Jan 13 KRPKAB episode analysis - well written

First Previous

Page

Next Last

Frequent Posters

Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#21

@ Kaustuv - Totally agree with you. 😃

Originally posted by: asha2012

HI

I know you are not a big fan of Dev but I wanted to just point out that when a marriage fails like in the case of Dev and Sona both were in some ways responsible. The biggest and gravest error of judgment that they made was that they never analysed the reasons for the breakup the first time around. If they had introspected, they probably wouldnt have allowed Ishwari (and GKB etc) to come between them.

Sona and Dev were both aware that Ishwari didnt accept Sona with an open heart. Sona shouldnt have tried so hard and so much to please Ishwari. She herself gave so much importance to Ishwari. Dev should have stood up vocally for his wife but he didnt. Sona, was never vocal about her equation with Ishwari.

The divorce/separation was very much required for both Dev and Sona to evaluate their importance in each others lives - whether they really need each other as much as earlier.

I know what you mean, and I do believe that it was Sona's fault in - 1. to give so much of importance to a third person, 2. for not stopping Dev to give Ishu so much of importance in their lives.

But that is not the downfall of their marriage. There became too many amounts of lies, insults, physical abuse and disrespect towards elders from Dev's side for 1 girl to constantly put up with that. So when I judge the couple and the reason for their breakup, first I would go judge the criminals, then I will judge the victim for not being extra-careful about it.

And like you said, 100% agree Sona shouldn't have got married to Dev without resolving their primary reason of their previous breakup, but guess what, Sona became this love-sick puppy who invited her own destruction in the process. 🥱

Quote

_Payalj_

@_Payalj_

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#22

Loved your post however would like to digress on a few points. Sona didn't trust Dev but that trust was himself stripped by Dev piece by piece over a period of time. When someone lies to you constantly and never takes a stand for you, after a point it becomes tough to trust. Further Dev had himself proved on several occasions how vicious he could be when he wanted to - ranveer, Ritwik etc.

Yes he loves Sona like mad and can't dream of hurting her but then again the trust issue came into play. Dev is a victim of his upbringing and that ultimately cost him everything. I hope they show him analysing this factor in the seven year leap.

Regarding deliberately hurting Sona, again I don't agree. I found Saumiee's explanation in one post more convincing . When he pleaded with her and still she didn't listen, Dev in that second convinced himself that all his mother and mami had been saying was correct. Natural reaction when we are angry. We want to hurt as we are hurt.

Hopefully Dev is shown realising where he went wrong and how his so called family used him.

Quote

Looks like you are new here. Register for free, learn and contribute.

thedramaqueen

@thedramaqueen

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#23

If, slapgate had happened a few days after Shimla, thing should be very different. Why? Because finally, they had both started opening up to each other. Given a few more days they would have potentially shared more of their inner fears and vulnerabilities. Alas! That was not to be

After slapgate, dev waited for direction from Sona. Why? He called her and clearly asked what are they going to do now. You know, they were both (Dev knowingly and sona unknowinly) waiting for the other. Dev was waiting for her to tell him when to go to the Boses and sona in her heart was hoping he will come and apologise. We need to recall how they both were after their fight over vicky. They were both waiting for the other.

The sad bit for their marriage is that by then sona was drifting away already. I'll post a link and that blog (jiya also posted it) talks about it quite well.

As for Friday night, I don't think we will ever know why Dev said those things. It is left to us to interpret how we view this. I have a view but there is no point expressing it. We are all watching the show with our own perception and the makers leave things to interpretation

Link: http://krpkab.blogspot.co.uk/2017/01/week-46-at-crossroads.html?m=1

Quote

ifuser

@ifuser

Explorer

Posted: 8 years ago

#24

Originally posted by: CXYZ
Thanks so much for posting this. I am the author of this article 😊

I am normally not active on I-F so didn't think of posting it here. If any of you are interested, I can post my epi analysis articles here too, do let me know.

P.S: Differing perspectives and PoVs are a fact of life and I respect and accept that. For all those who don't agree with the article ... Fair enough, I respect your PoV! Let's Just Agree to Disagree. 😊

https://suchi-rambles.tumblr.com

PLEASE do post your analysis here in IF on a daily basis if u have time...Seems like you are one of those experienced writers to me...whenever I get time I read articles here and some makes sense to me and some of the writers doesn't make sense to me, the reason being that they seem to be very biased toward gender or community and i feel that they are NOT seeing the bigger picture.

