Fine. You want a writer's view. You will get one. A father's love is a wonderful thing for any child. It envelops the child in a warmth of security. A father is a daughter's first love. A son's first hero. But he doesn't get those titles by default. He has to earn them. And before he is a father, he is his wife's / lover's partner.
"Husbands, love your wives well. Your children are noticing how you treat her. You are teaching your sons how they should treat women. You are teaching your daughters what they should expect from men." - Dave Wills.
If you are talking JUST about Sonakshi here, considering the way Dev had been seven years ago... I am borrowing a line from my own OS here. His attempt to be a good son came at the cost of being a bad brother and a bad husband. No saying what kind of father he would have been. (Purely my POV. No intention of hurting Dev fandom). If he doesn't change / introspect, I wouldn't WANT Suhana to have Dev in her life for the simple reason that he did not treat his wife well. Would Suhana miss out on having a father? Yes. So what? She has a strong mother, loving grandparents and hopefully a doting uncle. If the question of father arises in school or at some point in her life she needs a father's name, she already has one. She is not illegitimate. In India, illegitimacy is still frowned upon, I accept that. But single parents are fairly common.
If you are talking about children and single parents in general, I would say it is the woman's choice. She has the confidence to bring up her child alone, has the strength, who are we to question? I met a woman when I had been writing about my book - Everything I do. She has a ten year old daughter. Divorcee. She had applied for divorce when she had been pregnant with that child because her husband had been having an affair on the side. He thought what was the big deal, I am hardly abandoning you. Her reasoning was simple. I don't want my child to grow up seeing their mother accepting such a situation. If it's a boy he would think it is OK to be that way and if it's a girl she would think it's OK for men to be that way. I don't want that. Her parents help her out while she works and the kid is a sweet, confident one.
Again, I am not saying one does not need a father. Just that there are always situations where it is not possible to have one and it is absolutely fine. Kids are remarkably resilient. They will adapt. Adjust.
Edited by Suvika. - 8 years ago
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