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sona_naksh

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Posted: 8 years ago

#391

@jazw ...i think u r talking abt sona's reaction after slap happened ...i feel dev cud understand sona's need to b wid her father dat tym n he cud relate to it ...but wat he cud not understand was her way of shutting him down ...and it was not a single day ...few days passed and still she cud not get to talk to him once

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Samanalyse

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Posted: 8 years ago

#392

I am loving the Sonakshi-centric discussion this weekend! 👍🏼

For me, her biggest struggle was always opening up about her feelings and difficulties. Did the Dixit parivar make it even harder? Yes, they did, but Sona's basic nature had a lot to do with it. The reason I say this is because she wasn't only hesitant to share her feelings with Dev and the Dixits; she was equally reticent with her family who were nothing but supportive. We saw this right from the beginning, when she lost her job because of Dev. She didn't tell her family until they coaxed it out of her, and there were so many similar incidents.

Even during the fiasco that was Dev's birthday, when Asha called, she tried to cover up what had happened before she finally broke and revealed how hurt she was. My point is, when it was often so difficult for her own family to get through to her, it's a bit farfetched to think that the Dixits could somehow go out of the way and provide a nurturing enough environment for her to open up. Dev was willing to do it, and he was learning slowly, but he needed more time to get this side of Sona.

If you isolate the fact that Sona didn't tell Dev about the business, there is an argument to be made that she did the right thing. You deal with your family, I'll deal with mine, and we'll enjoy our time together is a perfectly valid set-up for a marriage. BUT where that unravels for me is the fact that she expected full disclosure from Dev and the Dixits. She wanted to be a decision-making member of the Dixit family without extending the same courtesy to Dev as a Bose. And I think this is where Sona's need to have control is most apparent. She didn't want to be more dependent on Dev than he was on her.

The main reason I think Sona should have opened up is because she is the one who had genuine concerns with the way their relationship was evolving. Dev was pretty happy with the status quo, just having Sona in his life and spending those precious, private moments with her, but she wanted more. Until she communicated that to him directly, it would have been impossible for him to give her what she really wanted. When she asked for the jhoola and for him to organise his own cupboard, what she was really trying to say was that she wanted their room to be a private haven for just the two of them, one space where Ishwari couldn't intrude. Dev didn't get this core point and to him it seemed like he was jumping through a lot of arbitrary hoops for a reason he didn't totally understand (the fact that he did a horrible job jumping through the hoops is a different discussion).

There was a huge breakthrough in Shimla when Sona finally put her feelings front and centre, and that could have really been a turning point if the CVs had not decided on this leap. But that is also why when time comes for her to answer to why she hid Soha from Dev, I want Sona to own without hesitation that it was for herself. She made a choice with the information she had at the time. Dev knows her well enough to see through her moral speeches. What is really going to hit him and make him understand is an honest, raw confession that even though she knew hiding Soha was wrong by absolute moral standards, she did it because that is how badly he had hurt her. That is how alienated she felt from him and that is how much she feared he wouldn't see her side of the story.

Edited by Samanalyse - 8 years ago

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Samanalyse

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Posted: 8 years ago

#393

Originally posted by: Danseuse

But I couldn't help wonder what happens when Saurabh's wife walks in! Would the stakes change? Would Bijoy-Asha be so focussed on making the new girl comfortable that they forget about Sonakshi and Suhana! Nothing intentional but that's life. Priorities change, isn't it? Besides, Sonakshi could always take care of herself and Suhana!!! Would Sonakshi feel any change within her own family setup? Would she start feeling like an alien in her own home! Just a thought. Because that's reality. 😃 It happens sometimes that a person goes all out to sacrifice for the family and then find themselves stranded! That's where you start reflecting what could have happened if things were different. Or if the SIL is smart and starts questioning the business stakes and profit sharing?

Just my two cents. If it's worth debating, well...

-Rekha

This is such an interesting perspective, Rekha, especially with regards to Ronita's entry into the Bose family. Except for the introduction of Soha, the Bose family has remained largely the same for the past seven years and their roles have been well-established. This show has always been about what happens when those long-standing networks are challenged by a significant change. Like you said, things will change naturally when this new member enters the household. For the first time, Saurabh might be the center of attention instead of Sona and Sona might well encounter new feelings of isolation if this is the case.

Most interestingly, Sona will find herself in a very similar position to Neha, when the latter left Ranveer's home and came back to her maika. This idea opened up all kinds of new possibilities for Ronita's character in my mind. How will Sona and the Boses (especially Bijoy) feel if Ronita tries to takes it upon herself to "fix" Sona's life? There is clearly a pecking order in the Bose household, though it is not very explicit, and Saurabh has always been happy to be a supporter and a follower rather than a leader. It's interesting to think about the possibility of him marrying someone who isn't totally happy with that. There is still more to see, of course, and this is all khayali pulao at the moment but there is lots of pontential for the spotlight to be on the Boses this time!

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jasw

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Posted: 8 years ago

#394

Wonderful analysis Sam. Yes, that's Sona's basic nature and we can't change the basic characteristic traits. Can we? So when we are understanding why Dev can't change much, why this unrealistic expectation from Sona?

