Expectations leads to Dissapointments

Originally posted by: gemini54

Last night when I started to think as to why this story was disappointing, or why the character of Dev, Sona or Easwari was disappointing to me I realized something it was because of my Expectations of how the characters would be or the show has to be.

In life often times if we Expect something and it is not so it leads to Dissapointment.

What did I expect from this story a strong Hero, a strong Heroine in Love fighting the mothers insecurities. This is what I inferred from the Promo and the first 100 episodes of the show did live up to my expectations. So my expectation arose and I wanted more and more from the show but it was not met because maybe I wanted more or the show showed less..not sure.

The point I am trying to make is I took this show too seriously , spent hours reading the analyses giving my thoughts, judging it, wanted social responsibility from it..etc. What I failed to keep in mind is that 'THIS IS JUST A SHOW'. My expectations probably will not be met and it is my choice to watch it with no expectations that is what our scriptures and most of religious books also state in Life don't set yourself for disappointment and heartache expecting a certain outcome.

So it is upto me to either walk away or watch with detachment because as I see it complaining about it leads me to just get my BP up and I am not sure it is worth for just a Fictitious show.

This post is just as a catharsis for me more than anything else

Expectation is the root of all heartache... william shakespeare

Beautifully written Sabitha 👏

You said it very well... expectations are the root cause of disappointments. it is only unfortunate that folks like you and me did not apply this experience to the show.

From personal experience, if you find yourself getting riled up because of a show its better to walk away earlier or like you said completely detach.

Yes our expectations lead to our disappointments. We have made the lives of our Lead Characters so alive in our minds, we kind of want to make it all happy and sunshiny, and hence we are in a rush.

Like for me I thought this leap would have shown how Dev and Sonakshi moved on, learning from their mistakes, to becoming stronger and better personalities. They would have had time for retrospection, and would have understood how their partners supported and stood by them in their worst situations and where they had let their loved ones down.

That even when they meet after seven years, on a warring path, they recognized and got acquainted to the new facets in them, raising their beliefs, appreciating their achievements, demeanour and confidence and fall in love once again. They realize they are meeting on new ground but their love for each other never diminished through all these years.

But here the story seems to dwell on all that happened 7 years ago, its still so fresh in their minds. They are still hurting and bitter and angry. How can you invite something better in your life, unless you make peace with the hurts, the lies, the disappointments, the anger, the scheming, etc. This means its just rotting inside and that's why its difficult to see that they can make it, a beautiful world around them.

I would love to see what happens when Dev would meet his daughter for the first time, ... I am sure time would stand still. (I would love to see his reactions, expressions, being overwhelmed, etc.) Perhaps there would be remorse on both sides for missing such an important part of their lives. But once they overcome that, they would not waste time any more, and give us more goals in life.

I love the way the leap started, keeping us in suspense all throughout. I love it when we are all guessing, what's going to happen next. I wish there are no spoilers, and hence keep us on our toes, biting our nails in expectation.

Very good post.. Well written and rightly said .. its just a show.I too was a bit involved in the show to start off with. the characters seemed more true to life..But over a period of time it all slipped and we were left with a badly overcooked biriyani ..

However,I still like the show. I try to separate the real from the over the top.There are still situations which r somewhat close to reality.Cut out the fringes of fantasy and remove the shells of stupidity and a ray of reality peeks out.. I watch it for those rays. And I am still able to relate scenes , incidents and behavioural patterns from the show to real incidebts, though they r few and far between.

But it is enough to keep me going. I am not a regular soap watcher at all coz my tolerance for the regular crap dished out in the name of serials is extremely low.And the fact tht i still watch this show means it has something going in it for me even today.:)