Quote

Jiyaaa.....

@Jiyaaa.....

Rocker

+ 2

Posted: 8 years ago

#25

I know we have discussed a lot on how Dev was responsible for the marriage failure. I want add my two cents on Sona.

What I have understood about Sona's character - she is exactly like Dev, that she also gave first importance to her own parents. Dev/Sona were never worried about themselves, if someone were to hurt them. That is why Sona was okay with Mami's taunt and Dev with Bijjoy's taunts. It never affected them. But when it came to their parent's family, they were more cocerned - saying "My family", "My baba" , "My maa".

We saw similar kind of situation before their first break up too. Dev and Sona had a fight over their parents when Bijoy visited their house. Sona was complaining that Ishwari insulted her dad and Dev defended his mom that she would never do that.

Have we seen any episodes after their marriage, were Sona was complaining to Dev about Ishwari or Mami or anyone. She was upset with Ishwari for not considering her as part of the family. She always behaved well infront of Dev that she always loved Ishwari as her own mom and never had an issue with her. Dev knew it all along that Ishwari always considered Sona as an outsider. That is why he was happy to see their bonding after Sona's fake pregnancy.

Sona actually started complaining to Dev about his short term solution and keeping both mom and wife happy when they were in Shimla.

When slapgate drama happened, Dev constantly reminded her about their promise about working together and asked her for direction what do next. This is when Sona started saying "My family" and "My baba" and "your maa" again.

I agree Dev lied before. He hid her medical condition, her pregnancy results. But for whom? There were no selfish motives there. He did for Sona.

Dev taking help from his mom and hiding it from Sona, I don't consider that as a big lie. Sona also hid her business venture with Dev. Did he ever complained why she lied to him?

I remember Sona once told Ishwari that she knows Dev better than anyone in their family. Sona knew how Vicky was. She also knew how mami is. She had seen her stealing money from Ishwar's room before their marriage. Problem here is she trusted a cheater Vicky over Dev. Why? Because she was angry with whatever happening in her life. That could be her family's pride, her infertility issue...

We don't know the real reason behind the hurtful words Dev used; whether it was intentional or said in anger. If I think logically or go by Dev's character, he will never say those words to her even in anger.

Dev and Sona had a fight before too. Even in Shimla, they were fighting and saying to each other why did they marry each other. All couples fight and move on. When we fight we say rude words..sometimes use words that hurts your partner though we don't really mean. But do you break your relation just because of that. I don't think so...

I will add the final words from Suchi's analysis - Sona loved Dev but lacked the trust & commitment needed to keep the relationship alive. She was not open to discuss things more rationally. Just followed her's parent's pride but failed to respect her own husband's feelings. She was daughter first, just like Dev.

Quote

JShukla

@JShukla

Inactive

Posted: 8 years ago

#26

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun
The article doesn't even make sense.

It says Sona didn't trust Dev and believed someone else, when ? When Ranveer's bhabhi informed Dixits what Dev did to them, Sona disbelieved them and said Dev cannot do it. Dev proved her wrong. When Dev told her he folded the hanky and arranged his cupboard, Sona believed him and he proved her wrong. When Dev told Sona that she is pregnant, Sona believed him and he proved her wrong. Dev broke up with Sona in a second, Sona believed in the SAME Dev again and married him. but he proved her wrong. Every single time Dev lied/cheated on her belief. Blame Sona for finally opening her eyes and read through his mind. It's a typical story of the boy crying wolf, has nothing to do with how Sona interpreted it.

Every single point on why Sona was also 'equally' responsible for this break-up is nothing but a pile of bullshit.🤢Dev and ONLY Dev was the reason for breakup, not even Ishwari. Yes, I do hold Sona responsible though for letting Ishwari interfere SO much on their space and not standing up for her honour and self-respect MUCH earlier to this.

