably doesn't want to expose soha to this dev who (from what she has seen) is a womanizer, a rude guy & a drunk. Also she is still under the impression that he's still the ma bhakt. All these are probably the reasons for the delay.

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Aishwarya

@Aishu13

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Posted: 8 years ago

Hi, I really liked your post. And yes, in a true world everything that you've said are valid. I am a firm believer in a woman's body being decided by herself, and if an abortion was something that was wanted, she should have the rights to do so. But Sona, I don't think hid the fact that Soha is his daughter due to Dev's inability of being a good father, rather a she hid it as a lifeline. If Sonakshi, justified her actions with Dev's actions, I would have been delighted! As she was the one present during every stage. But her justification, stunned me speechless. Don't get me wrong, if she had said that Dev is someone who should be steered cleared from because of his attitude, then hats off. But she said that Soha did not want to meet her dad, and its not necessary. I know, her fears are natural for any mother, but I really don't wish they don't justify Ishwari. But regardless, any deep-rooted fear has a small bloom at a certain point, I think Sona realizing her fear might cause Soha to be another Dev in some aspects will provide a redemption and understanding for Ishwari. I know Sona is not manipulative or venomous or even ignorant of her daughter's attitude, and this will cause her to realize the trauma that Dev went through. To be honest, for me Dev and Sona don't even have to come back together, I just want both to realize their mistakes and the way the other felt.

I am sorry if I hurt you in anyway! I really did like your post, I just added what I feel as well. Please don't bash me.

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Aishu13
Hi, I really liked your post. And yes, in a true world everything that you've said are valid. I am a firm believer in a woman's body being decided by herself, and if an abortion was something that was wanted, she should have the rights to do so. But Sona, I don't think hid the fact that Soha is his daughter due to Dev's inability of being a good father, rather a she hid it as a lifeline. If Sonakshi, justified her actions with Dev's actions, I would have been delighted! As she was the one present during every stage. But her justification, stunned me speechless. Don't get me wrong, if she had said that Dev is someone who should be steered cleared from because of his attitude, then hats off. But she said that Soha did not want to meet her dad, and its not necessary. I know, her fears are natural for any mother, but I really don't wish they don't justify Ishwari. But regardless, any deep-rooted fear has a small bloom at a certain point, I think Sona realizing her fear might cause Soha to be another Dev in some aspects will provide a redemption and understanding for Ishwari. I know Sona is not manipulative or venomous or even ignorant of her daughter's attitude, and this will cause her to realize the trauma that Dev went through. To be honest, for me Dev and Sona don't even have to come back together, I just want both to realize their mistakes and the way the other felt.
I am sorry if I hurt you in anyway! I really did like your post, I just added what I feel as well. Please don't bash me.

Yes I agree. 😕 Her explanation left me speechless too. Like I don't believe a 6-yr-old kid can decide what's good and what's not good for her.

Even I expected Sona to state some valid reasons. Her anger, her fear due to Dev's nature could have been better explanations on why she is still not sharing it with Dev, but hiding her true reasons behind an excuse of a kid's words is not wise.

@ Bold - OMG why would you hurt me ? You've respectfully placed your opinion which opens the door for further discussions and exchange of thoughts 😃 Why would I bash OMG 😕 Did my post give you a 'strict principal' type vibes. 😆 Sorry for that if it did 😳😊

Edited by Pehchaan.Kaun - 8 years ago

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Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: preethik
I agree that sona had solid reasons to not share sohas existence before.

Now that she decided to come to Delhi, work in the same office she should tell him about soha. She is financially well set has a good support system so no excuses.

But apart from her natural insecurities as a mother (nowhere near ish) she probably doesn't want to expose soha to this dev who (from what she has seen) is a womanizer, a rude guy & a drunk. Also she is still under the impression that he's still the ma bhakt. All these are probably the reasons for the delay.

I hope when being charged by Dev and the Dixits about Soha, Sona comes up with proper and valid reasons instead of these lameass replies that 'Soha didn't want to'. 🥱

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Aishwarya

@Aishu13

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Posted: 8 years ago

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun

Yes I agree. 😕 Her explanation left me speechless too. Like I don't believe a 6-yr-old kid can decide what's good and what's not good for her.

