*Season 2, Week 4* Analysis Thread - Page 38

There is the basic difference between the how two families think.

If I consider the Dixit family they have a very difficult past. There funda to live the life is survival. In there past mostly Dev and Ishwari has to fight for there survival and they required to fulfill there day to day needs so there thinking is solve the current problem. That's why dev's every solution is a quick fix(in s1) this is because of the life he has in his past. For his pride the secondary part. Because in the past he and his family's survival they cannot afford to have a pride.

On the other hand we have a very much educated middle class family Bose. Who never required to fought for their survival as they are the middle class family they have no problem to solve there day to day need so for them pride the very much important.

Now this is the environment in which both dev and sona have there childhood and young age . Now the impact of dev on his past. he has seen the lot of problems which are related to money and survival . He has seen his mother to sacrifice her pride for her and her children survival. He must have seen how his mother get treated in the society and even with in his relatives(especially mami) and how his mother used to keep quite and expect from dev in the very young age that he is now going to responsibly to become rich and give the status and respect to his mother and for Ishu's point of view it is achieved by money and the power which comes with the money.So his whole aim for his childhood and young age is to become the rich and powerful which he achieved with this hard work and the sacrificing his own identity as dev. The another important aspect which is related to the god image and preferences to the Ishu's wish is having an another angle. That is Ishu and Neha's relation. Because from the childhood neha was not at all connected to his mother and she was the only person who was able to give the feel to the Ishu that she is not a good mother and dev who was giving the opposite feel that she is the great mother which gives the Ishu happiness and for small dev and young dev to give this happiness to mother more important . But some were deep down he knows that neha was correct. That's why he never able to force naha to change her behavior his mother I think this was the start of god image which Ishu was enjoying in the s1 and at the end of s1 it was broken and dev was forced to see the human face of his mother and Dev 2.0 is now able to see all the layers.

Now coming to Bose family impact on sona. firstly as Neha was having the complains about Ishu in the same way Bijoy was not much connected to dada. he was more associated to sona as she was and his princess and she was the only one who always fulfill the bijoy's expectation in return she hear that she is the pride of his father. and how his big brother is not able to fulfill his father's expectation and his bitter words related to dada. but dada got the support of asha and dadi so his need for love get fulfilled so he was not bitter as neha. But If you consistently say to your child that she is his pride,she is strong and her decision are always right it creates the additional burden on sona. which she was handling successfully. Here dev and soan always carries the burden on consciously and one is subconsciously. both parents want that there favorite child should not fail and should be become strong. and both dev and sona idealize there favorite parent. Some where at the start of s1. Dev was has the emotional imbalance and at the end of s1 some how because of his mother's and families betrayal he started to get this balance so now he see them as they are. and at the end of s1 sona has lost this balance and idealized the Bijoy and his expectation .

here if you are me both the parenting techniques are wrong. Ishu is wrong because he used his son to find the solution to her problem and to fulfill her need to get the importance in his life and to get the undivided attention. And at the same time bijoy is also wrong when he indirectly put the burden the sona to be perfect and allow her to take the imp decision related to financial matters in which she was not supposed to come in to the picture without thinking about the impact on future and when that decision which she take by her own get failed and actully the path by which there was a possibly go choose the path where dev was there get lost.

she get convinced subconsciously that her decisions are wrong and she choose the path which was shown by bijoy. and at that point she lost herself. So at the end of s1 dev some were found himself and soan lost herself.