With a pathetic loser like Dev, divorce was bound to happen.🥱

@pehchaan Kaun- (love your id btw 😆 )
how can they both be same

It was Sona who was insulted more by Dev's family(since people are talking of scores )
It was Sona who even after all these insults did not once raise her voice or be rude with Ishwari, RR, Neha... Dev might have heard a few bad words from Bijoy and was twice extremely rude to him.
Dev hid Sona's infertility and lied about pregnanacy. lot of other lies too, including giving money to Sourabh dada.
Dev did not empathise and be sufficiently supportive of Sona. Sona who is being told off as a daughter actually tried being a very good bahu and kept Dixit family interests first always, until off course Dev committed the crime of slapping her father.
It was Sona's family who was insulted at Dixits and she was being as sane and well behaved as any person could be...
Dev should have actually handled his first meet with Sona better, considering he knows how much of wrong he and his family has committed. And oh , just one statement over phone' ab aage kya karna hai?' to Sona does not wash away his crimes. He would off course want too team up with Sona to divide the hard work of pacifying Bose family. Question is when did he ever team up with Sona when she was trying to win over his self absorbed selfish family? In fact he never tried to help her in that , but offcourse was always there to validate in the bedroom, how lucky he is to have such an understanding(read:doormat) wife.

If not for her, Ria would have been married to a fraud involved in incestuous relation , who btw was definitely after Dixit money 😆 But off course, if she wants to help her family, stand by her dad after her husband slapped her, she will be called as having equal share I break up.

Believing Vicky- well Dev confirmed himself that he signed those docs by mistake. He also had his signatures on the prenup that was created before marriage, couple this with all the times he deliberately insulted her, let her be insulted, all the leing, etc and we have a reason in hand.

but off course, Sona should not have walked out when he asked her to get out. She should have forgiven him easily for slapping her father. Even after Dev confirmed that he signed the papers to oust Boses from their house, she should not believe him. even after seeing Dev's sign on the papers she should deny believing it and think the best about him.

Off course her throwing mangalsutra is a crime and she should not have done that after hearing Dev calling her stupid, gold-digger, infertile, incapable of being a good mom, etc... etc...

Sona is a daughter too, but she realized and attended to her daughter's duties too late...

Quote

Pehchaan.Kaun

@Pehchaan.Kaun

Sparkler

Posted: 8 years ago

#27

Nothing surprises me more than the posts equating Sona to Dev. Everytime Sona found Ishwari being unhappy with her with apparently NO fault of hers, she tried to work to resolve it, spent time with her, kept pestering her and put her effort to be in her good books. Dev knew why Bijoy doesn't like him, because he has hurt Bijoy's daughter, Dev knew he was guilty, still I couldn't see Dev spending time and putting even 10% of Sona's effort into convincing Bijoy.

I dont even feel like putting the points anymore, it's shocking how Sona's considering her father's slap as big deal is questioned, but Dev's 24x7 'Maa-jaap' is not at all put under the scanner. A wrong obsessed and psychiatric sentiment which Dev shares with his mother is being compared to a RIGHT reaction of a daughter upon seeing her father's insult. Nothing I can say about it.

In real life, no girl, absolutely NO girl would put up with a nonsense spineless coward jackass like Dev. 👎🏼

Oh now he has become casanova. Droolworthy. 😕

Quote

JShukla

@JShukla

Inactive

Posted: 8 years ago

#28

Originally posted by: Pehchaan.Kaun
Nothing surprises me more than the posts equating Sona to Dev. Everytime Sona found Ishwari being unhappy with her with apparently NO fault of hers, she tried to work to resolve it, spent time with her, kept pestering her and put her effort to be in her good books. Dev knew why Bijoy doesn't like him, because he has hurt Bijoy's daughter, Dev knew he was guilty, still I couldn't see Dev spending time and putting even 10% of Sona's effort into convincing Bijoy.

I dont even feel like putting the points anymore, it's shocking how Sona's considering her father's slap as big deal is questioned, but Dev's 24x7 'Maa-jaap' is not at all put under the scanner. A wrong obsessed and psychiatric sentiment which Dev shares with his mother is being compared to a RIGHT reaction of a daughter upon seeing her father's insult. Nothing I can say about it.

