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Are you kidding me? Then the two girls Sushmita Sen adopted, was she fair? She should have killed them. All the orphans Mother Theresa saved who are now productive citizen of the country, they deserve to die. Every single mother whose partner left them pregnant without support, should have had abortion and there are many single amazing mothers in the forum.

Originally posted by: mygaby

after divorce , bringing a child in this world who will never get father's love ...was this decision of hers fair??????y to bring a life in this world when u know he or she is gonna never have a dad n lead an empty life

I would have done the same thing Sona did amd brought up my kid without a father. As a mother , as A women and as a person I feel complete enough, confident enough and educated enough to bring a life on this earth, raise my kid well and give him/her all the love he/she deserves.

Some may be forced to terminate the pregnancy due to circumstances but that's their choice and I wouldn't question it either. But if it was just because a fathers love will be missing from the childs life a woman terminated her pregnancy I would call her a coward and selfish. There can be financial or mental health issues. Not having a father or a mother in life is all bull crap... single parents are capable enough. We have been fed this crap from childhood it s time we break some barriers.

Yes it was 200 % fair.. In fact, there's no question of fair or not fair here... A child is the most beautiful gift any man or woman would want... A more debatable question is was it fair to hide from Dev..

My dear , what has divorce got to do with this? Does that mean if a child has lost of his/her parent OR if their parents have disowned them...then they don't have the right to live...

Who are parents ?? People who bring a life on to this planet ?? In that case why are people who adopt children called parents? parenting is all about bringing up kids. As long as the child has an adult to guide him or her to be better human beings...teach them the basic of life.., and provide for him or her till they are able to do for themselves.. what is the worry ??

In case of Sona she had two main reasons 1) She wanted to be a mother 2 ) Soha is a part of Dev. When they separated and when knew she was pregnant with his child , it was like a dream come true...and at the same time a part of him was growing in her...the most beautiful phase of life...according to her...True he might not be there with her to support her and their child ... but how does that stop her from wanting to have that child of his? And look at Sohan she brought up well...as she grows up she might have doubts or concerns wrt her Dad...but am sure Sona is very matured person and she will be able to handle that too..

I am sure most woman would have done what she did...she was right to continue her pregnancy ...it was like a sign from god ...which gave her hope and goal to move forward in life...

this is not dicided they are divorced even though we did not any clue about divorce they are mutualy seperated

Originally posted by: mygaby

well u brought a good point here...well first let me tell all that i m mother ...so i know what exactly i m writing...well i m happy if any woman is strong enough to bring life in this world without husband ...who knows what future holds...

well raising a child without husband may give them feeling of achievement and satisfaction in a way...but what about the child...he or she will never have father's love...

Unfortunately you got it all wrong, this is not achievement and their is no satisfaction other than just raising your kid alone. It is similar to what you would feel. How is a father's love different from a mother's love? It is just love and gender just affect the way you show it. You and I both have been taught and fed this stuff about marriages and children and traditions and culture and the list goes on... but if you really see it... its the sterotype folks who have learnt these things and pass on same things think that way and feel that the child is mossing or the single mother is struggling but the single mother and her child are happily living and growing in life. It is your fear or the status quo that is being questioned makes you ask these questions. What if she was 8 months pregnant, what if the child was already born and parents separated. I myself am thinking of adopting or having a child on my own and I see no accomplishment or achievement other than being a mother and being able to raise a good person and share love with my child. Also, I dont feel incomplete just because I do not have a kid. We have been programmed to think this way and the programmers haven't progressed. Tome to change. :)

Originally posted by: mygaby

well u brought a good point here...well first let me tell all that i m mother ...so i know what exactly i m writing...well i m happy if any woman is strong enough to bring life in this world without husband ...who knows what future holds...

well raising a child without husband may give them feeling of achievement and satisfaction in a way...but what about the child...he or she will never have father's love...

Its all about how you bring them up...there are so many families where the husband keep travelling for work related purpose...and probably meet their family once in a year or once in two years...do you think the kids will be ok ? They will also miss their dad...because he is not going to see them participate in sports/ CCA competitions etc...

What abt when mom's are professionals...again there will be issues ...you will need to sort it out and explain to ur child...trust me these days kids are more understanding than adults !!

Let us take Golu's example...he has both father and mother...but look at that kids condition ...its pathetic...on the other hand...Soha might not have a dad for now...but she is a much more happier and confident child. She knows abt the fact that her dad is there somewhere...but she has not met him...

So just having parents don't actually solve a child's emotional of Psychological needs...every guardian /parents have to work towards it...I mean to make a happy environment for the child to blossom into an adult .

Originally posted by: mygaby

well u brought a good point here...well first let me tell all that i m mother ...so i know what exactly i m writing...well i m happy if any woman is strong enough to bring life in this world without husband ...who knows what future holds...

well raising a child without husband may give them feeling of achievement and satisfaction in a way...but what about the child...he or she will never have father's love...

Originally posted by: mygaby

wohhh take it easy lady ...i m talking about continuing pregnancy...i m not talking about killing children u ready gave birth ...there is a difference ...come on think it practically not keeping Devakshi in mind ( we know this is serial and in the end they become one coz of child)...do u think in real life such things exist??????????

Originally posted by: mygaby

wohhh take it easy lady ...i m talking about continuing pregnancy...i m not talking about killing children u ready gave birth ...there is a difference ...come on think it practically not keeping Devakshi in mind ( we know this is serial and in the end they become one coz of child)...do u think in real life such things exist??????????

Dear lady, you need to lift up the veil and look out into the world. These things happen and are happening.