Even I expected Sona to state some valid reasons. Her anger, her fear due to Dev's nature could have been better explanations on why she is still not sharing it with Dev, but hiding her true reasons behind an excuse of a kid's words is not wise.

@ Bold - OMG why would you hurt me ? You've respectfully placed your opinion which opens the door for further discussions and exchange of thoughts 😃 Why would I bash OMG 😕 Did my post give you a 'strict principal' type vibes. 😆 Sorry for that if it did 😳😊

No di, it's not you. If anyone were to read my post, I just wanted to let them know that I don't mean to hurt their way of thinking. I actually really liked your post, your post seemed like a logical analysis, please don't think that. I am a feminist but I act (in many ways) like a Dev Dixit, so I really can't support either!

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randomramblings

@randomramblings

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Posted: 8 years ago

hi Pk,

i agree with you . sona using soha's reluctance to call her dad cannot be an excuse or a valid reason for her to hide soha from dev.

dev dixit may be powerful and a maa bhakt, but a pre nup is a very powerful legal document. let's not make a mockery of it . sona being educated and having a fair share of friends, there is no way she would have been jobless for long and would have scummed to hunger or forced to return back the child to him due to financial status. she has ample means to provide for basic necessities of her kid.

her fearing dev dixit itself is meaningless. if she feared he could go to any extent, then in the first place she would have stuck with him under all circumstances. once she stepped out and a divorce happened, there will be no bond between the spouses unless they "LEGALLY REMARRY". unfortunately everyone is getting carried away like Ishwari and not looking into how the law works.

well knowingly or unknowingly, Ishwari has with her own hands ruined her son's life . dev knowing about soha but unable to do anything about it , rotting because of the revelation would have been an ideal death blow to the Ishwari.

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Samra

@chucklebuddy

Rocker

Posted: 8 years ago

True. Ideal world vs. Reality. :)

Every father deserves to know about his kid. If the parents are facing a separation, it should not affect the kid in any way. Somehow, the infertility track contributed a majority to the separation track.

For me, one solid reason is Dev telling "Ek aur duty tumne poori nahi ki.. tum maa nahi ban sakti.. achi baat hai.. varna tum kabhi achi maa nahi ban sakti" This can be the sole reason for not keeping Dev updated about his daughter. Stranded on the roads with no emotional or financial assistance is dreadful. If at all Dev gets to know of the identity of Soha, he should empathize with Sona for rising up from the ashes and bringing their daughter up with the right morals and principles. :)

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Push-pull

@Push-pull

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

"When I truly believe Sona's stated reason in yesterday's episode was an amazingly bullshit reason, since a 6-yr old child cannot decide anything for herself, I also believe Sona has at least 10-20 VALID reasons to NOT share the news with Dev till now. "

Sona quoting fear as her reason - Though I would like to see her really reasoning her fears and be prepared for it, I'm ok as she at least will think through it to start with. Slowly she can give deep thoughts and come up with options for her own to handle the situation if it arises. She blindfolding herself and postponing the inevitable is proving her to be low in confidence level thus needing someone to support her all the time... She need not be right and perfect all the time but can't she be daring enough to be strong in her own POV? I know the CVs are still playing safe with her thought process and do not want to juggle much with her characterization for want of not losing the sympathy on her by the TRP audience 😆

I would have loved Sona to have raged when Jatin asked about sharing the news with Dev... If only she could have just asked "Why should I share the news with him? Does he really bother about me having a baby or me getting lost from the world... Does he really care?"😉

I too was disappointed with Sona quoting that she did ask Soha and she said no... This was something a weak script and lazy dialogue that this CV normally do for Sonakshi... I'm ok she being a mother who wants to make her daughter an important part of her own decisions.. But she also should understand that her daughter is still growing up where her decisions are not steadfast and they are bound to be volatile... The CVs are also not showing much bonding between the mom-daughter because that means the girl can open up her at any time thus the CVs will lose on the drama quotient of keeping the thrilling moment on for long... 😆 They will make us bored to death with the suspense of whether Dev gets to know now, now, now... Then bomb blast.. Only that by then it will be all water balloon😆

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Posted: 8 years ago

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PK, I would have liked Sona to voice out the more glaringly obvious reasons like say- "I did come with the thought to introduce Soha to Dev at sometime. However after seeing him as an alcoholic, mean-spirited, ill-behaved, I decided to postpone this meeting. "

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