Today's episode was very interesting and very revealing too. In season 1 Dev's character was completely explored, but not much of Sonakshi's. In this season Sonakshi's pysche is being explored.
There has been number of discussions on how Dev was wrong and also how toxic Dev -- Ishwari's relation really was. But after today it is very clear that Bijoy -- Sonkshi's relation was toxic too even before Dev came into the picture. The only difference is that the toxicity of Dev -- Ishwari's relation was glaringly obvious, while it was not so with Sonakshi -- Bijoy. Today if I have to compare who was the worst parent, I would say Bijoy(not intended to hurt anyone, just my POV), because what Ishwari did was in ignorance, in fear and she was illiterate and came from the old traditional ways. But Bijoy was educated, came from a liberal family, yet he created this poisonous relationship with Sonakshi by being too proud and egoistic.
If Ishwari failed to accept Sonakshi in Dev's life, both Bijoy and Sonakshi failed to accept Dev in their life. In season 1, Dev told Sona that she is his best friend. He shared his thoughts with her, asked her advice, even regarding personal matters, trusted her even before he realized that he loved her. But Sonakshi did not do any of these. She failed to share her thoughts, did not really ask his advice on anything, and although said that she trusted him, she never really trusted him.
Sonakshi failed to make Dev "her best friend" and "confidant" as Dev had made her his. A relationship, especially of husband and wife can thrive only when both of them share each other, not just physically, but emotionally too. Here is where Sonakshi failed big time. She failed to let Dev in. Dev was never privy to Sona's thoughts, her real feelings.
If Ishwari wanted Dev to be dependent on her, Bijoy wanted her to be so independent, that he gave the feeling that Sonakshi was perfect by herself. That she did not need anybody. Sonakshi feared any weaknesses to the extent that whatever she did she wanted to be perfect and best. Humans are not robots, no one is perfect. Bijoy never supported Sonakshi when she needed him the most. He did not tell her it was ok to be imperfect. He just assumed that by constantly telling Sonakshi she was strong and she could do anything and everything, he set her up in such a way that she never learned to handle failure nor weaknesses. She never realized her mistakes in anything cause she was constantly told that she did not make mistakes.
Jatin is not brought to the show for Sonakshi or Dev to realize their feelings of "love" for one another. He is brought in show for Sonakshi to realize her flaws which caused her relationshiip with Dev to fail.
I wrote this in another post.
The love story started with Dev and Sonakshi becoming friends, but this friendship was one sided. Dev considered Sonakshi his best friend, but Sona did not think so. She was very happy to share his secrets and give him advice, but never revealed herself in all this.
Even during the marriage phase Dev was open about his feelings and everything to her, but she failed in letting him in. She failed to make him "her best friend". Today she commented how Jatin thought her idea was good, supported her and even invested in her company. But wasn't Dev think the same. Sonakshi failed here to include Dev and talk to him about it, openly. If only she had discussed about all this openly, the slap of Bijoy would never have happened. Everything would have been out in the open and none of the things would have happened, that happened.
Dev is going to question it later to Sona and she won't have an answer. Not just for this question, but everything. Her not making Dev as her friend was her mistake and Dev is going to question that. Dev realizes his mistakes and is ready to accept them, but is Sonakshi even realizing how wrong she was and how the separation was also because of her? Right now, I don't think so.
Only when she realizes her mistakes too, then the story can progress...Just my thoughts. Not intended to hurt anyone...😊
Shaavi excellent analysis as usual! I agree about the relationship between dev & sona. Dev always considered sona as his friend & lover. Sona considered dev only as a lover never a friend unfortunately!
I was surprised by her ease with jatin one she never showed with dev even after marriage! Of course I don't see anything romantic in their interactions. She even discussing her insecurities with him. She used to do that only with Elena before i.e. during the time she fell in love with dev. She never showed this side to dev unfortunately.
I have to disagree about bijoy here. Yes like ish he places a lot burden in a subtler manner on sona but unlike ish he never played her or dev. He was unhappy &I still is because dev broke his daughters heart at the behest of ish. As a father he is overprotective but not obsessed like ish. Where ish does not want anybody else to be as or more important in devs life in bijoy case his daughters happiness was supreme. Yes he interfered sometimes in their life but it a reaction to the way his daughter was being treated by the dixits.
Unfortunately this distaste is preventing him from doing the right thing - soha meeting her dad. Now sona has to take a call without getting influenced by bijoy. Probably in these scenarios a person like jatin will help he in the decision making as he has no personal baggage.
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