In real life, no girl, absolutely NO girl would put up with a nonsense spineless coward jackass like Dev.👎🏼

Oh now he has become casanova. Droolworthy.😕

😡 tell me about it..
and people are saying she was a daughter first.. OMG she became a daughter last... she put his family first all the time except after her family were insulted with a slap. Even while returning the money she was respectful and sane. It was them who created a ruckus. first mataji and RR, later Dev.

Oh, and BTW, it's probably just me but the Casanova shade is kinda dull... some other actors have already done this with a lot of aplomb earlier 😉 😆 😡

Quote

Aamikrish

@Aamikrish

Voyager

Posted: 8 years ago

#29

I read so many people blaming sona for not trusting him and solving their problems before the drama. But I would love to explain after their marriage, she used to tell him everything, about neha's matter. But what did dev do, he always said that it is their problem and she don't know anything about their relationship. I have watched it how helpless she felt, he always trying to say that she don't know anything about their past.

To start with he never took a stand for her. It's OK if he can't talk to his mother, but Wat about mami, I have seen so many times she insulting sona and her family in front of him, did he ever said anything to about that.

All he done was to solve problems temporarily. But wer as sona, she tried her best to fit in that family. Trying to do households, helping his sisters. She even said to him about he being mamma's boy.

At the time of their breakup, she never crossed her lines, we're as device, I don't know whether I will be able to see him the same light. Because he stoop so low by saying her not becoming a mother was good because she can't be a good mother. If I was n her place an tho I would have said to him that I will always greater mother than his.

Quote

ifuser

@ifuser

Explorer

Posted: 8 years ago

#30

Originally posted by: Jiyaaa...

I know we have discussed a lot on how Dev was responsible for the marriage failure. I want add my two cents on Sona.

What I have understood about Sona's character - she is exactly like Dev, that she also gave first importance to her own parents. Dev/Sona were never worried about themselves, if someone were to hurt them. That is why Sona was okay with Mami's taunt and Dev with Bijjoy's taunts. It never affected them. But when it came to their parent's family, they were more cocerned - saying "My family", "My baba" , "My maa".

We saw similar kind of situation before their first break up too. Dev and Sona had a fight over their parents when Bijoy visited their house. Sona was complaining that Ishwari insulted her dad and Dev defended his mom that she would never do that.

Have we seen any episodes after their marriage, were Sona was complaining to Dev about Ishwari or Mami or anyone. She was upset with Ishwari for not considering her as part of the family. She always behaved well infront of Dev that she always loved Ishwari as her own mom and never had an issue with her. Dev knew it all along that Ishwari always considered Sona as an outsider. That is why he was happy to see their bonding after Sona's fake pregnancy.

Sona actually started complaining to Dev about his short term solution and keeping both mom and wife happy when they were in Shimla.

When slapgate drama happened, Dev constantly reminded her about their promise about working together and asked her for direction what do next. This is when Sona started saying "My family" and "My baba" and "your maa" again.

I agree Dev lied before. He hid her medical condition, her pregnancy results. But for whom? There were no selfish motives there. He did for Sona.

Dev taking help from his mom and hiding it from Sona, I don't consider that as a big lie. Sona also hid her business venture with Dev. Did he ever complained why she lied to him?

I remember Sona once told Ishwari that she knows Dev better than anyone in their family. Sona knew how Vicky was. She also knew how mami is. She had seen her stealing money from Ishwar's room before their marriage. Problem here is she trusted a cheater Vicky over Dev. Why? Because she was angry with whatever happening in her life. That could be her family's pride, her infertility issue...

We don't know the real reason behind the hurtful words Dev used; whether it was intentional or said in anger. If I think logically or go by Dev's character, he will never say those words to her even in anger.

Dev and Sona had a fight before too. Even in Shimla, they were fighting and saying to each other why did they marry each other. All couples fight and move on. When we fight we say rude words..sometimes use words that hurts your partner though we don't really mean. But do you break your relation just because of that. I don't think so...

I will add the final words from Suchi's analysis - Sona loved Dev but lacked the trust & commitment needed to keep the relationship alive. She was not open to discuss things more rationally. Just followed her's parent's pride but failed to respect her own husband's feelings. She was daughter first, just like Dev.

well Said!!!! Jiyaa

Quote

1 2 3 4

Jan 13 KRPKAB episode analysis - well written - Page 3

Related Topics

Explore Topics