Absolutely agree with your jhoola and wardrobe comment. She wanted to lessen Dev's dependency on his mother and also mother can't barge in to set his clothes at any random times. 😊

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jasw

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Posted: 8 years ago

#395

Originally posted by: Danseuse

I didn't understand the interpretation here. Sonakshi was always aware of Dev's unwavering devotion to his mother. Reminded me of the movie Beta starring Anil Kapoor. So did she expect Dev to change overnight? Yes, his family showed their colours even during the wedding, so they could never withstand her 24/7. But, Sonakshi withstood Dev and Dev not able to withstand Sonakshi? Didn't get that. He tried his best, I would say, esp. with the 'jhoola' episode though he kept getting hurt all the time. It was Ishwari and Co. who turned out to be the villains in paradise, isn't it! 😊 Or are you implying that Dev never stood for Sonakshi? That's true because he was caught between the devil and the deep sea!! Compare Dev's devotion to Ishwari and Jotin's interpretation! Novel, isn't it? I guess it's how one perceives a particular situation. That's why I am keen that Saurabh's wife needs to walk in and start adding new dimensions to certain situations.

That would be a Creative triumph.

-Rekha

This was in context to the discussion which happened few pages before ... Page 46 where it was mentioned that Sona became Bijoy Bose's daughter after the slap incident

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jasw

@jasw

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Posted: 8 years ago

#396

Originally posted by: deepsel

On a lighter note, don't worry he is son of Ishwari after all...any scratch of hurt for his blood ( Suhana) and his blood bearer (Sona) will make him insane seething "meri beti ki khushi keliye mein kuch bhi karoonga jaahe tho meri maa se dooriyan bhi"?😆 ... Ishwari might get the taste of her own medicine 😆

Oh I am eagerly waiting for that day, deepsel! 😳

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Lavanya

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Posted: 8 years ago

#397

Hello folks..keep the discussions going long and hard.Anyways here's an update.There was a flashback shown in a media segment today which showed Sona standing outside Ishwari Niwas with baby Soha...so Sona did make an attempt to reach out to Dev in order to inform about Soha, but she backed off.This makes it furthur complicated.What will make Sona return to Dev now ? It is obvious she would have no guilt of hiding Soha from Dev..so it has to be a major reason.I know it is a bit premature to discuss this but anyone interested could comment.

Cheers !! Have a great Sunday people.

-Lavanya

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Samanalyse

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Posted: 8 years ago

#398

@jasw: I think you misunderstand. When we point out Sona's flaws, it doesn't come with inherent censure or expectation. We are simply saying, if Sona had been a little more aware of her flaws and worked on them consciously, it would have really helped their marriage, and the same absolutely applies to Dev. If he had recognised his tendency to to make snap decisions in an effort to keep everyone happy and tried to be more conscious about sticking to his word, it would have done their marriage a world of good.

Left to themlseves, they complemented each other beautifully and brought out what was lacking in the other, but as DQ pointed out, their respective families pulled them apart and highlighted how they were wrong for each other instead of what was right. Now that the break-up has happened, we are merely trying analyse all the factors that went into it, from both sides. Just like we tried to understand where Dev was held back from giving his 100% to this relationship, we are trying to understand what restricted Sona. The past few pages happen to have focused on Sona's struggles, but calling out Sona's contribution to the break up does not absolve Dev or vice versa. It's not a zero-sum game, where one being wrong makes the other right. I hope you can see that that is the common feature in all our discussions here. 😊

Glad you enjoyed my post!

Edited by Samanalyse - 8 years ago

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jasw

@jasw

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Posted: 8 years ago

#399

Originally posted by: thedramaqueen
@jazw
Any marriage is like a Venn diagram. With the two circles being the partners and the 3rd circle being the rest of the world.

Dev and sona didnt have a great overlap between their own circles when they got married. However, what they discovered during their courtship is that when their circles do overlap the happiness they get was worth fighting for. If given time they would have worked out a great overlapping zone of happiness

Ishwari was a dominant part of the 3rd circle and her happiness had a miniscule overlap with Devakshi's happiness. That made things harder given that Bijoy also started pulling that circle farther from Devakshi's happiness

Dev and sonakshi didn't need anyone to defend them against the Dixits and Boses. Sonakshi used to ask Dev to stay out of matters in fact. Dev can only wear one hat at a time and expected the same from his wife. "Be mine and Eff the whole world"

It wasn't a sonakshi vs the Dixits and Dev vs The Boses war.
Hope this made sense

Interesting idea but I am confused. Are you referring to 3 circle Venn diagram or 2 circle Venn diagram with intersection being IShwari and Bijoy.

If you are referring to latter then ideally the intersection should represent children of circle D(Dev) and circle S(Sona).

If you are referring to 3 circle then it would be better if we talk about 4 circle Venn Diagram, where circle D(Dev) is completely a subset of circle I(Ishwari) and there is some intersection between circle S)Sona and circle B(Bijoy)

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jasw

@jasw

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Posted: 8 years ago

#400

Originally posted by: sona_naksh
@jazw ...i think u r talking abt sona's reaction after slap happened ...i feel dev cud understand sona's need to b wid her father dat tym n he cud relate to it ...but wat he cud not understand was her way of shutting him down ...and it was not a single day ...few days passed and still she cud not get to talk to him once

Yes, you are right 😊 She was actually in Bijoy's daughter mode for more than one day