Posted:
Mr. Das, I believe that how cool you are is not determined by what other people thinks of you, but what at the end of the day, your loved ones think of you.
In my personal and professional life, I met men who are good looking, successful, rich and in high powered position. But the moment public is out, their real face comes out in front of their family. Their wives wishes they stayed out longer, their sons become chauvinists, their daughter thinks all men are same and lowers her standard.
And there are people who may seem very liberal and open minded and as such are not the most popular people because they don't follow popular opinion like sheeps without brains, but at the end of the day when they come home, their wife's face light up, their children run to them in joy, their son wants to live up to their image and their daughter raise her standard for life partner looking at their example.
The former is appearing as a man, the later IS a real man and very very cool.
As you have gathered from my post, I don't mimic what other people thinks. I say what I mean and I live my life the same. Like you, I have a very selective group of friends. But the friends I have are solid friends whom I also respect. Quality over quantity is what matters.
Men who feel threatened by strong women and stronger men, most probably are not confident in their own skin or scared that their wives will realise that how bad bargain they made by marrying them. Strong and confident people, men or women, don't feel threatened by anyone else's point of views.
All a person can do is to live a life where when they are gone, they leave a positive legacy and a memory of an amazing person. So Mr. Das, give yourself a pat on your back for getting your job done well. 👏
Originally posted by: pkbdas61
But you never retire from life, isn't it? It is never too early to take to writing...my life changed due to my wife, my children and some real awesome women friends and collleagues at work. I credit my current evolved state to all of them... in fact, I have fewer male friends.I am not seen as cool in the real world. On the professsional front, I am secretly hated at work for my desire to drive diversity upto 50%. I call the shots as the head. But I can see a reluctance for managers to hire women on the grounds that they are either physically weaker or are not career oriented. We are in a mixed hi-tech engineering and manufacturing segment that women do not take to easily as it calls for use of power, pneumatic and hand tools. On the personal front, I have seen some husbands, friends of mine, getting wary of me because they think I will instigate their wives to rebel!Funny that professionally and personally, I cannot make the men feel confident about my views! Maybe wrong timing on this earth!
Debate Mansion
Hindi TV Shows
